UkuNxibelelana okungabonakaliyo

Nsuku zonke umntu uthatha inxaxheba kubomi bentlalo yabantu abakujikelezile. Nawuphi na umzamo wokunxibelelana unokukhokelela ekuphumeleleni kwinjongo ethile, ukuseka umnxibelelwano kunye nomnxibelelwano, ukufumana umgangatho oqhelekileyo, ukuwanelisa isidingo soqhagamshelwano, njl. Kuyaziwa ukuba ukukhulumisana yinkqubo ngexesha lokungena ngolwazi olwenza ukuba kuphuculwe ukukhulumisana.

Kukho ukunxibelelana ngomlomo nangengomlomo. Masiqwalasele ngokubanzi iinkcukacha zefomu yokugqibela.

Ngoko, ukuthetha okungengomlomo kukuziphatha komntu, ukubonakalisa uhlobo lokusebenzisana kunye nesimo sengqondo sabo bobabini abanxibelelana nabo. Iindlela zokuthetha zonxibelelwano zingabonakali kwi-hairstyle, gait, izinto ezizungeze umntu, njl. Konke oku kuncedisa ekuqondeni okungcono imeko yangaphakathi yomnxibelelwano wakho, imizwa yakhe, iimvakalelo kunye neenjongo.

Iintlobo zokunxibelelana okungengomlomo

Olu hlobo loqhagamshelwano luquka iinkqubo ezintlanu:

1. Khangela.
2. Isikhundla sendawo.
3. I-Optical-kinesthetic (ubuso buso, ukubonakala komnxibelelwano, i-pantomime).
4. Ukuthetha-kufuphi (intetho yezwi, iimpawu zezwi, isiqu).
5. Ukungaphandle kwentetho (ukuhleka, ukuhamba kwentetho, ukuyeka).

Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba iintlobo ezingekho ngento zokunxibelelana ziquka:

1. Ukuziphatha kakubi komnxibelelwano. Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zaqinisekisa ukuba wonke umntu ngexesha lokunxibelelana usebenzisa iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuthintela abadibanisa nabo. Ngoko, uhlobo ngalunye lokuthintela lunomlingiswa othile, ukubaluleka. Ngokusemgangathweni, lo mqathango uhlukaniswe ngo: isithethe, uthando, uqeqesho kunye nobungane. Umntu usebenzisa uhlobo oluthile lokuthintela ukuphucula okanye ukunciphisa inkqubo yokunxibelelana.
2. I-Kinesika luluhlu lwezithuba, imiqondiso, isenzo esisetyenziswe njengendlela ecacileyo yolwimi lomzimba. Into eyona nto ibalulekileyo yeembono, ubuso bomzimba, ukunyamezela, ukuziphatha okuvela kwimvelaphi yentlalo kunye nemvelo.
3. I-Sensorics. Isekelwe kwimbonakalo yenyama ngokobuqiniso ngayo wonke umntu. Isimo sakhe sengqondo malunga nomnxibelelwano sisekelwe ekuveleleni kweengqondo (ukubonwa kokuhlanganiswa okuvakalayo, ukuvakalelwa kwintetho, ukushisa okuvela kumnxibelelanisi, njl.).
4. Iikronemics kukusetyenziswa kwexesha ngexesha lokunxibelelana okungengomlomo.
5. Iindlela zokunxibelelana ezingabonakaliyo zibandakanya iiproxim. Olu hlobo lusekelwe ekusebenziseni ubudlelwane bendawo. Oko kukuthi, umphumo wemida, intsimi kwinkqubo yobudlelwano bobudlelwane. Kukho intlalo, esondelene, eyakho, indawo yoluntu yokunxibelelana ngokungathethi.
6. Ukunxibelelana kwe-Paraverbal kuxhomekeka kwizwi elixubileyo, isingqisho sayo, intetho, apho umnxibelelwano udibanisa le ngcaciso, njl.

Izixhobo zokunxibelelana ngokungathethi

Ikakhulukazi kumgcini-mgcini yindlela yokuziphatha engabonakaliyo ibonakaliswa ngokuzimela kwayo, iindawo ezihamba phambili zokunyakaza, ukungazibandakanyeki ngaphezu kokuziqonda, ngokungabonakaliyo. Isimo, ukungabandakanyekanga, ukuhlanganiswa (ukubonakalisa ukuziphatha komnxibelelwano kunzima ukubola kwizinto ezihlukeneyo) - konke oku kwenza izixhobo ekunxibelelaneni okungengomlomo.

Imizekelo yokunxibelelana ngamagama

Kwenzeke ukuba xa umntu ongumFrentshi okanye umTaliyane ecinga ukuba ingcamango ethile ayinanto, uyisidenge, ngoko uya kuzibetha ngesandla sebunzini lakhe. Ngaloo nto utsho ukuba unxibelelwano wakhe wahamba, wanikela oku. Kwaye iSpaniard okanye iBrithani, ngokufanayo, ibonakalisa ukwaneliseka kunye naye njengomntu.

Ukuzivocavoca zokunxibelelana ngamagama

1. Uqeqesho lokuqala luqhutyelwa kwiqela okanye kwibini. Omnye inxaxheba "ngumzekisi". Uqulunqa "izinto eziphathekayo" ezizithobayo (umzimba womntu kufuneka uthathe isikhundla esinjalo sokuba isikhundla sakhe siqhelekileyo kumntu obonisa oko). I-oda lakho lomlingani uthabathe indawo ethile. Ngelo xesha "isikhundla" sitshintshela de "umdwebi" unelisekile ngesiphumo.
2. Umsebenzi wakho kukuqinisekisa indlela ozive ngayo kuzo zombini iindima, ozifundileyo ngawe, udibaniselwano sakho. Ngayiphi injongo unokusebenzisa ulwazi olufunyenweyo?
3. Ufuna uncedo lomntu omnye. Thatha iphepha elincinci lephepha, amabini amacwecwe aneengxaki. Musa ukuthetha. Umntu ngamnye othatha inxaxheba kwiphepha udweba umbala wemibala, apho incoko iqala khona. Ngenye indlela, wena kunye nomnxibelelwano wakho udweba amanqaku.
4. Lo msebenzi uzokunika ithuba lokuqonda iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo, imizwa, ukuqonda ngokuvisisana nomlingane ngaphandle kokusebenzisa amagama.
5. Yiya ubuncinci babantu ababini. ImiSebenzi ibhalwa kwiimakhishithi (umzekelo, "ukuhleka into ethile ..", "ukuyeka into ...", njl.). Abathathi-nxaxheba badonsa kwizabelo zokujika. Musa ukucinga ngesisombululo esibhaliweyo. Abathathi-nxaxheba basebenzisa yonke into ngaphandle kokuthetha ngomlomo. Ngaloo ndlela, lo msebenzi wenza ukuba ukwazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho ngokucacileyo.

Ngoko, iindlela zokuthetha zonxibelelwano zithethwa ngentsingiselo ekhethekileyo xa kuthelekiswa nokuthetha ngomlomo. Ngokufunda olu lwimi, uya kukwazi ukufumana ulwazi oluthe nkcukacha ngokumalunga nomnxibelelwano wakho.