Uyazi njani ukuba uthanda umntu?

Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba abantu abanxibelelwano nje kuphela ngeelwimi, kodwa kunye nomzimba. Akuyena wonke umntu owaziyo ukuqonda ulwimi olungengomlomo, kukholelwa ukuba ngaba besetyhini, ngenxa yokufunda kwabo, bakwazi ukuziva isimo sengqondo somlingane. Kodwa nangona kungekho ukuqonda ngolwimi lomzimba, luyakwazi ukufundwa. Ngendlela yokufumanisa ukuba uyathanda umntu, uya kuxelwa kule nqaku.

Uyazi njani ukuba umfazi uthanda indoda?

Umzekelo obalaseleyo ngumsebenzi wabantwana abaselula. Ukwesaba kwabo kunye neenkathazo azibavumeli ukuba baveze iimvakalelo zabo ngokucacileyo, kodwa basebenzisa ulwimi olungengomlomo kwizinga elipheleleyo. Ngokomzekelo, kwinkampani yamantombazana bazama ukutsala esiswini, bahlambulule amahlombe abo baze babonise ubungakanani bemisipha yabo. Kufana nomdaniso wesilisa ujikeleze ibhinqa. Ngoko kuvela kwimvelo ukuba umntu onqobayo ubonisa amandla akhe, amandla kunye nobuchule bakhe.

Khangela ukuba uthanda umntu otshatileyo, unokuthi-ngandlela-thile uqale ingxoxo kwaye ubeke ingqalelo kwisithuba sakhe. Abafazi abanjalo babonakala ngokubonakalayo njengezinto zesini, oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kuba nzima ukubeka ingqalelo kwiindawo zabo zesisu - ukuba baphumle izandla zabo emagqabeni, bayeke iminwe yabo kwi-strap. Indlela 'yokuxhoma' phezu komfazi, ethatha indawo ephezulu. Unomdla kwindlela yokufumanisa ukuba uyathanda umphathi wesilisa, unokucebisa ukuba ubeke ingqwalasela kwindlela etshintsha ngayo isikhundla somzimba xa uthetha. Ukuba uyaqhubeka ukuhlala nomqolo wakhe, ngoko akukho mvalo, kodwa i-pose kunye nekhokelo ebonakalayo emzimbeni wonke kunye namadolo ngokubhekiselele kwabasetyhini inokutolika njengophawu lomdla.

Kule meko, umphathi wesilisa angasebenzisa isikhundla sakhe esisemthethweni aze ahlasele ngokukrakra ummandla osondeleyo, owaziwa ngokuba ngu-15-45 cm kwaye ujoliswe kuphela ekunxibelelaneni. Oko kukuthi, ukunika imiyalelo, unokuxhomekeka kakhulu, uthembele emva kwesitulo kwaye mhlawumbi uyichukumise ihlombe nasemva. Kuyafana nalabo bafuna ukwazi ukuba uthanda umntu osebenza naye kunye nendlela yokujonga ngayo. Kuninzi kuxhomekeke ekuziphatheni kwakhe kumfazi. Kucacile ukuba ukuncedisa emsebenzini, ubonisa uvelwano lwakhe, kwaye ukuqinisekiswa kwesi siza kuba yimitende evulekile njengophawu lokuthembela .

Ngoku kuyacaca indlela yokufumanisa ukuba uthanda umntu. Uninzi unokutsalisela ukubukeka. Evulekileyo kwaye enobubele, kunye nokumomotheka okwenyama, uya kuqinisekisa ukuba indoda inomdla kwiqabane elisondeleyo.