Ubomi abufaneleki nje kuphela ngexesha elihle. Ukuze sivale uvuyo esiyidingayo ukuze sibe namava ahlukileyo. Zonke zifundwa ngokuthelekiswa. Ngaphandle kokubuhlungu, asiyi kuqonda ukuba yintoni inceba. Intlungu iphakamisa intlawulo yolonwabo. Into ephambili ayiyikuxhoma kwiingcinga ezimbi. Siza kuthetha malunga nendlela yokujongana nabo kwaye sigxininise ngezinto ezilungileyo namhlanje.
Loo mntu
Ngokuqhelekileyo kunokwenzeka ukudibana nomntu ongenakuphila ngaphandle kokubandezeleka. Uhlobo lomuntu oluchukumisayo. Abantu abanjalo, njengomthetho, bavusa iingxaki zabo. Bavame 'ukuphefumula' ngokwabo, ukunyanisela zabo iingxaki. Bahlala becinga, bahlalutya, bakha abantu babo ngokubonakala kweso siqhelo kwaye "bahluthelwa" yiziintlungu zabo.
Umntu ogxininisekile akaphindi umgomo wokuba novelwano novelwano. Kukhululekile ukuba aphile "kwihlabathi" alidalileyo. Naliphi na umzamo wokubangela ukuba uncedo olungakumbi kulo luya kubangela ukucasuka. Ekulahleni kweengcamango ezimbi, lo mntu akayidingi. Kungcono ukuzikhusela ekunxibelelaneni naye, ukuze "ungenwasuleleka".
Siyakhumbula imiphumo
Cinga ngendlela ongayichitha ngayo ingcamango engafanelekanga ukuba awufuni ukuba yixhoba lemiphumo emibi:
- ukunganakwa kunye nokudandatheka;
- iziphazamiso zesistim somdla;
- zifo;
- iingxaki zokulala;
- ubunzima bokuthetha nabantu.
Nawuphi na umonakalo, uqinisekiswe ngcamango zethu malunga nawo, ubangela ingozi enkulu kwimpilo yengqondo kunye nempilo. Ukugxininisa kwizinto ezimbi, ukuzithemba akuzongezwa, amathuba okuphumelela nakweyiphi na ishishini liwa ngokukhawuleza, umntu akabangela ukuba abanye banqwenele ukuthetha naye. Njengomthetho, kuyinto enomdla kakhulu ukuba sincokole ngokuzithemba, ezithandekayo kunye nobungqina obuqinileyo, ukulungelelanisa umtsalane ofanelekileyo, onako ukusinika inzuzo yabo.
Owesifazane okhulelwe, ngaphambi kokuba athembele ekukhohlakalweni kwexesha elizeleyo kwaye amgxeka ngokulondeka kwakhe, okokuqala, kufuneka azijonge. Izinkumbulo ezibuhlungu zentsebenziswano engaphumelelanga ngaphambili, ukungathembeki nomsindo kubantu - zonke iingcamango zakhe 'zifundwa' ngabantu. Ukubona ebusweni bomfazi "ubandezelekileyo behlabathi" abamele isigxina esinamandla baqhutyelwa kumacala. Owesifazane oqaqambileyo, onokuzithemba, ovulelekile kwizinto ezintsha kunye nokulungele ukuthembela kunye nenkxaso, unokukhangela umntu ophumelelayo kunye onokuvuya. Yiloo nto, kwaye kuyafaneleka ukucinga.
Ukuphepha ukunyaniseka, amava rhoqo angabangela "ukuphazamiseka" emisebenzini yomzimba. Ezi zifo ezifana ne-asthma, i-neurosis, i-oncology inokubonakala njengesiphumo soxinzelelo. Uyakhuthazwa ngcamango engathandekiyo. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuzisusa:
- zama ukuhamba ngokungahambi kwiingcinga ezimbi. Fumana enye indawo yokuxhasa iingcamango zakho, ngokukhawuleza uya kulibala ngexesha elibi;
- ukuphumla isikhashana kwaye uzama ukujamelana neengxaki xa sele sele "buthathaka" engqondweni yakho. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zazimisela ukuba kungcono ukulwa iingcamango ezingekho emva kwemizuzu engama-30, ebizwa ngokuba "ixesha lokuzonwabisa". Emva kokulinda eli xesha, ukuphelisa isifo sengqondo kuya kunika umphumo omkhulu;
- zama ukugxila kwingxaki, cinga ngako
wakhe. Kwengqondo, kukho imizekelo emininzi yokuphelisa ngempumelelo ukwesaba ngoncedo lendlela. Unokuba ukhathala ngokucinga ngento embi, okanye uyaqonda ukuba ugxininisa ukubaluleka kwayo; - maxa wambi kulula ukwamkela imeko kunokujongana nayo. Shintsha isimo sakho sengxaki kwingxaki;
- usebenzise i-yoga okanye ucamngce. Amanyathelo amaninzi anceda ukulahla ukuvakalelwa kwentlungu kwaye "vumela" kwinkinga.
Zama ukukhangela ebomini kwi-prism yovuyo kunye nethemba. Ukuba namhlanje libi, ngoko kusasa kuya kuba ngcono. Yazisa yonke imihla kwaye ungayeki apho.