Ukungcatshiswa komyeni kuwo onke amabhinqa kuyingozi kunye nokuxinezeleka, okubangela ukuba intukuthelo yokuqala kunye nentlungu, kwaye emva kokuzama ukuqonda, ukukhangela izizathu kunye nezisombululo kwingxaki. Kukho njalo kunokwenzeka ukuba ukwazi ukujamelana namava amaninzi kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi ngokuzimeleyo. Kwaye ukuba umfazi engakwazi ukujongana nenyaniso yokuba umyeni wakhe usitshintshile kwaye engazi indlela yokusinda ekungcatshweni, ngoko kufuneka aphendule kwi-psychologist.
Indlela yokusindiswa ukutshatyalaliswa kwendoda-iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo
Ukujongana noxinzelelo kunye nokunceda ukusukela ekungcatshweni kwendoda kubasetyhini abaninzi kunceda ukunxibelelana nabathandekayo, nangona bengenako ukunikela isisombululo kwingxaki, ukuxolisa, induduzo nokuqonda kukuxhaswa ngumoya. Kulo mbuzo wendlela yokusindiswa kokungcatshiswa komyeni wakhe, iingcebiso zeengqondo ze-psychologists zancitshiswa kwiingcebiso ezinjalo:
- Ukuhlangabezana nokuxinezeleka kokuqala, kufuneka uqonde ukuba inkokheli yamadoda ayisoloko ikhethiweyo kwelinye ibhinqa, ngamanye amaxesha libalekela kwiingxaki kunye nexesha eliqhelekileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo liphutha elingenangqondo, apho indoda engazange ikwazi ukuphuma nayo.
- Ngenyaniso yokungcatsha kwindoda, ngaphezu kwesigamu sabasetyhini abaya kuphila kwaye baze bathathe izifundo ezibalulekileyo kule meko ibuhlungu. Okokuqala, yamkela ukuba le meko imele ibe yodwa kwaye ingabi yodwa. Emva kwayo yonke into, nokuba intombi ephosakeleyo kufuneka ibhekane nokunyaniseka.
- Musa ukuqokelela ngokukhawuleza iifotukethi, okokuqala kufuneka uzimisele wena - ukuba umyeni usabathandwa kwaye ufuna, mhlawumbi kufunekile ukuphanda izizathu kunye neemeko zokungcatsha kwakhe. Ukunxibelelana ngokungaqhelekanga kunye nolunye uhlangothi olusisigxina ngothando luhlobo lweemeko ezimbini.
- Izizathu zokungathembeki zifihliwe kwiintsapho kunye nobudlelwane bezesondo, okufuneka ziqwalaselwe kwaye zihlaziywe, kwaye ngenxa yolu xwebhu incoko kunye neqabane. Kwintetho kunye nomyeni wakhe, musa ukuwa phantsi kwe-scandals, umfazi ozolile, onokulinganisela kunye noqhenyayo unokungqina ngakumbi kumntu. Xa eqonda ukuba unokuyilahleka, kukho ithuba lokwenene lokubuyisela ubudlelwane.
- Ukuba ukuxolelana akunakwenzeka, okanye umyeni akadibana naye, kubalulekile ukumbonisa ukuzithemba, amandla, ukuzineliseka nokuzimela. Njengomthetho, amadoda, asebenzise ukuxhomekeka komfazi, avumele ukuba baziphathe ngokungalunganga. Ngangaphi na unokuliva ibinzana elithi: "Akuyi kuhamba naphi na!" Kodwa kuyimfuneko kuphela ukubonisa ukuzimela kunye namandla omlingiswa, njengoko yonke i-aplomb ihamba njengothuli.
Iingcebiso ezichanekileyo kunye necacileyo malunga nokuba kulula kangakanani ukusinda ekungcatshweni kwendoda kufuneka zisekelwe kwimeko ethile, iimpawu ngamnye zomntu omtshato, uhlobo lolwalamano kwisibini esitshatileyo. Kukho nawuphi na, kwaye kuzo zonke izikhundla, ixesha lokuphumla linceda.
Ukuba kukho ithuba lokuya kwindawo ethile okanye ukushiya ixesha eliqhelekileyo indlu yokuhlala, ngelixa ungaqhekeki zonke izibophelelo kunye nokubeka ingongoma yokugqibela, kaninzi kunceda bobabini abatshatileyo ukuba baqoke iingcamango zabo, baqwalasele ngokucokisekileyo kwaye bahlaziye yonke imibuzo malunga nokuphila kwangaphambili nangomso.
Esikhundleni sokukhalisa iinyembezi nokukhangela iimpazamo ngaphakathi kwakho, kungcono ukuchitha eli xesha ukuguqula ngokwakho intanda. I-hairstyle entsha, ukuguqulwa komfanekiso, isitayela esitsha sokugqoka ihlala isinceda umfazi ukuba azive ethembele. Umyeni olahlekileyo, ekuboneni umfazi ohlaziyiweyo, ophumlileyo kunye ohlaziyekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba aqale kwakhona ukuphumelela.
Indlela yokusindisa ukunyeliswa komyeni wakhe kunye nomtshato?
Ukuba ukuxolelana akusebenzi kunye nokuqhawula umtshato, akubalulekiyo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba onke amabhinqa aqonde kwaye amkele iinkcukacha ezininzi:
- uqhawulo - oku akusiphelo lobomi, kodwa kuphela ukuphela kobudlelwane nomntu;
- ukuqhawula umtshato kuyithuba lokutshintsha ngokupheleleyo umfanekiso wakho nendlela yokuphila;
- kubafazi abaninzi, ukuqhawula umtshato uye waba ngumgqugquzeli kunye nokukhuthaza ukufezekisa impumelelo emitsha kwi-career, ukuziphucula;
- ukunqoba uxinzelelo lwengqondo nokukhathazeka kwengxaki yomtshato kuya kunceda izinto ezintsha zokuzonwabisa kunye nokuqhagamshelana nabantu abatsha - unokwenza imidlalo, ubhalise kwiklabhu, isangqa somtya okanye ufunde ulwimi lwangaphandle.
Into ephambili yokukhumbula kukuba unamathuba amaninzi okubonisa ubungqina bomntu ophosakeleyo ukuba wayephosakele kangakanani, elahlekelwe ngumfazi omhle kangaka.