Uninzi lwabantu luzama ukuxazulula ukuxabana ngoxolo okanye ukuwaphepha. Kodwa kukho imeko apho kungenakwenzeka ukuba uphume ngokwaneleyo kwiintlukwano kunye neengxaki. Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuziphatha kwimo engxaki ethile, kufuneka uzenzele ngeendlela zokuziphatha kunye nokuzama ukuphepha iingxaki.
Kukho izigaba ezimbalwa zezindlela zokuziphatha kwengxaki. Makhe sixoxe ngokuqhelekileyo:
1. I style style. Olu hlobo lokuziphatha ngquzulwano kukunyanzelisa ukuthanda komntu kunye nokuxazulula ingxabano ngamandla. Ngokuqhelekileyo sisetyenziswe ukusuka kwicala lomdlali onamandla kunalo lonke, lithetha zombini amandla kunye nesimo sezenhlalakahle. Ukulawulwa kwamandla okuziphatha ngokubambisana kubonakala kunempumelelo, kodwa inyaniso ayikho. Umthombo wongquzulwano awusususwanga, kodwa kuphela ngamanzi amaninzi kwithuba elithile. Umntu ongaphantsi, umntu obuthathaka kakhulu unokuthatha izikhalazo kwaye ekugqibeleni uza kuzibonakalisa.
2. Ukungabikho kwimpikiswano. Le ndlela yokuziphatha komntu onokubambisana ingasetyenziswa xa:
- ukuphakama ngokucacileyo kwicala lutshaba;
- ukubaluleka kwengxaki akubalulekanga ukuba uchithe ixesha lakho kunye neentsimbi kulo;
- Kubalulekile ukuqokelela amandla kunye neengcamango zokusombulula ngempumelelo impikiswano.
3. Ukungqinelana. Olu hlobo luneenkxaso ezikhethekileyo kumdlali. Ikuvumela ukuba ukhawuleze ngokukhawuleza ulungelelanise ukulwa. Esi sicwangciso sokuziphatha sempikiswano sinamacala amaninzi. Okokuqala, abathathi-nxaxheba bayo banengqondo yokulahleka, kuba bebefanele benze izigqibo, kwaye okwesibini, isisombululo sokwenza ingxaki sivimbela ukucaciswa kwemvelaphi yengxaki; okwesithathu, le ndlela ayicombululi ingxaki yokungathandani okubi phakathi kwamaqela aphikisanayo.
4. Ukusebenzisana. Isekelwe kwisisombululo esisisombululo sesingxaki, esiya kulungelelanisa onke amaqela aphikisanayo. Le ndlela yokuziphatha isicwangciso sobuchule kwaye isoloko ifumana isicelo kwisicwangciso sokuziphatha
5. Uxolo lwentlalo. Indlela yokuziphatha yongquzulwano isetyenziswe kwiimeko xa intsebenziswano ayikwazi ukufezwa ngenxa yobunzulu beengxabano, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ukusebenzisana ngokuthula kuvunyelwe.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokuphuma kwimeko yengxaki kukuthintela ngokuthintela ukuziphatha kwemibango. Wonke umntu uyazikhethela njani ukulungisa ingxabano. Xa ukhetha, kuyimfuneko ukufikelela nganye imeko nganye. Ukuze isisombululo sisisigxina, ufunde ngenyameko isikhundla somchasi, fu manisa izizathu zokungaqondani kwaye ufumene izicombululo ezizuzisayo zendlela yokuphuma kwimbambano.