Ngokutsho kweengqondo zengqondo, ibinzana eliqhelekileyo elitshatyalaliswa ngumtshato, ngokwenene, lifihla enye inyaniso. Nangona kunjalo, baphinde bathi ubomi bentsapho bunokuhlala bukhula kwaye buzele iminyaka emininzi. Khawukhumbule ukuba umtshato wethu okanye iimvakalelo zomntu omnye kuthi kuthi zizinto ezihlala zihleli kwaye zibonakala zibonakala. Nayiphi na ubudlelwane - kunye nosapho, mhlawumbi uninzi lwazo zonke! - badinga ngokukhawuleza "injini yokuvuselela". Funda into enokuyenza, kunye nendlela abanokuvuselela ngayo ubudlelwane babo bosapho ngoncedo lwabo.
Shayela kwenye indawo ngeveki
Kwaye apha asithethi uhambo oluqhelekileyo ukuya kwi-dacha (njengoko akunakwenzeka ukunceda uvuselele ubudlelwane), kodwa uhambo olufutshane kwiindawo ezingaqhelekanga. Ukuba unabantwana abancinci, kwaye uthatha isigqibo sokuba uthabathe kunye nawe, baya kuvuyiswa. Ilungelo - kwakhona ukuhamba kunye kuloo dolophu (ilizwe, kwidolophana), apho uqala khona, iminyaka emininzi edlulileyo, behlangene. Fumana ihotele efanayo, bacele ukuba bakubeke kwigumbi elinye. Okumangalisayo kukuba, ukuhlaziya ubuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakhe kunokukunceda uhambo oluthathekayo oludlulileyo.
Yenza umangaliso
Awukwazi ukucinga indlela onokuhlaziya ngayo ulwalamano lwakho kunye nezinto ezintle ezingalindelekanga. Musa ukuzikhawulela kwizizukulwana eziqhelekileyo zokuzalwa okanye ieholide ukunika iqabane lakho isipho esithile. Esi sipho siya kuba nexabiso elithile ngokukhethekileyo kuba kwakungeke kulindeleke. Mfihle phantsi komsila ithokoleta enkulu. Thenga iposikhadi, bhala kuwo amazwi omthando kunye nesisa, kwaye uyifake kwincwadi ayifunayo.
Buza imibuzo
Iingcali zigxininisa ukuba ngelixa ekhaya, abatshatileyo bachitha ukuthetha ngeengxaki zabo kunye nemicimbi kuphela 4% yexesha labo. Thatha njengomkhwa wokuba nomdla kumyeni wakhe, indlela yakhe yokuhamba ngayo. Ukuhlaziywa ubuhlobo kuya kunceda ukuhlangana okufutshane okufutshane ekhitshini. Ndikholelwe, uya kuwuqonda umdla wakho kwaye uya kukubulela kwintetho enemizuzu emihlanu (amadoda, enye indlela okanye enye, thintela iingxoxo ezide!)
Chukumisa
Ukunxibelelana nomyeni wakhe akukhona nje ingxoxo yomlomo. Ungesabi ukuyichukumisa rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuhlaziya ulwalamano lwakho luya kunceda impawu elula kakhulu: hlalani eduze, nimbambe, nibeke intloko yakhe ehlombe, nidlule ngobumnene kwizinwele zakhe. Ekupheleni kosuku olunzima, uya kukubulela ngale miqondiso engabonakaliyo.
Thetha ngawe
Ngaloo nto ikukhathazayo, malunga noko uvakalelwa okanye ucinge - nokuba uyazi ukuba akavumelani nemibono yakho yezinto. Umdlalo wamazwi kunye nokungqubuzana kwembono kaninzi kuthatha isisempilo esifanelekileyo, njengesiphakamiso, ukunceda ukuvuselela ulwalamano oluqhelekileyo. Khumbuza umyeni wakho ukuba ungumntu!
Zinakekele
Njengoko kunjalo, ngoku, ukuvuselela ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe kowesifazane ngokulula ngokubonakala kwayo. Musa ukuzigxotha! Lahla iipounds ezongezelelweyo onazo ngezikhathi ezithile. Zifake kwisitokethi iinketho ezininzi zeenwele ezibhekiselele ebusweni bakho, kwaye zenze ezinye. Jonga ubuso bakho kwaye ungalondolozi imali yokucoca umzimba kunye nokuhamba ngeenyawo ukuba awukwazi ukuzenza ngokwakho. Indoda ayinakuvuyela ukuba uyichitha ngeesibini izihlangu okanye esinye isikhwama. Kodwa uya kuthulisa uzuko, ukuba uthe wachitha inani elithile kwi-cosmetologist.
Shintsha indawo
Ukuba unomdla malunga nendlela yokuvuselela ubudlelwane bakho bobulili, cinga ngekona igumbi lokulala aliyena yedwa kwindawo yokuhlala apho ungenza khona uthando. Kule ngxaki, ngokukhawuleza kunye noko ungalindelanga ngokusoloko kulunge ngakumbi kunokwakhelwe kwaye kucatshangelwe.
Hlala ulale
Eli cebiso linikezwa ngumfundi we-psychologist waseMerika, umcebisi ngomtshato kunye nolwalamano lwentsapho uMark Goulston. Njengoko uthi, ukuhlaziya iintsapho zentsapho ezitshatileyo ziza kukunceda zikhumbule indlela abangazange balinde ukulala ngazo kwiminyaka yokuqala yomtshato wabo. Isazi sengqondo sichaza ukuba, ngokubhekiselele kwimbono yakhe, zonke izibini ezonwabileyo ziphepha ukulala ngokwahlukileyo - nokuba ngaba kusasa kufuneka zivuke ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo.
Chaza ngothando
Ingaba ucinga ukuba oku kuyingqayizivele okanye kwenzeni? Ngeze! Ungayilungisa njani enye ubuhlobo kunye nomyeni wakho, ukuba awuzange umxelele ukuba kwiminyaka emininzi uyithandekile kuwe - nje ngomhla xa wayekulindele ngosuku lwakho lokuqala. Ngaphantsi kwehora, kunye ne-daffodils efriziwe ezandleni zabo ...