NgesiNgesi, igama elithi "ukuhlaziywa kwexabiso" kukho isifaniselo, esichaza ngokuthe ngqo "njengokufuna umphefumlo." Oku kunjalo ngokwenene: inkqubo yemigangatho yomntu inquma ukukhetha kwakhe ubomi, imisebenzi kunye nemeko.
Ukuhlaziywa kwemilinganiselo yokuphila akuyona into elula, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ngumzamo omnandi. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba lixesha lokuyeka nokuhlaziywa imigaqo yobomi bakho, izicebiso ezilandelayo ziyakunceda.
Misa isikhashana
Okokuqala, vumela ukuba "unqabile". Ukuba imimiselo endala ayisayi kusebenza kwaye kukho into ephosakeleyo kubo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo-ukuthatha ikhefu, cinga kwaye uguquke kwakhona.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngendlela, uye ezintabeni okanye elwandle ukuze ucinge ngawe, elidlulileyo kunye nekamva. Ukuba oku akunakwenzeka, qhubeka uqhubeka ukwenza imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla, kodwa ushiye indawo kunye nexesha lokucinga nokuphumula. Umntu, ukhathele umzimba kunye nokuziphatha, akakwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezinengqiqo.
Lapha Noku
Ingxaki yokuhlaziywa kwakhona kokubaluleka kokomoya kunye nezinto eziphathekayo ngokuchanekileyo indlela yokukwazi ukwabelana ngamaqhinga kunye nesicwangciso. Abantu abaninzi bathi "ukuhlaziywa" inzame yokutshintsha isigqithiso sobomi okanye ukuphosa into ephazamisayo. Musa ukucinga ngantoni nje into oyifunayo, kodwa nangenxa yoko kutheni ufuna. Yintoni efuneka ukuba ubomi bakho emva kokuzalisekisa le mnqweno ?
Ukucinga malunga noko ubona ubomi bakho kwikamva, zibuze imibuzo embalwa ehamba phambili. Yintoni ofuna ukuyenza njengomntwana? Ingaba le nto iphupha langoku ngoku? Yintoni oyayixabisa ngokwenene kwaye ufuna ukujonga njani imo elisondeleyo? Ziziphi amandla akho? Kwaye umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu - bubuthathaka bakho, kwaye ungasetyenziselwa njani ukuphucula ubomi bakho?
Zonke ezi mpendulo ziya kugqityaniswa zibe nye, kwaye zibaluleke kakhulu: kutheni uhlala nonke?