Ukuvela kweengxaki kwiintsapho nganye kunakuphepheka. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva, abafazi baqala ukungaqondi, baziva bebanda kwaye bakude. Amanqaku atshintsho olwalamano aqhutyelwa yimibandela eyahlukeneyo-ukuzalwa komntwana, ukuhoxiswa komntwana kwintsapho, utshintsho kwimigangatho yomsebenzi womnye wabatshatileyo, njl. Ixesha elijongene neengxaki liya kunceda isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo , ukulawula indlela abaziphatha ngayo ngamnye womtshato, ukuqonda okufanelekileyo kwenguqu ezayo.
Ixesha lini le ngxaki kwilamano?
Inkxalabo yobudlelwane kwenzeka ngexesha lokwakhiwa kwentsapho, i. kunyaka wokuqala womtshato. Xa inyanga yokuthandana iphelile, ubomi bemihla ngemihla kunye noxanduva lubonakala kubomi bentsapho. Abanye abasandul 'ukutshata abanakulungele ukutshintsha okunjalo, ngenxa yokuphupha umtshato (umtshato omhle, ulwandle lwama roses, njl.) Yinto enye, kwaye ukuma imihla ngemihla kwisitofu enye. Ngomnyaka wokuqala womtshato, abatshatileyo kufuneka batshintshe eminye imikhwa yabo, bafunde indlela yokuncedana ngayo kunye nemisebenzi yasekhaya. Akunabo bonke abatshatileyo abakwazi ukuphumelela le nkathazo "bengenabuhlungu", okokuqala kukho ukunganeliseki, ukuxabana kunye neentlanzi, abafazi bayeka ukuqonda.
Inkathazo ebudlelwaneni bomtshato iqala ekuzalweni kokuzalwa kokuqala. Ngokubonakala komntwana, abaninzi abafazi baqala ukugxila ingqalelo kumntwana kwaye "bayalibale" ngomyeni. Ngexesha elifanayo, kubonakala kumfazi ukuba umyeni uhlawula ingqalelo encinci kumntwana kunye naye, akanandaba, akatshintshi indlela yakhe yobomi, njengoko yena, umzekelo, akavuki nomntwana ebusuku, njl njl.
Umlingane, naye, uvakalelwa kukuba umfazi uye wasuka, akasathandanga. Amadoda athile ayaqaphela ukuba avumba ubisi kwaye azive ehlazeka. Ngokuchasene nokungaqondani, ukungabi nako kwexesha lokukhulula ngokubonakala kwendodana okanye intombi yokuqala, abafazi basoloko bejamelana nokungavumelani okukhulu.
"Ukuhamba kwesidlo sokugqibela esivela kwidleke" kuya kubangela ingxaki, oko kukuthi, xa umntwana wokugqibela eqala intsapho yakhe kwaye eshiya ikhaya lomzali, isibini esitshatileyo sinomuva othile, yonke indlela yokuziphatha iyatshintsha.
Indlela yokusinda kwintlekele ebubudlelwaneni?
Uncedo lokusinda zonke iintlungu zobudlelwane bosapho luya kunceda uvavanyo olwaneleyo lokuziphatha kwabo. Emva koko, abaninzi abantu baqala ukusola omnye nomnye kwaye bayalibala ngokupheleleyo iimpazamo zabo. Ngethuba lokuvuthwa kwe-scandal, kufuneka ukhangele zonke iingxaki ngaphakathi kuwe, zama ukuhamba ukusuka kwi "I". Enyanisweni, izazi zengqondo zithi kukho nayiphi na ingxabano ibeka ityala - omnye wenze okungalunganga,
Ukuba ufunda ukunyamezela nokuqonda, uze ufumane amaqondo okuguqula "ilahleko" encinci ngobudlelwano bobuchule. Ihlazo ngalinye "libulala" uthando, ukuhlambalaza okuphezulu, ukukhawuleza ukuvakalelwa. Ngamanye amaxesha iiyure ezimbalwa zokuthintela zingalondoloza ukukhanya kunye nokunyaniseka kobudlelwano bobudlelwane kwiminyaka emininzi ezayo.
Ukuxazulula umbuzo - njani ukunqoba intsingiselo ebubudlelwaneni , funda ukuba ungathembeli kwisiqingatha sakho, uze ungayigxeki "kuyo yonke into ebalulekileyo." Ngenxa yeethemba ezingenakulungiswa, kuzalwa inzondo, enoba ubuhlobo obunamandla kakhulu buyehla.