Inkxalabo yokukhathazeka komuntu yintlupheko apho umntu ezama ukukhuselwa kuluntu, uyakhutshwa, azive engonelanelekanga, agweme ukusebenzisana nabanye abantu. Ingxaki yokuxhalabisa ixinzeleleko eyenza umntu azive ukuba akazi indlela yokuthetha ngayo, ngenxa yokuba usoloko eyika ukuhlazeka nokuhlakwa.
Izibonakaliso zengxaki yokuxhalabisa
Ngaphambi kokugqiba ukuba yintoni unyango olufunekayo ngenxa yokukhathazeka komntu, ugqirha uya kubeka ingqalelo kwiimpawu. Ezi ziquka:
- ukwesaba ukugatywa, ukuhlekwa usulu;
- ukuzigxeka ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yezizathu;
- ukwandisa ukukhathazeka ukugxeka;
- ukuzihlukanisa ngokuzithandela ngokwakho kuluntu;
- iingxaki kwicandelo lobugcisa ngenxa yokuzihlukanisa;
- uzive "ngezinga lesibini", libi ngaphezu kwabanye;
- kwandipha kunye neentloni;
- umgama osengqondweni kunye nomhlobo osondeleyo;
- umnqweno wokuphepha ukunxibelelana nabantu;
- bazive bengenakukwazi;
- ukuzithoba;
- ukuxhalabisa kunye nokungahambi kakuhle kwabantu;
- uziva unesizungu;
- kuxhomekeke kuyo nayiphi na into.
Abantu abanjalo balungele ukuthetha kuphela nalabo baqinisekisiwe ukuba bangayi kulahlwa kwaye bahlekisiwe. Kubo, ithuba eliya kuthi lithatyathwe liloyike kakhulu kangangokuthi bavumelana ngokukhawuleza xa bodwa banesizungu.
Ukunyangwa kwengxaki yokuxhalabisa
Iingcali zisebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokwelapha, kuba indlela yokuphilisa ingxaki yokuxhalaxhomekeka kuxhomekeke kakhulu kwiimeko ezithile, isigaba kunye neempawu zesifundo sesi sifo.
Ngexesha lonyango ugqirha uya kunika uqeqesho lwezakhono zentlalo, unyango lweqela, ingqondo yengqondo, kunye namaxesha athile-unyango.
Umsebenzi ogqirha ugqirha ukufumana ukuzithemba kwesigulane, ngaphandle koko umthengi uyayeka ukuya kwiingcebiso. Emva kokuba oku kufezwe, ugqirha unceda ukutshabalalisa iinkolelo ezingekho phantsi kwesigulane ngaye, unceda ekuzuzeni ukuzithemba ngokwaneleyo kwaye kunceda ekuqhubekeni kwindlela yokuqhagamshelana nabanye abantu ngendlela entsha, ngokungakhathali.
Ukukhathazeka komntu isifo sisifo esiyinkimbinkimbi kwaye akaphathwa kunyango, kodwa kungekudala unyango luqala, ngokukhawuleza umphumo uya kuba. Into ephambili kukuba isigulane ngokwakhe sizimisele ukutshintshwa kwimeko yakhe, oku kusisiseko sonyango olulula kwaye lukhawuleza.