Ukudlala ngothando kuyindlela yokutsala ingqalelo yommeli wobulili obuhlukile, ukuvuselela umdla wakhe kunye nomnqweno wokuziqhelana naye. Kodwa nangona ukuba ukuzithobela ngothando rhoqo kuthetha ukuthatha isabelo esilula, ngokuqhelekileyo sikwazi ukuphuhlisa ubuhlobo obunzulu. Nangona kunjalo, umntu akufanele abone ukuzithoba nomfana nje ngendlela yokutshata, kuba, okokuqala, lo umdlalo othabisayo owanceda uzigcine "ngendlela enhle" kwaye uzive unomtsalane. Namhlanje, amaninzi amantombazana athandwa kakhulu kwiikhosi zokukhupha, apho abathathi-nxaxheba baziswa kwiimfihlelo eziphambili zokukhohlisa. Eminye yemigaqo eqhelekileyo yokukhethwa kwaye iya kunikwa kweli nqaku.
Indlela yokudlala nomfana, funda izinto ezisisiseko:
- Ukuvusa umntu onomdla kuyo, kufuneka ube ngumntu onomdla. Yaye ingongoma apha ayikho ekukhangeni kwangaphandle, kodwa ekukwazi ukuzifundisa kakuhle.
- Ukuze umntu akwazi ukukuhlakulela ngesihawu, wena ngokwakho kufuneka uzithande. Ngamanye amagama, kufuneka ufunde ukuqonda ngokwakho, kunye nawo onke amandla akho kunye nobuthathaka.
- Uthando lwamaxesha onke luthobela, yingakho ungafunda ubugcisa bokudlala ngothando ngokufanayo kwiminyaka emi-16 nangama-40, into ephambili kukuba nomnqweno wokufunda into entsha.
- Musa ukuyeka kude kube ngumso onokukwenza namhlanje. Ukuba uthe wanquma ukuqala ubomi obutsha, yenza ngokukhawuleza, ngaphandle kokulibaziseka, ngomso. Bhalisela umdaniso, uye kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, wenze umququzelelo wangaphambili okanye usebenzise nayiphi enye indlela yokuzikholisa kwaye ukwandise ukuzithemba kwakho.
Ubugcisa bokudlala ngothando nomfana, apho uqala khona?
Ukuba ungananga ukuthetha kwisitalato kunye nomntu ongaqhelekanga ngenxa yokuba ukwesaba ukubonakala uyisichukuphuku okanye ungamthandi, okokuqala kufuneka ufunde ukunqoba ukungacingi kwakho. Ukwenza oku, thatha njengomthetho ubuncinane kanye ngosuku ukuze uqale incoko kunye nomntu odlulayo. Kwaye kungekudala uza kubona ukuba oku kulula kunokuba kubonakala kuqala. Nazi ezinye izizathu ezifanelekileyo zokuqala ingxoxo engxamisekileyo: "Ndikho kule ngxenye yeso sixeko ngethuba lokuqala, ngaba ungandixelela ukuba ndingayifumana njani i-studio / yokuthunga i-studio / isikhungo senkonzo?" Okanye "Ndilahlekile ibhasi, ngaba uyazi ukuba ngubani ozayo?" , "Ndixelelwe ukuba kwindawo ethile ithala leencwadi ..."
Emva kokuba iingxoxo ezinjalo ziyeke ukwethusa, uye kumsebenzi onzima kakhulu: ukukwazi ukuguqula ingxoxo ngendlela efanelekileyo. Umzekelo, emva kokuphendula umbuzo: "Lilixesha lini na?" "Njengaye, ngendlela, qaphela ukuba" namhlanje ujikeleza usuku lonke njengesikwelekazi esesigodini, kodwa awuzange ube nantoni "okanye ukuphosa nayiphi na ibinzana, ukuba awuyikuyeka ukutshintsha kwindlela yokuthetha engacwangciswanga.
Ukuba umnxibelelwano wakho ulahliwe, uya kuvuyela umdlalo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba oko akukwenzeka, musa ukuthukuthela. Amantombazana amaninzi awaziyo ukuzithoba ngendoda ngokuchanekileyo, kule meko ilahlekile kwaye ikwazi ukuzibamba. Musa ukwenza oku, kuba akusiyo iphoso lakho. Ukuba uyaphula, krukrukra, ungambulele umhambi ukuze uncede kwaye uhambe ngokuthe ngcipheko nge shishini lakho.
Indlela yokufunda ukudlala ngothando kunye namadoda, iimfihlo ezimbalwa:
- sifunde kakhulu, ukwenzela ukuba ube ngumhlali othakazelisayo. Hlalani nihlala ninokuhlala kunye nokuphucula kwangoku kwihlabathi lomculo, i-cinema, ezopolitiki kunye nezoqoqosho;
- soloko uhlala. Ukuze ukukholisa indoda, akudingekile ukuba ivele phambi kwayo njengesihendo esibulalayo;
- Ukwazi ukuphulaphula ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Nabani na umntu uthanda ukuphulaphula ngokunyamekileyo kunye nomdla wokwenene. Ukubonisa umdla, ngezinye izihlandlo ungabuza umbuzo oholayo imibuzo, uchaze ngamanye amagama akhe;
- zincoma. Nangona kunjalo, kule ngxaki kubalulekile ukugcina umlinganiselo, kuba ngamanye amaxesha indumiso inokuzwakala ngathi i-flattery.