"Ndifuna ukuhlazisa umntu!" Ezi zihloko zigcwele izikhundla ezininzi kunye neenkundla ze-intanethi. Wonke amabhinqa anezizathu zakhe zokukhangela amagama abalulekileyo kunye neenketho ezahlukeneyo malunga nendlela yokwenza ngayo, kodwa makhe siphendule lo mbuzo kwinqanaba lezesayensi kwaye sicinge ngendlela yokuhlazisa umntu ngokucokisekileyo kwaye onobuqili.
Indlela yokumthobela umntu?
Ukuba umfazi wabuza umbuzo onjalo, kuthetha ukuba wafikelela kumda. Isiqingatha esihle somntu sinomonde omkhulu. Kodwa xa ekugqibeleni, unokulindela nantoni na. Akusiyo imfihlakalo kunoma ubani ukuba inxalenye enkulu, ngamadoda angenamandla okuziphatha. Ewe, amandla abo anokunceda ekhaya kwaye, kwiimeko ezizodwa, njengenkxaso nenkxaso. Nangona kunjalo, abo bethu bazama ukuhlazisa le "isondo esomeleleyo", kodwa kufuneka sibeke uxinzelelo kubuthathaka. Kwaye amadoda abo amaninzi - naluphi na ukugxekwa kunokonkqonkqoza kumntu othembele ngaphandle. Ngoko makhe sibone, ungamhlazisa njani umntu?
- Ukuvavanya. Ngaphambi kokuba ufike ngegama eliza kukunceda kwindlela yokuhlazisa umfana, zama ukuqonda kangcono imbono yakhe yehlabathi kunye nesimo sengqondo ebomini. Amadoda ayawaxabisa kakhulu ngokuzithemba kwabo, kwaye kulula kakhulu ukugubha. Dlala kwiyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu - umzi wokuzikhukhumeza ngokuba ngumntu wequmrhu lamadoda. Ngamanye amazwi, zama ukuxelela umntu ukuba akakuthandi njengendoda. Abanye babo basenokukhubekisa baze bacaphuke, kodwa abanye baya kuhlazisa abanye. Konke kuxhomekeke kwiimeko.
- Ngokukodwa indlela emangalisayo yokuhlazisa umntu uhlazo olubi emva kokusondelana. Zama ukuxelela loo mntu ukuba akayi kunyuka. Oku kuya kuba yingozi. Ngendlela, loo "mahlaya" anokwenza ukuba iqabane lakho lingenamandla ubuncinane ngeveki.
- Ukubonakala kubandakanya indima ebalulekileyo yamadoda. Kuvumelekile ukuba uthethe ngendlela owakuthandayo ngayo imfucuza "ngaphandle kwendoda enhle" kunye nomnxibelelwano wakho uya kuqala ukugaya amazinyo.
- I talente. Amadoda asoloko efuna ukuba ngowona uninzi kakhulu, kwaye ukuba umchasi wakho akakhangeli idatha ekhethekileyo, mnike njengomzekelo naluphi na udumo osemdala owake wayenalo udumo kunye nezinye izinto ezifanelekileyo.
- Unokuhamba ngokujikeleza umxholo othi "unyana ka-mama", i-coward njalonjalo. Amazwi anjalo ayedluli kakuhle ngeendlebe zomnxibelelwano wakho.
Nguwaphi amagama onokumthobela umntu?
Kulo, ulwazi jikelele, mhlawumbi, ngokwaneleyo. Masihambe ngokuthe ngqo kumagama onokuhlazisa umntu ngokuxhomekeke kwiinjongo kunye neemeko zakho.
Masiqhube phambili ekubeni umntu ofuna ukuwuchaphazela akanalo amagama afanayo ngamazwi, kwaye akayi kunyuka ephaketheni lakhe ngamagama. Ngokukodwa oku kusebenza kumantombazana acinga ukuhlazisa umntu owayengumntu. Ngoko, cinga ngeemeko ezimbalwa, ezifanayo okanye ezifanayo nezo zinto unayo kunye neendlela ozikhethile ngayo iimpendulo zakho kumfana ozimisele ukukhubekisa.
- U sidenge!
- Ewe, ndingumntu oyisilumko. Bonisa uncedo? Oku kubonakala, kuba sihlala siqhagamshelana nezilumko.
- Ewe u-lohushka!
- Kwaye ukuba kwakungekho nabashushu, uya kubaphi na ngoku?
- Ngandlela-thile awudingi kakuhle.
"Ndiyifihle imilenze ukuze ungayigcini."
- Wenzani i-vyaknula (enye inketho ikhethiweyo)?
- Enye inkulumo yam iyaqhelaniswa. Mhlawumbi unengxaki yokuva, okanye ngovakalelo.
- Ngaba ulungile okanye into?
- Wena ngokwakho, kutheni uthetha kanje? Ixesha lokubhaliselwa kwigumbi lexakeka liphela?
Izinketho ezifanayo kwiimpendulo ongafaniyo ngokuxhomekeke kwiinjongo zakho. Ukuzikhumbuza, awuyi kujongana nengxaki yokuziphatha kakubi umntu. Musa ukulibala ukuba uya kuba nako ukulimaza isidima somntu kuphela xa unesithakazelo sokuzithemba. Indoda yokuzithemba ukuthintela kunzima. Hlola iimandla zakho ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo kwilo nyathelo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi uya kuhlangabezana kunye nokuphupha malunga neendlela zokupheka ezenziwe ngokulungelelanisa umntu kunye namagama, sikubonisa ukhetho lwegama elizaliswe ngokukrakra okuphawulekayo.
- Mhlawumbi ndimele ndilale ukuze ndixoxe nawe ngeenyawo ezilinganayo;
- akagula, uhlala ekhangeleka njalo;
- Andiqiniseki ukuba ukhulelwe ukuxabana;
- ngobuhle ngokuqinisekileyo awukwazi ukusindisa ihlabathi;
- Ndiya kuthuma, kodwa ngokusobala uvele uvela khona;
- kuwe kwiimpawu ezintle kubonakala kuphela kwi-Rh factor;
- ukusasaza okungenani umongo wethambo;
- ungakhathazeki, andiyikhumbuli igama lakho;
- Ilungelo lakho kwimbono yakho ayikwazi ukwenza ukuba ndiphulaphule into engeyiyo.