Mhle, mude, kunye nokwakhiwa kwezemidlalo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kwihashe elimhlophe (kwinguqu yanamhlanje ngemoto emhlophe ephuma ngaphandle). Ngamehlo amaninzi amantombazana lo mfanekiso uye waba yimpumelelo kwiminyaka emininzi. Kodwa yintoni yokwenza abantu abancinci, abancinci ngamadoda emzimbeni? Kodwa uninzi oluninzi kweli hlabathi! Ngoko, nantoni na into ongayithethayo, umbuzo woluphi uhlobo lwamadoda okwenene kufuneka afane nalo luye lwaba lixesha elide. Kodwa siyazama ukuphendula.
Yintoni okufanele ibe yindoda efanelekileyo?
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukukhangela umfazi wesimo esifanelekileyo, makhe sibone oko abafazi bethu abathandekayo abafuna ngokwenene kubantu. Ngoku kutshanje, izazi zeengqondo zenze uphando, injongo yalokuba kukunyanzeliswa ukuba ngaba iimfuno zabasetyhini zidibana neempawu ezithandwa ngabantu abaninzi. Njengomphumo wophando kwavela ukuba i-16% kuphela yabasetyhini baqonda ubulili obuqilima ngaphandle kobugwenxa. Amanye amantombazana anokuba neengcinga ezininzi, okanye afuna ukufumana isiqingatha sesibini. Masiwususe onke amaqhinga malunga nokuba umntu ufanele abe njani:
I-stereotype e-1: umzimba uhluthwe. Yaye uya kulungiselela ukutya kubadlali, kwaye kwi-gym uza kuchitha ixesha elingaphezulu kunako.
I-2: Iimpawu ezintle. Ewe, indoda kufuneka ibe yinto encinci ngakumbi kunesilwanyana. Kodwa ukuboleka ebomini bomntu "Apollo" ukulungiselela izihlwele zamafowuni kunye neefowuni zabo ngee-clock kunye neesms. Ukongezelela, njengoko kuboniswe yimiba emininzi, aba bantu baxhomekeka kakhulu. Yintoni oya kubakho kumntu obhalwe kakuhle?
I-3-stereotype: umthandi wabantwana kunye nezilwanyana. Qala ukuhlala kunye, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukhokela i-Doberman okanye iSt. Bernard. Ewe, ukuba unethamsanqa, kwaye awukhubeki kuloo moya ongenalo lwendalo kunye nezilwanyana.
Umzobo-4: isitayela. Ingqiqo yenkcazo yala ma-guys kufanele ibe khona ngokungabonakaliyo. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukulibala ukuba abalandeli befashoni bajikeleza phambi kwesibuko ngeeyure ezingama-2 kwaye ngelixa ufike emva komsebenzi, ibhabha iya kuba yimihlali yakho.
Indoda yokwenene, uphi na?
Ukucinga malunga neyiphi impawu umntu ayenayo, musa ukwakha ingcinga kunye nokulindela okungeke kwenzeke. Uninzi lweempazamo zenziwa ngexesha apho abafazi, belungiselela ingcamango yabo phambili, baqale ukuqhathanisa nendoda yangempela. Yaye ixesha lokudumala liqala. Ewe, indoda yakho ineempawu ezixhasayo. Ukwabelana ngemvakalelo yakho nembono ebomini. Kodwa ... Ngokukhawuleza ekufikeni kobudlelwane obunzulu, uqala ukuziphatha ngendlela ehlukile kunokuba ungathanda. Apha ke, kukho ukukhohlisa. Indoda efanelekileyo iya kuziphatha ngendlela oyifunayo, kodwa eyona nto ayikho! Enyanisweni, umntu ofanelekileyo kwimvelo akakho nje.
Kodwa musa ukukhawuleza ukuthukuthela. Abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo nabo banombono malunga nantoni iimpawu umntu ayenayo kunye noko kufuneka alwele:
- Ukuba nengqondo. Nabani na umntu omele azi ukuba usebenzisa ubuchopho bakhe. Ewe, ukuba ingqondo iyongezwa kwaye ihlaziywe.
- Amandla. Ngokusemthethweni kwimida efanelekileyo yokukwazi ukuzimela, kunye nokukhusela intombazana yabo, umntwana, kwaye iwanike ukhuseleko.
- Uthando lwa bantwana. Indoda efanelekileyo kufuneka ibe nguyise omhle. Kodwa njengokuba umkhuba ubonakalisile, lo mgangatho uyavuswa kumadoda ngokukhawuleza,
ngokungathi amantombazana ayefuna. - Ukupha. Indoda akufanele ikhuphe izipho kumfazi kunye nabantwana. Kakade ke, oku kufanelekileyo kwimeko ukuba umfazi ngumntu ophangiweyo ofuna izipho kuphela, okanye imali aza kuchitha kwii-trinkets.
Kwaye indoda eyinyani kufuneka imiswe, ikwazi ukuzithemba, ixhomekeke kwaye iyenze kakuhle. Kodwa akukho mntu unelungelo lokunqabela le ndoda engumntu onobudlova ukuba abe ngumntwana ongunaphakade, ukuthanda imoto nokumba egaraji, ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo, okanye ukusela ubhiya, ehleli embhedeni nokubukela ibhola. Le mikhuba iya kuhlala ihlala ebomini babantu. Kwaye abafazi abathandekayo banokunika isiluleko esisodwa. Ukubuza umbuzo wendoda enyanisekileyo ukuba yintoni, khumbula: isethi seempawu ezintle asikwenzi ukuba nobuntu bonke bube buhle. Ekugqibeleni, nangona unako ukulawula ukuhlangabezana nomnye endleleni yakho yokuphila, uya kushiya kuyo ngaphandle kokufumana isizathu sokufumanisa iphoso kwaye uhamba ngobuqhophololo.