Ukunxibelelana ngempumelelo nomntu kunqunywe ukuba uyazi ukuba ufunde njani ukuqonda abantu. Emva kwakho konke, ukuqonda ngubani ojongana nayo yonke imihla, othemba kakhulu kakhulu, ukukwazi ukubona imaski ebonakalayo ngexesha lidlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Ngokumangalisayo, kodwa ukubona ubuso obunene bomntu bulula, into ephambili - umonde kunye nokukwazi ukugcina.
Ukukwazi ukuqonda abantu yinto yesayensi yonke. Kunceda ukufumana indlela eya kumntu ngamnye. Le nzu lulwazi lisifundisa indlela yokwamkela amaxesha athile kwaye aqondakaliyo kunye neqabane lethu, ukuqonda imigaqo yokuphila kunye neempawu zabanye abantu. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuze kuqondwe abanye, njengoko kuphawulwe yiNapoleon Hill, isazi seengqondo seMerika, umntu kufuneka afunde: imbono yomntu, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela, ukukhethwa kwamagama, ubunjani kunye nesalathiso, isithintelo sezwi, ithoni yayo kunye nokuphakama.
Kwaye ukuze uqonde indlela yokuqonda abantu, kuyimfuneko ukufundisisa: xa umntu ethukuthele, xa exakeke ngezoshishino, xa ebhala, xa ethanda, xa efumana ubunzima obunzima ebomini bakhe, xa ekhuluma ngeengxaki zabanye abantu okanye xa kwenzeka ngeempumelelo zabanye , xa umntu eyedwa kwaye ecinga.
Ngaphambi kokuba ufumane izigqibo malunga nokuba ngumntu onjani ngokwenene, umele umlindele, ngoku kuchazwe ngasentla. Oku kwakhona kuqinisekisa ukuba akunakunqwenela ukugweba umntu ukusuka kwimbono yokuqala.
Imithetho yokuqonda abantu
I-Psychology, ijolise indlela yokufunda ukuqonda abantu, icebisa ukuphulaphula imithetho eyintloko yokuqonda abanye abantu:
- Iimvakalelo neemvakalelo. Njengoko uyazi, kukho abantu abaneemvakalelo eziphakamileyo kunye eziphantsi. Ukunxibelelana nabantu abaneemvakalelo, musa ukulibala ukuba kufuneka baphulaphule. Kubo, njengomoya, wabelana ngokuthini. Ba phu laphule. Akuyi kuba yinto enqabileyo xa wenza ngathi uphulaphule. kodwa musa ukunyamekela kumava abo. Abantu abangekho bemiva besetyenziselwa ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo ngokwahlukileyo, ngoncedo lwengcamango. Ungesabi ukubuza abantu abanjalo ngoluvo lwabo. Baqhube kwibali leempendulo.
- Umoya. Abantu abanesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo bahlobo lomthombo wobutyebi kwabanye. Umntu oqonda into efihlekileyo ekufihlekeni komnye umntu, njengomntu owaziyo kwiwayini. Ukususela kumzuzu wokuqala unokuqonda ukuba ngubani onokuthenjwa, kwaye ngubani ofuna ukunciphisa unxibelelwano kumncinci. Kubalulekile ukunxibelelana nabantu abanomdla ngokubakhuthaza nje yonke imini. Ungalibali ukumncoma. Ungalibali ukuba ukuba kukho umntu phambi kwakho ohlala ehlala ehle, ke kunokukho into engalunganga kule nto. Okanye uphosa umsindo wakhe komnye umntu.
- I zicelo. Ukuba emva kokumazi, umhlobo wakho uqala ukukuhlamba ngezicelo, ezininzi zazo ezingenakulungeleka kuwe, kubalulekile ukuyiqwalasela. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanqunywanga ngeenombolo ezininzi zezicelo eziziwayo ezingaqhelekanga.
- Impembelelo. Kwimeko apho, emva kokunxibelelana okufutshane, uqaphela ukuba umntu uzama ukukunika nayiphi na
uxinzelelo, ukunyanzelisa ukuba wenze into, ngaphandle kwesifiso sakho, kufuneka uxoxe naye ngaye. Impendulo yakhe kwisicelo sakho sencoko kule ngxaki iya kuba yimpendulo eyintloko, nokuba kunjalo. Ixesha elichithwe kunye. Xa uyamkela umntu njengomntu omaziyo, oko akufanele ukugxininisa ingqalelo yakho. Kodwa, ukuba ucinga ukuba ungumhlobo wakho, qwa lasela ukuba uhlala ubona, uthetha. Okanye lo mntu uzama ukuphepha ukuhlangana okanye uzame ukuyeka ingxoxo ngokukhawuleza. - Inzala. Ukuba uqaphele ukuba umnxibelelwano wakho uzama zonke iindlela zokukukopisha, xelisa, kwaye kwinkampani enkulu ichaza ukuba uneminye iminqweno engafani neyakho, ngoko unokubambisa ukuba ngubani othetha naye.
Ukuqonda abantu ubuchule obuhle, luncedo kakhulu ebomini. Emva kwakho konke, kuxhomekeke ekubeni unako ukubona injongo enyanisekileyo kunye ne "I" yomntu, kuxhomekeke kwimeko enokuthi uya kuba nayo nokuba uya kuba nako abantu abanokuvela kwiminithi yokuqala.