Kwixesha la mandulo, abazali kunye nentsikelelo yomyeni kwakuyimbopheleleko, ngaphandle kwakhe kwakungekho mntu uza kutshata. Namhlanje, lo mbhiyozo ulahlekelwe ukubaluleka kwawo, kodwa ke abaninzi abantu abasanda kutshata banomdla wokufumana iintsikelelo zabazali babo emtshatweni.
Iintsikelelo zabazali emtshatweni
Umvuzo weentsikelelo zabazali unamabanga amabini: ngaphambi komtshato (umbhalisi okanye umtshato) nangaphambi kokubhiyozelwa.
- Ngaphambi komtshato, umtshakazi nomyeni bafumana intsikelelo yabazali bomtshakazi. Kwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo emva kwentlawulelo, xa umyeni sele anqobile yonke imisebenzi ekhohlakeleyo aze afike kumtshakazi, kodwa ngaphambi kokushiya indlu yakhe. Ukuthotyelwa kwimeko yokugqibela kuyimfuneko - ubomi obutsha buya kuqala ngaphaya komda, ngoko intsikelelo yokuqala yesi sibini kufuneka ifumaneke ngaphambi kokushiya kwikhaya lomzali. Abazali bomtshakazi bathi amagama ahlula kunye nesifiso kwisibini esitshatileyo. Oku kuthathwa njengesigunyaziso sokuvunywa kwentombi ekhethiweyo, kungekhona nje isifiso sokonwabela ubomi. Intsikelelo yokuqala ingafunyanwa ngomhla womdlalo wokudlala. Kodwa namhlanje le nkcubeko ayigcinwa rhoqo, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abatsha banokufumana iintsikelelo ezimbini ngosuku lomtshato.
- Intsikelelo yesibini emtshatweni abasanda kutshata banokufumana kubazali bomyeni. Oku kwenzeka emva kokubuya kwi-REGISTRY (icawa) phambi kwendawo yokungena kwiholo okanye kumyeni womyeni. Abazali bomyeni basichaza amagama afudumele kwaye banqwenela ubomi obonwabileyo kulutsha olutsha. Abazali banokuvakalisa iintsikelelo zabo ngokuvuyisana ngexesha lokutya. Ingaba ngumbulelo wenkondlo okanye ibali malunga neempawu ezilungileyo zentombi (unyana), ekupheleni kokuba abazali bethetha ukuba abantwana babo baya kuqiniseka ukuba bayonwabile emtshatweni. Ngokwesiko, uyise womtshakazi kufuneka aqale ukuthetha, kodwa akusiyo yonke into eyenziwa ngabantu, ngoko ke kuvunyelwe ukuba indima yomlandeli ithathwa ngumama.
Iintsikelelo zabazali kwi-Orthodox
Kwizithethe zamaOthodoki, umvuzo wentsikelelo uyenzeka nakwizigaba ezimbini-imvume yokuqala evela kubazali bomtshakazi, kwaye ke unqwenela ulonwabo kubazali bomyeni.
- Ukuze ulungiselele i-rite ngokwesiko le-Orthodox, okokuqala kuyimfuneko ukufumanisa ukuba wonke umntu unqwenela uhlobo olunjalo lweentsikelelo. Kubalulekile ukuba sikhumbule ukuba abantu abakholwayo kuphela bathatha inxaxheba kwinkonzo yama-Orthodox. Ukuba abengabhaptizwanga, kufuneka babhaptizwe ngaphambi komtshato. Kuba intsikelelo kuya kubakho ukufumana iimpawu (ngokuba umtshakazi - uphawu lukaMama kaThixo, ngenxa yomyeni - uphawu lukaKristu uMsindisi). Kwiintsapho ezihlonipha izithethe zama-Orthodoxy ezinjalo zifa. Umtshakazi nomyeni mabaguqe ngetayileni, kwaye abazali bomtshakazi basichaze amagama entsikelelo baze benze le mithathu kathathu umnqamlezo we-icon phambi kwesi sibini. Emva komyeni kunye nomtshakazi ubanga kwaye uye kwiofisi yokubhalisa kunye netempile yomtshato.
- Emva kokubhaliswa komtshato, abasandul 'ukutshata bayasikelela ngabazali bomyeni. Ngaphambi kokungena kwindlu yokutya iholide umbhobho "iphepheni yenhlalakahle" usasazeka.
Ngaphambi kwendlela yomphephelo umama womyeni umi ngesonka kunye netyuwa ezandleni zakhe kunye noyise womyeni ephethe uphawu ezandleni zakhe. Umama osemncinci kumbhoxo, kunye noyise womyeni uyababasikelela nge icon kwaye athi amagama ahlukeneyo. Oko bathetha, abazali bayagqiba, into eyona nto kukuba amagama athi "nibonge, nithokoze, nifise" babekho entetho. Oku kwenziwa ngabazali bomyeni babonisa imvume yabo yomtshato baze bavakalise ithemba lokonwaba kwabo babini ebomini babo.
Iimpawu apho abancinane abasikelelwe khona zifakwe kwitafile ngexesha lokubhiyozela. Emva kwezi zixhobo ziya kubasandul 'ukutshata kwaye zibe yintsapho yokuhlala. Emva koko, ezi zixhobo zizuzwa ngabantwana.