Igama elithi "ukungaqondi" ludinga ukuvavanya kakubi, kodwa akusoloko kubi. Ngexesha, iimvakalelo kunye nemizwelo ofuna ukuyiyeka ngonaphakade okanye ubuncinane okwethutyana, njengoko kubangela intlungu eninzi okanye ingxaki kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Makhe sibone oko kuyimfuneko, kwaye nokuba ngaba amandla angaphezu kwawo onke amanqaku angabonakaliyo atholakala kubo bonke.
Indlela yokucima iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo?
Umntu - ifowuni inzima, kunye nezicwangciso ezininzi, ezinye zazo ezenziwa ngezandla zakho. Kuphela ngoku kuyimfuneko ukuba usebenze ngengqondo, ukwenzela ukuba ungenzi ngakumbi. Oku kusebenza nakwixesha lomdla: masenze ukulawula iimvakalelo , kungekhona ukunyanzelwa kwazo ngokupheleleyo. Okokuthi, awuyi kuba yindonga yamatye, kodwa unokunciphisa ukuqonda kwakho xa kuyimfuneko. Kwaye ekubeni eli liyikhono, kanye kunye nento yonke inqamule imizwa ayiyi kuphuma, ekuqaleni iimvakalelo ziya kususwa kuphela ixesha elide. Ngoko ke, khetha enye yeendlela ezicetywayo kwaye uqale uqeqesho.
- Ukumiswa . Ngokuqhelekileyo imeko ixhalaba kuphela ngenxa yokubandakanyeka kwethu. Khangela oko kwenzeka ntoni kwicala, kubangela ukuba lo msindo kunye nentukuthelo, ukuba kube yinkinga yomnye?
- Ukufumana izizathu . Zama ukufumanisa apho iingcambu zento eyenzekayo, yintoni eyenza ukuhlaselwa okubukhali komnye umntu kwisikhokelo sakho. Ukutshintshela kwisakhiwo esinengqiqo kuya kunceda ukunciphisa ukuvakalelwa kwakho kwaye ufumene isisombululo esiphezulu kwiingxaki.
- Indawo . I-ofisi, intloko ibonisa i-monkey-scler, oogxa badibanisa kunye nephepha lodonga kunye nokunyaniseka komnye nomnye, kwaye awukhathaleli. Ngenxa yokuba phambi kwakho ulwandle, ilanga elitsha livukile linika imfudumalo enomtsalane, kwi-dock, iigreyfish kunye neekati ezondliwa kakuhle zilindele ukubuya kwabadobi ukuba bafumane ezinye izipho zolwandle. Cinga umfanekiso wakho, oya kuba mnandi kuwe, uze uwenze xa uqala ukuphuma ekulawuleni. Kubalulekile kungekhona nje ukuba udwebe umfanekiso ofunwayo, kodwa uzive ungenxaxheba. Ngako oko kuya kuba luncedo ukwenza ukuzonwabisa, ngoko kungena kwiimeko eziyimfuneko ngaphandle kweengxaki.
- Yoga . Nguye ngokwenene owaziyo ngokulawula umzimba wakho kwaye uzive zonke, ngoko ulingela uSamadhi (imeko ekhethekileyo yokuvisisana yangaphakathi nangaphandle) yoga. Ayikho ingxaki, ukuba awuzange uhlangabezane nale mfundiso, unokwenza uboleke. Ngokomzekelo, inkqubo yokuphefumula ethandwa kakhulu, inokukwazi ukunciphisa izinga leemvakalelo. Ukwenza oku, thatha indawo ephosakeleyo, gxininisa ekujuleni nasekuhambeni kokuphefumla, uze uzame ukuthatha umoya ophefumulayo, ubambe umoya emiphakeni yakho, kwaye uhambe ngokukhawuleza.
Kananjalo unceda ukuqeda iimvakalelo ezingafunekiyo ngumculo wakho ozithandayo kunye namaqabunga, abayi kuba nefuthe elikhawulezileyo, kodwa ukuba kukho ixesha, ke le ndlela enhle kakhulu.
Kodwa nayiphi na indlela okhethayo, khumbula ukuba kuyadingeka ukuba ususe okwethutyana iimvakalelo eziphazamisana nawe ngexesha elithile. Ukunyanzeliswa kwabo rhoqo kukukwenza ube ngumthengi owamkelekileyo we-psychotherapist. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ufumane ixesha lokuvuma ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo zakho, kuba ukuvavanya kuyinto eqhelekileyo.