Xa umntu uthi le ntombazana inomdla, ubeka ingcaciso yakhe ngcamango. Nangona kunjalo, nangona kunjalo, isithethi sichaza uhlobo oluthile lwahlukileyo kwabanye.
Indlela yokuba intombazana ehlakaniphile neyintlekele kwabanye?
Ukwenza oku kwenzeke, kufuneka ube nempawu ezininzi:
- ukunyamekela abanye ngokwaneleyo, kodwa kungabikho nto;
- ekunxibelelaneni nabantu - abanobubele nabanobubele;
- ukuba kuyadingeka, sikwazi ukuxhasa iingxoxo ngezihloko ezahlukahlukeneyo, ukubonisa ulwazi lwabo kwimibandela eyahlukeneyo;
- zigcine ngesithunzi, ngaphandle kokuhlazisa abanye.
Ukuba awunayo impawu enamandla yekhokeli, kwaye iimvakalelo aziyiyo yonke imiphumo yeziganeko ezimnandi, kodwa ukhathazeke ngombuzo wendlela yokuba intombazana enomdla, kuya kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho:
- ukufunda ukuphulaphula nokuva oko akufani;
- ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, kungekhona nje into engalunganga, kodwa ikhuthaze;
- Jonga ukubonakala kwakho, ukuba ukhange ngokwaneleyo kunye neyokuqala, kodwa kungabonakali.
Akunakuze uzingcungcuthele nombuzo wendlela yokuthakazelisa kumadoda, ukuba loo ntokazi ayinhle kuphela, kodwa ihlakaniphile. Okokuthi, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwingxoxo nabo ngeenyawo ezilinganayo, ngaphandle kokulibala ukuyeka ngexesha, kwaye ungabandakanyeki kwiingxabano ezide kunye nelizwi kule nto okanye loo ngxaki - amadoda ayithandi. Yonke into ifanele ibe ngokumodareyitha: ukupheka, imvakalelo , inkululeko yokunxibelelana. Ukugqitywa kwelinye kwaye kwelinye icala lonakalisa.
Indlela yokwenza umdla kumyeni?
Kodwa yinto enye yokuvusa umdla wabalingane emsebenzini, abahlobo, abamelwane. Omnye kukuthakazelisa kumyeni wakho. Oku kufuna kakhulu, kunye ncinane ngexesha elifanayo:
- khumbula ukuba awuyena umlawuli, kodwa indoda ayikho phantsi kwakho;
- uyazi malunga nokuzilibazisa kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa zeqabane kwaye musa ukumnciphisa ithuba lokwenza oko akuthandayo;
- ukuba nomdla kwiingxaki zomyeni wakhe kwaye abonise umnqweno wokumnceda okanye, ubuncinane, ukuphulaphula nokuvalela;
- Yazi oko umyeni onomdla kuye kwaye ubuncinane unokuqonda oku oku, ukuxhasa incoko.