Kungekudala, isihloko samabhinqa aqinileyo sele sithandwa kakhulu, ngasinye sesibini sizama ukubonisa ukuba unokwenza konke okukhoyo kumadoda. Kuphela ngoku, kungekhona wonke umntu owaziyo ukuba abe ngumfazi oqinileyo, enokukholwa ukuba oko kuyimfuneko ukujongana nomsebenzi onzima kunabo bonke. Ngokwemvelo, indlela enjalo ayifuni nantoni na into enhle, umzimba wesetyhini awuklanyelwe yimithwalo enjalo. Ngako oko, siya kuthetha malunga nendlela yokomelela emoyeni, indlela yokuhlakulela isimilo somntu, endaweni yokunqoba iprofeto "yesilisa" yokugqibela kwisini esomeleleyo.
Indlela yokuba ngumfazi oqinileyo?
Musa ukucinga ukuba yonke into eyisiqalo, ukuba yomelele iya kufuneka isebenze kakhulu. Kodwa umphumo uyayifaneleka, kuba ukuba ulawula ukuqina ngamandla, iingxaki ezininzi ebomini bakho bomntu kunye nobungcali ziya kuphelelwa ukuba zifaneleke. Ngokwemvelo, awukwazi ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza, uza kuzuza ngokukhawuleza ukufumana imikhwa efanelekileyo eya kuthi ibe yinto esekelwe kuyo ngamandla akho.
- Amantombazana amaninzi ayayiqondi indlela yokomelela, ecinga ukuba abayi kuba nomoya okwaneleyo ukuthatha inyathelo eliqinileyo. Kodwa akukho nto ongayenza ukuze ube namandla, kufuneka unqobe iintshaba zakho zangaphakathi, ezaziwa ngabantu bonke - ubuvila, ukwesaba, ukuzingca, ukunyaniseka kunye neentloni. Ukufumana indlela yokuzinqoba ngayo, unokuba ngumntu onamandla.
- Ukuqwalasela izinto ezincinci, ungathathi ngokukhawuleza uyilo lobomi bakho. Ngokomzekelo, gqiba ukutshintsha inkqubo yemihla ngemihla, yenza isicwangciso somhla, qalisa ukwenza imisebenzi. Kukhawuleza akufuneki ukuba uye ekunqobeni ihlabathi.
- Ukukhangela indlela yokuba ngumfazi oqinileyo, jonga abo sele bephumelele. Bahlukile, kodwa bonke bayazi indlela yokuzicingela. Kunzima kunene, kodwa kulungele ukuba ufunde, ngaphandle kombono waloo mqathango, akukho mbuzo wobuchule obunjani. Ngoko ke, fundani ukuqonda iinyaniso, ubuze nayiphi na ingcaciso kunye neengcebiso zonke, musa ukuqhubeka malunga negunya - nabo bantu, kwaye baphosakele. Kungcono ukuvumela ukungahambi kakuhle kwakho kunokuphindaphinda omnye umntu.
- Thatha umkhwa wokuzisa zonke iziganeko ekupheleni, ungalindelanga ukuphonsa nantoni na.
Makuyeke ukuba niphumelele ngokukhawuleza, nithathe amanyathelo amancinci imihla ngemihla, niqhubeke nokuya phambili. - Ungayomeleza njani emoyeni, ungayazi indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zakho? Ngokuchanekileyo, ngaphandle kokukwazi ukuqokelela nokujonga imeko leyo ngengqondo ecocekileyo ngaphandle kwemizwa engadingekile, akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Ngoko-ke, zifunde ukuzilawula, qhubeka ukhuthazela kunye nokuzinza xa wenza izigqibo.
- Ubungqina bemizimba bubonisa isibindi, ngoko ungaba neentloni ukuxhasa zakho iinkolelo, ungayithobeli ingqalelo yabo. Musa nje ukukhawuleza ekugqibeleni - kufuneka uphulaphule iimpikiswano zabanye, kunye nokuvavanya ukulungelelanisa kwabo, bazama ukunyamekela.
Akunzima ukuqeqesha umlingiswa, ngoko uncede, usethe imisebenzi, ngexesha "unokukhupha" iimpawu ezingekho kakuhle. Gxotha iingcamango zokungaphumeleli, kholelwa kwimpumelelo, kodwa uvavanye iimpumelelo zakho.