Abantu abaninzi banomdla kulo mbuzo, nokuba uthando lunokwenzeka kude, balinde imiyalelo kunye neengcebiso kwi-psychologist. Kodwa kambe umbhali omangalisayo uPprin watsho amagama achanekileyo, awamiselwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngexesha. Ngenxa yokuthanda ukwahlukana - okufana nomoya welangatye: uthando olubuthathaka-luya kucima, kwaye i-bigger izakufaka ngamandla ngakumbi.
Uthando ekude - wenzeni?
Kunzima kakhulu kwaye bubuhlungu ukuhlukana kwiintliziyo ezimbini zothando. Ngenxa yokuba kukho rhoqo umnqweno wokubonana, ukuva, ukuwamkela, ukumanga. Kodwa ekubeni imeko yobomi iphuhliswe ngendlela efunekayo ukuba senze ixeshana ixesha, ngoko kuya kufuneka simkele kwaye sinqobe lo vavanyo.
Kunzima kakhulu ukuba uqaphele ukwahlukana okubonakalayo kumthandayo, kwaye ngelo xesha akangekho. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba uchitha ixesha lakho ndawonye ngaphambi kokuhlukana.
Ngaphambi kokuhlukana kufuneka uxoxe ngokuzahlukana kwexesha elizayo, qaphela ukuba kukho ubuncinane ithuba elilodwa lokulondoloza uthando lwakho, ngaba kukho nayiphi na inzuzo kunye nolwaphulo lolwalamano olunjalo.
Umgama - ungathinteli uthando
Ngaba uthando lunokwenzeka kude - lunokwenzeka, kodwa kwimeko:
- Uthando onalo luhlangeneyo kwaye luphelele, nobukho besini. Ngethuba lethu, abantu abaselula badla ngokumemeza ngengqondo ephezulu ngaphandle kokuvavanya. Ukuthetha omnye nomnye ngothando, musa ukudibanisa ngothando. Inzondelelo kunye nothando zivakalelwa ngokupheleleyo. Ngaphandle kokuthandana, ubudlelwane obukude alukwazi ngokupheleleyo. Ngokuphathelele isondo, ukuba ungenayo, akukho nto ikubophayo, ngoko ixesha elifutshane ulibale ngokuhlala komnye nomnye.
- Uyazi ngokuthe ngqo ukuba yiliphi ixesha olwahlukana ngalo, i.e. umhla weentlanganiso ezilandelayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kubaluleke kakhulu kumzuzwana wengqondo. Ukwazi umhla wokufika komntu othandekayo, kulula ukulinda. Uyabona ukuba ixesha elingakanani ngaphambi kweentlanganiso zakho. Amantombazana amaninzi anqwenela ukucinga ngolu hlobo malunga nomhla oza kudlula emva kokuhlukana okude, kwaye bahlala becinga imihla ngaphambi kokuba babuyele.
- U kholose omnye nomnye. Ngaphandle kokuthembela, awuyi kuphumelela, umgama uya kubulala uthando. Ukususela ekuqaleni, umona uya kuqala, oza kuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwiingxabano nokuhlambalazana. Kwaye ukuxabana rhoqo kuya kukhokelela ekuphuleni ngokupheleleyo ubudlelwane.