Ewe, umbuzo wendlela yokubetha umntakwabo kumhlobo uyaziphethe kakubi. Isenzo esinjalo, ngokukodwa phakathi "kwamaqela achaphazelekayo" kuya kubangela iimvakalelo ezimbi kunye nentukuthelo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi - ngamnye umntu ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bakhe weva ukuba umzabalazo wolu lonwabo awulula.
Indlela yokubetha umntu ovela kwenye?
Nangona isenzo esingafanelekanga sidinga ukulungiswa ngokupheleleyo. Khumbula ukuba amadoda, okokuqala, akhangele ukubonakala kwendodakazi. I-styles, izandla ezilungiswe kakuhle kunye neenyawo, umzimba omhle oqiniweyo-konke oku kunzima kwenza umfanekiso omhle. Naliphi na umntu oya kujonga ukubonakala okungenakwenzeka.
Kakade, umntu akafanele akhohlwe ngokomoya kunye nokuzihlakulela. Ingubo ekhanyayo idonsa kuphela okokuqala, kodwa kufuneka ukwazi ukuthetha, ngakumbi kunye nabameli bobulili obuhlukile.
Indlela yokubetha umfana ovela kumhlobo omhle?
Ukuqala ngoku kuqikelela ukuba uqikelele ngokucophelela, ngaba ulungele ukutshintshisana ubungqina obuqinileyo nentombi yakho kwintsebenziswano engapheli kwimpumelelo. Ukuba le ntombazana inqume ukuba umdlalo ufanele ikhandlela kunye nomntu oyithandayo, kuyafaneleka ukulwa, sincoma oku kulandelayo.
- Ukubonakala ngokukhawuleza kwiindawo apho into ekhethiweyo. Musa ukuyiqhayisa kwaye umkhathaze. Ubonakala kufuneka bube mnandi kwaye bukhangeke. Ukuba lo mntu usebudlelwaneni nentombi yakho, unokuza nesisusa kwaye udibane nabo ngexesha lokuhlangana kwabo.
- Kufuneka silonge ubuhlobo babo. Uze wenze izigqibo. Khangela indlela abaxubana ngayo, indlela abaziphatha ngayo emva kokuxabana.
- Ekugqibeleni, enye yezona zigaba eziphambili, indlela yokutshitshisa umfana ovela kumlingani. Ukuze wenze oku, zama ukuba ngumhlobo wakhe. Njani ukwenza oku? Kukho iindlela ezininzi. Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukufunda malunga neminqweno kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa zomntu osemtsha, ukulungiselela iingxoxo kwesi sihloko kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonisa umdla, ukunyaniseka kwezi zifundo. Naliphi na umntu uthanda ukucelwa unobtrusively malunga nokuzilibazisa , izenzo kunye nemizwa.
Ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo malunga namanyathelo athile, cingisisa malunga nokuba uthatha ingozi. Emva kwakho konke, le ntsebenzo ayiyikuhlonela, okokuqala, okokuqala.