Xa abantu bephule, njengomthetho, bafuna isizathu sokuthi i-gap isisiseko. Ngamanye amaxesha sicinga ngale nto ngaphambili, kodwa emva kokuhlukana, ngokukodwa ukuba umqalisi wayengumntu. Nangona kunjalo, ngokusoloko kusilimaza ukuba sivume ukuba izizathu zokutshatyalaliswa kobudlelwane ziyavalwa kwaye, ngokubanzi, ziqikelelwe. Emva kwakho konke, ekuhloleni kobudlelwane bekubonakala ukuba onke la mabali ngokuphila kokubamba, ukungafani kwemimoya, iingxaki zemali - akukuthi ngawe. Uyazi kakuhle le mijelo kwaye wawukulungele. Kanti ... baleka into ethile. Kutheni abantu bephuka, kutheni abathandana benza isigqibo sokulibalelana kunye nokuphila ubomi bomnye ...
Ukuba ucela isibini esithile sangaphambili ukuba kutheni sahlukana, mhlawumbi uya kuva amabali ahlukeneyo njengeenkcazo. Kodwa phantse rhoqo entliziyweni yokwahlukana, kukho enye yezizathu ezibini:
- Ukungathobeli ukulindela. Ukuwela emthandweni nomntu esifanele sifunde kuphela, thina, njengomthetho, simnike ngokuzenzekelayo iimpawu ezithile. Ngendlela, akayi kuba nefa. Kodwa kamva, xa ufunda umntu, kunengqondo "yokukhohlisa" kunye nokudumala, okwenza ikhefu elikhulu kwibudlelwane. Oku kuyinyaniso ngokukhethekileyo kwabasetyhini abangafuni ukuzidibanisa nelokuba umthandayo unelungelo lokuba ngokwakhe, kwaye uzama ukutshintsha isiqingatha sesibini. Ukungabikho kokulindela kubangela ukuxabana ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo: ezezimali, zesondo, zasekhaya.
- Ukungakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo. Ikhwele, izikhalazo eziqokelelwayo - ngokungakwazi ukunika indlela yokuphuma kwamandla angenamandla, konke oku kuqokelela kwaye kutyhutyha ngohlobo lweengxabano ezibuhlungu ze-scandals kunye ne-nit-pickers. Ngeli xesha, abantu bakuthola kunzima ukuqonda ngokwaneleyo
imeko, i-negative ikhula njengebhola lebhola. Imvakalelo engebiyo - into eqhelekileyo, kwaye yenzeke kuyo yonke intsapho, kodwa apho umsi, uthetha ngomfuziselo, uphuma ngeqhina, ngelixa abanye lizalisa indlu ...
Ukuphazamiseka, ukuvakalelwa, okanye ukuhlambalaza okugqithiseleyo kunalo uthando, kuye kwabangela ukuba isibini sakho sineendlela ezimbini ezahlukeneyo, kubalulekile ukuqonda indlela enokuzibandakanya kakuhle ngayo nomntu othandekayo kuwe. Kufuneka uzihloniphe ngethuba xa wenze le khetho, oko kuthetha - kunye nesiqingatha, okwenzeka ngokukhawuleza kungekhona. Zama ukuziqonda wena kunye naye. Ukuxolela ukunqumla umthamo wentambo kunye nokungafuni. Ndiyabulela ngamava, kwaye ndikunqwenela unonwabo ...