Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokukholisa umntu okanye bonke abaphulaphuli bokuchaneka kweziphi na izigwebo. Bonke badibene yinkcazo yokuphikisana.
Iingcamango zengxabano ziquka ukuzisa iziphakamiso zomlomo kunye nomnye okholisayo, kwaye isizathu sokuphikisana singabangela ukuba kuthathwe isenzo esithile. Nangona, kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ubuchule bokuphikisana akubhekiseli kuphela iindlela zokuthetha. Eminye impawu kunye nesimo sobuso, nendima, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuthula kungabangela ingxabano enamandla.
Yintoni ebandakanywe kwisakhiwo seengxoxo:
- intsingiselo (isitatimenti esicacileyo sengcamango somntu kunye nesimo sakhe);
- iingxabano - iingxabano ezithile ezikunceda ukuphikisana nokuqinisekisa ukuchaneka kwesimo sakho;
- umboniso, oko kukuthi, inkqubo yokukholisa, ngexesha odibanisa ngayo ingxabano yakho kwingcaphephe yakho.
Imigaqo eyisiseko yokuphikisana kwimpikiswano kunye / okanye inkqubo yokukholisa yimiyalelo yeengcamango, kunye nemisebenzi yokucinga okuthe ngqo. Into ebalulekileyo ngabaphulaphuli apho iingxoxo zakho zijoliswe khona, kuba ingxabano ephumelelayo ibonisa intetho kwinqanaba elithile, eqondakalayo kumacala omabini. Zonke izinto zeengxoxo zolu daba zibhekwa njengento enye.
Kukho iintlobo ezimbini zeengxabano: "ngokuba" (iingxabano ezihambelana nesimo sakho) kunye "nokuchasene" (iingqinamba ezinamandla ezibonisa ukungangqinelani kwezikhundla ezigxekwa nguwe).
Iindlela eziphambili zeengxoxo:
- ndlela eyintloko. Kuthetha ukuqhelana nomnxibelelwano kunye neengqinisiso, eziphambili zeengxoxo zakho. Njengomthetho, idatha yeenkcukacha kunye namanani asetyenziswayo;
- indlela yokuphikisa. Kukho ngokuqhelekileyo kusetyenziswa uhlobo lompikiswano "ngokuchasene", xa ufumanisa ukuphikisana kwiingxoxo zomnxibelelwano. Le ndlela yokuphikisana idla ngokusetyenziswa kwimibango;
- Indlela yokuthelekisa enye yeyona ndlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokuphikisana. Ewe, kwimeko apho ukuthelekiswa kukhethwe kakuhle. Le ngxabano ayithinteli ingqondo kuphela, kodwa kunye nemvakalelo yomnxibelelwano. Indlela yokuthelekisa ikuvumela ukuba wenze isigqibo somdlali senkxaso yakho ekuthandeni isicatshulwa sakho;
- indlela yesivumelwano esincinane kunye nesichaso. Ukubeka nje - yinto yokuguqulela igama elithi "ewe ..., kodwa ...", evumela ukuba ucinge ngempumelelo kunye nokuxhamla kwemvume yomdlali. Ngokwamanye amavumelana ngoluvo lwakhe, unciphisa izinga lokutshutshisa okukhulu kwisitatimende sakho kwaye unxuse ukuqwalasela ukuchaneka kweengxabano zakho;
Kwixesha lempikiswano, ungasebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphikisana, ukhetha ezo zinto ziphumelele ngenye ixesha. Nangona kunjalo, khumbula ukuba ngamanye amaxesha inyaniso izalwa kwimpikiswano, ngoko-ke yenza ukuguquguquka ukuze ungaphuthelwa.