Unxibelelwano lwemihla ngemihla luyingxenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bethu. Amandla okuxhasa incoko yikhono elifunekayo kunoma yimuphi umntu. Abanye abantu baqaqambile kwaye benovuyo lokuba banokutsala abantu ababajikelezayo njengemagnethi. Nangona kunjalo, akusiyo sonke esazi ukuba sibe yintetho enomdla. Kodwa ukuba unomdla ekunxibelelaneni, unokuba nethemba elihle ebomini bakho, kungekhona kwimiba yabantu kunye nobuhlobo, kodwa nokukhula komsebenzi.
Indlela yokuba ngumntu onomdla kunye nomnxibelelwano?
Ukuqonda indlela yokuba ngumnxibelelwano olungileyo kunye onomdla, kuyafaneleka ukuqwalasela ezinye iingcebiso kule ngxaki.
- Okokuqala, funda ukuphulaphula nokuva umntu othetha naye. Uninzi lwabantu bathanda ukuthetha ngobomi babo, iimfuno zabo, iimvakalelo kunye namava, kodwa ukufumana umntu onokuphulaphula akulula. Kwakhona, ungalokothi uphazamise.
- Ukuphulaphula ngenyameko umxhasi wakhe, unokufunda okuninzi ngaye kwaye ngokufanelekileyo ubuze imibuzo ngesihloko. Xa ebona ukuba banomdla wokwenene, ngoko umntu onjalo uyavuya kwaye kulula ukuthetha.
- Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ube nako ukuziva ukuba umntu odibanisa naye ufuna ukuva ntoni kuwe. Mhlawumbi ufuna iimvalelo okanye inkxaso, okanye mhlawumbi ufuna iimpembelelo kwenye indawo.
- Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntu uyazi ukwenza into kakuhle okanye ukuqonda into ethile, qi niseka ukuba ugxininise esi sidima kunye nodumo. Wonke umntu uthanda ukuthokoza kwaye athi amagama amnandi. Nangona kunjalo, kuyimfuneko yokwenza oku ngokunyanisekileyo, kuba ukunyaniseka kwamanga kuphephe kuphela.
- Ukuze incoko ibe yakhayo kwaye inentsingiselo, kuyafuneka kwakhona ukuba unomdla wokuthintela umnxibelelwano wakho ngento entsha kunye nengqiqo. Ngoko ke, ukuze uqonde indlela yokuba ngumnxibelelwano othakazelisayo kunye onomdla, umntu kufuneka ahlale ezama ukuphucula ukuzimela. Yenza ixesha lokuzihlakulela kwakho kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo.
- Kunceda kakhulu ukuphucula idilesi yakho kunye nezinye izakhono zokunxibelelana. Kuhlala kunomdla kakhulu ukuthetha nabantu abathetha ngokucacileyo kwaye bangagwinyi amagama. Ngexesha elide yenza imisebenzi efanelekileyo ekhaya. Thetha phambi kwesibuko, bhala phantsi intetho yakho kwirekhoda, funda ngokuvakalayo. Ukususela kwicala lihlala licaca ukuba kungcono ukutshintsha.
- Zama ukwenza intetho yakho ihlambuluke, ukulahla amagama-ama-parasites.
- Qinisekisa ukuba usebenzise ukumomotheka kwincoko. Ewe, ukuba kufanelekile. Ukumamatheka ngenye yezixhobo eziphambili kwindawo yabantu. Kunceda ukuphumla wena kunye nomnxibelelwano wakho, kwaye ngoko, ukuthetha kuya kuba lula kwaye kuzinzile.
- Ungazami ukugxeka umntu ukuba wenza into engalunganga, ngakumbi ebusweni babanye abantu. Kwaye ukhononda ngaphantsi kwaye ungathethi ngezihloko ezingathandekiyo. Emva kwakho konke, umntu ontle kwaye onwabileyo uhlala ekulungele ukuthetha.
Yintoni enokuyifunda ukuze ube mnxibelelwano othakazelisayo?
Ukufunda iincwadi kunceda kakhulu ekuzikhuleni. Siyabulela kuye, intetho yethu iba lucebile, kwaye unxibelelwano lunomdla ngakumbi. Zama ukufunda ii-encyclopedias ezininzi kwaye ukhumbule ezinye iinkcukacha ezithakazelisayo kunye ezimnandi. Kwiingxoxo oku kunokuba luncedo kakhulu, kwaye unako ukugcina ingxoxo nayiphi na isihloko.
Kungcono ukuqonda okujikelezayo kuya kunceda ukufunda iincwadi ngeengqondo. Incwadi ethi "Ukuphumelela njani abahlobo kunye nokuchaphazela abantu?" UDale Carnegie ufundisa ukuba usebenzise ngokucacileyo kwaye usebenzise ngokusemthethweni imigaqo-yengqondo kwintetho yonxibelelwano nabantu abahlukeneyo.