Ukuzithiba yimeko esemgangathweni yokuphumelela kuyo nayiphi na indawo yentsimi.
Amandla okulawula iimvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo nazo ziyimfuneko ekuphuhlisweni ngokupheleleyo komntu ngamnye. Iingcali zengqondo zichonga ezi zizathu zilandelayo eziphambili ezifunekayo ukuzikwazi ukuzilawula:
- Okokuqala, ukukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zomntu kunceda ekugcinweni kwempilo. Njengoko uyazi, uxinzelelo kunye nokudandatheka kukubangelwa zizifo ezininzi. Akusoloko kunokwenzeka ukuphepha iingxaki ezixinzelelekileyo, kodwa ngokulawula iimvakalelo zakho unokuziphepha iziphumo ezimbi zeemeko ezinjalo.
- Kwiingxabano kunye nezimo ezigqithiseleyo, ukukwazi ukuzilawula kuyimfuneko yokwenza isigqibo esheshayo nesilungileyo.
- Ukukwazi ukuzilawula kuyimfuneko ukugxila ingqalelo ekufezeni iinjongo ezibekiweyo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonke umntu unokufumana izizathu ezongezelelweyo zokufunda indlela yokuzilawula, kodwa isizathu esona sizathu sokuba wonke umntu uya kuba nomnqweno wokuphucula ubomi babo.
Ngoko, makhe sibone ukuba zeziphi iingqondo zengqondo ukuze ufunde indlela yokuzilawula
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda oko kudla ngokuba ngumthombo wamava ambi. Oku kuya kunceda ukugcina idayari ekhethekileyo. Kwikholam enye, umntu kufuneka abhale uluvo olubi kunye neemvakalelo, ezinjengokwesaba, umsindo, umsindo, ukuphelelwa ithemba, ukunganakwa nabanye. Kwikholam elandelayo, kufuneka ubhale phantsi iimeko ezimbalwa ezibangele amava onke. Itafile ezinjalo ziyakunceda ukuba uqonde iimvakalelo ozifunayo ukuze ufunde ukulawula okokuqala. Unokwenza kwakhona uhlalutyo lwemeko kwikholamu eyongezelelweyo kwaye ufike ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha eziya kuphesela iimvakalelo ezimbi. Yonke imihla, kubalulekile ukuchaza imeko ezenzekile, ezibangele iimvakalelo ezimbi, izenzo zabo neemvakalelo, iziphumo kunye nokuhlalutya kwimeko. Usuku emva komhla, ngeli xesha loo marekhodi aya kuphuhlisa amandla okuzilawula.
Ukongeza kokugcina iirekhodi kunye neemeko zokuhlalutya, ezi ngcebiso ezilandelayo zengqondo zengqondo zinokukunceda ufunde ukuzilawula:
- qalisa ekuseni ngesimo esihle sengqondo. Smile xa ubonakalisa kwisibuko, udumise.
- Musa ukuyidlula. Yenza umkhuba wokwenza uluhlu lwamatyala ngosuku. Phawula izinto ezibalulekileyo kwaye wenze okokuqala. Ukuba kukho amacala amaninzi, ke ucinge ngendlela onokubuyisela ngayo kwakhona uxanduva, ziziphi izinto ezinokuthi zenziwe kwiintsuku ezikhululekileyo. Qiniseka ukuba ushiye ixesha lokuphumla.
- ungaze uthathe ixesha lokufikelela kwizigqibo. Impendulo yokuqala kwiyiphi na isiganeko yintliziyo ebangelwa isimo sengqondo esibhekiselele kwimeko. Zama kuqala ukujongana nezizathu zeso simo, zama ukufumana iinkcukacha ezininzi. Kuyafana nokuthintana nabantu - musa ukucinga ngako, ukuba unemibuzo okanye ungathandabuzeki, ungesabi ukucacisa uphinde ubuze. Oku kuya kuphepha ezininzi iingxabano.
- Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba awukwazi ukumbamba, cinga ngendlela yokuvalela kwiimeko ezimbi. Ngomntu ngamnye, iindlela zokutholisa zimele. Unokwenza ulungelelanise ijog ejikeleze indlu, unokuphulaphula umculo ozithandayo okanye uhambe ukuyothenga. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, ukuba unqabile, kuyimfuneko ukuhlalutya oko kubangele ukuvutha komsindo.
- Musa ukushiya iingxaki ezingaphendulwanga kunye nabathandekayo. Sombulula imibuzo kwiimeko ezizolileyo, ukuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza umchasi. Ukuba awukwazi ukuthetha, nceda unobumba, apho kufuneka uchaze intsingiselo yenkinga, iimvakalelo zakho kunye neziphakamiso malunga nesisombululo seemeko. Buza umntu onetyala lamava akho ukuba afunde le leta aze abhale impendulo. Emva kolu qhagamshelwano uya kuqonda indlela onokuphumeza ngayo ukungqinelana
kwaye isombulule ingxaki. - kwakhona, xa unqotshwa yimvakalelo emibi, zama ukuthetha imeko yakho. Khetha intsingiselo echanileyo yeemvakalelo zakho kwaye uthethe ngokuzwakalayo. Akuyimfuneko ukuba umntu akuve oko, yithetha nje oko uvakalelwa. Musa ukuyithintela imvakalelo, iya kubangela uxinzelelo olulandelayo, kodwa aluyi kusombulula ingxaki.
Ukuze ufunde ukuzilawula, kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho nsuku zonke. Ukulawula iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo kuyisitshixo ekuphumeleleni kwishishini, kunye nokuvisisana kobudlelwane bokwenu.