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akakwazi ukulibala ...
Imeko eqhelekileyo? Ukuzisola okukhulu, umbuzo wendlela yokubuyisela umfana othandekayo awunqamuli omnye wabasetyhini abaselula. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo uyakhathazeka kwaye akhule ngokwaneleyo, abazithembekileyo nabanelisekile. Kwaye konke, njengokuba i-classic iboniswe ngokufanelekileyo, yonke iminyaka iyathobela ukuthanda. Masizame ukuqonda isinyathelo ngesinyathelo umbuzo: "Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuba ndibuyisele intanda yam?"
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukubuyisela othandekayo?
Kungenzeka ukuyibuyisela, kodwa kuyimfuneko? Kutheni ufanele uyibuyisele? Ngaba lo mntu uyintanda kwaye ufanelwe uthando lwakho? Ngaba uyakuthanda? (Ukuba awuyithandi, akunakwenzeka ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luya kugqitywa ngendlela oyifunayo.) Ukuba ufumene iimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo kwaye, kwiimeko ezininzi, zichanekile, lixesha lokuhla ukuya kwishishini kwaye khangela iindlela zokubuya.
Njengoko bethetha: "Hlanganisa i-wedges nge-wedge". Mhlawumbi, ngokuzihlolisisa isizathu sokuhlukana kwakho, uya kuqonda indlela onokubuyisela ngayo umhlobo wakho. Ukuba unetyala lokungahlali kunye, zama ukucela ukuxolelwa. Ukuxolisa akulula, kodwa ngothando, zonke iindlela zilungile. Yaye khumbula: akukho nto ihlazo kuba isinyathelo sokuqala senziwa intombazana, "iindaba zegogo"! Konke kusezandleni zakho. Kodwa musa ukunyamezela, akufuneki ukubiza "yangaphambili" ngemizuzu eyi-10, jonga emnyango uze uyigcwalise ngezinyembezi. Ndikholelwe, oku kuya kukhokelela kwimiphumo echasene ngokupheleleyo. Yaye akayi kubuya kuphela, kodwa uya kuzama ukukuphepha 10 ngendlela!
Indlela yokubuyisela umntu othandekayo-iingcebiso zesazi sengqondo
Eyona nto, ngombono wam, isiluleko esisebenzayo, khumbula ukuba uthandana nomfana. Khumbula into owawufana ngayo xa uqala ukudibanisa, kwaye waqala ukukhawuleza. Wakunikela njani iintyatyambo kwaye wayengeke akhathele ngokuhlwa ukuze akuxelele ukuncoma. Yiloo nto kwaye ukhumbule ngokucacileyo. Yintoni ayithandayo ngawe? Ziziphi iimpawu zakho zokubonakala kunye nomculo owawuhlabelela? Ngaba ushintshile ukususela ngaloo ndlela? Kuyimfuneko ukuba ibe yinto efanayo kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo uyamthanda naye! Kungenzeka, kufuneka nje uzame!
Kuthekani ukuba ungenzi nto? Oko kukuthi, ukwenza, okwenyani, kodwa ukudala ukukholelwa ukuba iqhinga livela kuye? Ngaba awuyiqondi? Khangela. Amadoda awona mzingeli, kwaye kufuneka afune ibhinqa, kwaye ayikho into enomdla xa ewela ezandleni zakhe. Uya kuba yinto efanayo, njengoko izazi zengqondo zicebisa, kwaye uza kubonisa ubomi obonwabileyo kunye nomntu oqinisekileyo. Yiyo kanye into ekumele ikubone xa "ngengozi" udibana nesitalato.
Omnye wabahlobo bam, ukuze abuyele umthandayo, wanquma ukuziphindisela aze ambonise lowo walahlekelwa nguye, kunye nendlela amanye amadoda ayemnakekela ngayo. Wammemela kwintlanganiso enobubele kwi-cafe, kwaye wafika apho kunye nomnye umntu. Ucinga ntoni na? Wavumela intanda yakhe ukuba ihlukane nayo kwenye, kwaye emva konyaka yatshata! Kunokuba awucebisi, ungabuyisela njani intanda yakho? Kodwa kufuneka uqaphele, mhlawumbi "eyakho", emva kwenguqu yezo ganeko, iya kulahleka ngonaphakade.
Kwimeko enye kuphela ayikho ithuba lokuba umthandi wakho uza kubuya - ukuba wazithandana nomnye umfazi. Emva koko, ukuze ungenzi kwaye ungaqulunqi, amathuba akho alinganayo. Kodwa unamandla, unako ukuma! Kwaye, mhlawumbi, uyazisola kakhulu ngelinye ilanga kuba engekho kuwe!