Uthando kunye nokuqiqa okunengqiqo kunqabile ukusebenzisana, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ingqondo iyaqonda ukuba kufuneka imlibale indoda engayifumani, kodwa indlela yokwenza ngayo - ayiyazi. Yintoni ongayenza ukulibala umntu omthandayo, izazi zeengqondo ziya kuhamba.
Ungayikhohlwa njani indoda oyithandayo?
Nangona ukungahambi kakuhle, abafazi bahlala "banamathela" kumntu ongenalo uthando ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezinamandla, kodwa ngenxa yokoyika ukodwa kunye nezimo ezimbi. Ulibale umntu ongakwazi ukuphindaphinda xa utshintsha indlela ophila ngayo kwaye uzithande.
Iingcali zengqondo kule nkcazo zikhuthaza ukuphuhlisa ngokwabo. Umntu onelaneleyo akaze azive ekhululekile, ukhululekile kuluntu ngokwakhe. Kwimeko yenkululeko (kodwa kungabi yedwa), umntu onjalo ubona amancedo amaninzi, umzekelo, ithuba lokukwenza nantoni na, engabhengezi kunoma ubani. Umntu okhululekileyo unokuhlala efumana ixesha lokuzilibazisa, ukuhamba, ukuzizonwabisa.
Ungaziphoqa njani ukulibala umhlobo wakho?
Ukukhawuleza ukulibala umthandi wangaphambili, kufuneka akhankanywe ngokupheleleyo ebomini bakhe - asuse bonke oonxibelelwano befowuni, uyivimbele kwi-intanethi, kwaye ungcono - cima iphepha lakhe. Ngelo xesha, kufuneka ukwandise indawo yakho yokuhlala. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uqale ukutyelela iiikofu kunye neevenkile ezingaqhelekanga, ukulibala indlela eya kwezo ziko apho ukutyelela kubanjwe khona, yenza abahlobo abatsha, bafumane izinto ezithandwayo zokungcebeleka, bangene kwimidlalo.
Uphulo olubukhali nomntu othandekayo luxinzelelekileyo , nokuba ngaba lona wesifazane ngokwakhe unqume ukuyeka umqhubi ongeyena. Emva kokuhlukana, le ntombazana ishiye yedwa ingathatha indlela yokuzibhubhisa-kungena kwixesha elifutshane lezesondo, utywala utywala okanye iziyobisi. Kule meko, kufuneka uqhagamshelane nomntu osengqondweni.