Ukukholisa umntu kuthetha ukuqinisekiswa komntu. Sonke, ngenye indlela okanye enye, sifuna ukunqoba. Naluphi na umsebenzi esizibekela wona, nokuba kukufumana imvume, utshintshe isimo sengqondo somntu, ukwenza isigqibo-impumelelo kuxhomekeke ekubeni sikhulu kangakanani amandla ethu okukholisa. Ekubeni sithembele ekufumanekeni kwale khono, sifuna ukuqonda ubuchule bokukholisa.
Olunye ulwazi
Iingcebiso kunye nokukholisa ezinye zeendlela eziqhelekileyo zempembelelo yengqondo kumntu. Ngokungafani nenkolelo, isiphakamiso sichasene nenani elincinci leengxabano. Umnxibelelwano, njengomthetho, ukholelwa iingxoxo ngaphandle kobufakazi. Konke kuxhomekeke ekubeni kubaluleke kangakanani malunga neengxabano zakho, ngokwezinga lokuzimisela ukukholelwa nokwamkela ulwazi. Ngenxa yoko, isiphakamiso sibe ngumlinganiselo wangaphakathi womntu, kamva kamva uvakalelwa njengowakhe. Ikhoboka, abantu abanobuthakathaka bakhawuleza banqabile ukusikisela kunye nokukholelwa. Nangona kunjalo, eli lizayo lifuna umgudu onzima.
Inkqubo yokukholisa isekelwe kwiinyaniso. Iingxelo zakho kufuneka ziqikelelwe kwaye zicaciswe ngokucacileyo. Ukukholelwa, njengommiselo, abo bantu abangenayo isiluleko esilula, banalo mbono ochasene nesihloko esicatshulweyo. Abantu abanjalo badinga ulwazi oluninzi. Bafuna kwakhona ubungqina bokuthembeka.
Lowo unayo ulwazi - ungumnini wehlabathi. Ngako oko, ukuze ukwazi ukuphumelela ingxabano, kulula ukukholisa abantu kwaye ube ngumnxibelelanisi onomdla, umntu kufuneka abe nokuphuhliswa rhoqo, "uzalise" ngokwakhe, ukondla ngolwazi olutsha kwaye unomdla kwizinto ezikujikelezayo.
Imigaqo kunye nobuchule
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba indlela yokukholisa ayifumani iimpawu zobundlobongela kwaye ayithathi ifom yokunyanzelisa, kubalulekile ukukhumbula imithetho ethile:
- ugcine umyalelo weengxoxo ezichaziweyo. Sebenzisa icebo elilandelayo: iingxabano ezinamandla-iingxoxo zamandla aphakathi-enye, kodwa inamandla kakhulu;
- ukufumana impendulo efanelekileyo kumbuzo obaluleke kakhulu ukuba uyibeke endaweni yesithathu. Buza i-interlocutor yakho imibuzo emibini elula kunye nelula, apho unokuphendula ngokulula "Ewe." Ezi ziyimpawu zengqondo yabantu. Ndavume nawe kabini - yesithathu "Ewe" ufumana "kumatshini";
- Nika ithuba kumnxibelelanisi ukuba "ugcine ubuso". Musa ukuhlambalaza okanye ukuhlazisa umntu;
- vumela ukuvakalisa uluvo lwakho kwaye ukwazi ukuphulaphula;
- ube ngumhlobo othandekayo;
- efuna ukukholisa umntu, qalisa oko uvumelana naye;
- Ukubethelela ixesha elihle lomnxibelelwano wakho kwaye uzame ukunciphisa ukubonakaliswa kwawo okubi.
Amacandelo angentla angakunceda kwinkqubo yokukhohlisa umchasi wakho. Idumela lakho, umfanekiso kunye nokuzithemba ngabancedisi abaphambili kule ngxaki enzima. Inhlanhla!