Ubuhlobo obunzulu nomntu, obandakanya ukudala intsapho eqinile - akunjalo ukuba onke amabhinqa amaphupha ngawo? Ubudlelwane obusekelwe ekuthembeleni, uthando, ukwamkelwa, ubuhlobo kunye nomvakalelo "wecala" emva kwabo ngumsebenzi wemihla ngemihla emacaleni omabini.
Kuthetha ntoni "ubuhlobo obunzulu"?
Ubuhlobo obunzulu - yiyiphi na? Ngaba kukho nayiphi na imigaqo apho umntu angaqonda ukuba ubuhlobo bukhule bube lukhulu kwaye lunentsingiselo? Ewe, iinjongo okanye iimpawu zilandelayo:
- iimvakalelo ezinzulu ngomnye nomnye, isimemezelo sothando;
- umboniso ofanayo kunye nabalingani babo kwikamva elihlangeneyo, ukucwangcisa, kwiintetho rhoqo siva "thina", endaweni ye "I";
- umnqweno wokwakha intsapho eqinile, thetha ngabantwana;
- amaqabane agxininise ngokupheleleyo kunye kwaye akafunanga "izinketho" zokukhetha.
Unokufumana njani umntu olwalamano oluqinileyo?
Kuphi ukudibana nendoda ngobuhlobo obunzulu? Lo mbuzo unokuvakala kubantu besetyhini, banxunguwe yedwa, "batshisa" ubudlelwane obudlulileyo kunye nalabo abanoyiko lokuzibandakanya nabantu. Akukho mpendulo engabonakaliyo kulo mbuzo, kuxhomekeka kwinto leyo umfazi ekholelwa kuyo, yintoni ekhokelwa nguye. Kwabanye kubalulekile ukuba athi "ukufumana isiphephelo kwisitofu" - bahlala balinde, kwaye umntu uthatha iiphelo zabo ezandleni zabo aze eze kwiintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo, enethemba lokuhlangabezana naloo mnye.
Icandelo ngalinye lihlukile. Kodwa ingongoma ebalulekileyo apha iya kuba yinto ecacileyo yowesifazane malunga nendlela afanele abe ngayo, indoda yakhe ngobuhlobo obunzulu? Ukucinga ukuba ulwalamano olude olude olude kuphela ekufuneni indoda lugwenxa. Amantombazana, abafazi abafuna ubudlelwane obunjalo, kufuneka baveze ngokucacileyo ukuba banokubanika abakhethiweyo ukuba yintoni igalelo labo. Aba-Esotericists bakholelwa ukuba le nkcazelo iya kutsala indoda elungileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, apho ungabonisana nomntu olungileyo ulwalamano olunzulu:
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuvezwa njani, kungathi kubekho ixesha lokubheka ngeenxa zonke, ngamanye amaxesha okufunekayo kukude (ukuhlala kwindlu enye, umnyango, esitratweni esiseduze kwaye ulindele ukuba aqaphele);
- Ukuba le nto idolophana encinane (idolophana, idolophini), apho umntu angafanele alinde "ulwandle lwemozulu", ukhetho olulodwa - ukutshintsha indawo yokuhlala, kunzima kwaye kuyingozi, kodwa ukuba ulwalamano olunzulu lubekwe phambili, umngcipheko ufanelekile.
- Iintanethi zentlalo, ii-intanethi - kukho inkolelo yokuba kwi-intanethi baqhelane kuphela nokuzonwabisa, kunye nolwalamano oluqinileyo lugunyaziso lweentlanganiso kwindawo. Kodwa akusiyo yonke into edabukisayo njengoko kubonakala, kwaye ithuba lokuzilana nomntu ofanelekileyo kwiqonga elithethileyo alikho ithemba, oku kungenxa yokuba umsebenzi wabantu abaninzi uphakamileyo kakhulu, kwaye i-Intanethi yindawo ekhuselekileyo yokumazi: akukho mntu ukhawuleza, kunye nefuthe lomqhubi Unokuhlala unyule intlanganiso eya kuphawula "i", abantu bayasondela okanye bangena.
- Umfazi udlalela imifanekiso yeempawu zakhe zekamva. Abanye banomdlali wezemidlalo, umculi, umculi, abanye banomdla weNobel, ososayensi. Nali icebiso elilodwa kukuba kubekho kwimeko apho amadoda anjalo "ahlala khona": iinkomfa, imiboniso, imicimbi yezemidlalo, iikonkethi.
Ukuthandana kwenkonzo ngobuhlobo obunzulu
"Ukutshata ngobuhlobo obunzulu nomtshato" - namhlanje iintengiso ezinjalo aziqhelekanga, ii-arhente zomtshato okanye iinkonzo zokuthandana, zifuna kakhulu phakathi kwabantu. Abadlali bezemidlalo babe nezohlukeneyo zezakhono ezibavumela ukuba bakhethe indoda okanye ibhinqa ngenxa yobudlelwane obukhulu kunye nokuhambelana okuphezulu ngokwemigaqo yeengqondo kunye neeprogram zeenkwenkwezi. Oku kuyindlela enhle abantu abaxakekileyo kunye nabo bayika ukuzazana nabo.
Ukwazi njani umntu ongezinye iintlanga ngobuhlobo obunzulu?
Unokufumana njani umntu osisityebi ngobuhlobo obusondeleyo, kwaye nawasemzini? Ngokuqhelekileyo lo mbuzo ucelwa ngamantombazana amancinci aneenjongo eziphakamileyo kunye nenjongo ethile, abazimisele ukufezekisa. Oku kungokoqobo kunokuba ubhekane nokubheka okungakumbi. Kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje, apho ukufikelela kumazwe ahlukeneyo, ukuhamba, ukuhamba kwezoshishino, imfundo yokutshintshiselana kwamanye amazwe ingafumaneka kwilizwe lakho. Ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba intombazana okanye ibhinqa elibekele eli njongo ukufunda iilwimi zangaphandle, umzekelo isiNgesi.
Kwiidolophu ezinkulu, kukho iiklabhu zolwimi ezihlelwe kwi-cafe-apho ungasoloko uqhelana nabangaphandle. Ungalahlekelwa kunye neendawo zokuthandana nokufumana iqabane lomtshato kwihlabathi lonke, kodwa kufuneka ukhangele kwisayithi ekhethiweyo. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba ihlangabezana neendlela zokukhusela, kuba kukho amaxesha amaninzi okukhwabanisa kwezi ziza. Eyaziwayo kwi-intanethi yamasayithi okuthandana:
- cutonly.ru;
- al-o.ru;
- internationalcupid.com;
- meetic.com;
- eHarmony.
Indlela yokwakha ubuhlobo obunzulu nomntu?
Ukuthandana kwentsapho kunye nolwalamano olunzulu luxanduva olukhulu. Ezinye iingcebiso zeengqondo zeengqondo zokwakha ubuhlobo obunzulu:
- Omnye umntu akakwazi ukutshintshwa, unokutshintsha wena kuphela, ngoko ukufundisa umntu ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane obunzulu, wonke umntu ufuna ukuhlala;
- kubalulekile ukuba ibhinqa ithathe isinyathelo sokuqala kuye;
- ukuba kukho impikiswano, musa ukubandakanya ubudlelwane babazali, abahlobo;
- Ukudibanisa okuhlangeneyo kuqinisa uxhulumaniso;
- ukukwazi ukuphulaphula, ukuva oko indoda ifuna ukuthetha nokukwazi ukuphulaphula xa egula;
- xelela indoda ngokuthe rhoqo ukuba uyathandwa kwaye uyathandwa;
- Iimangalisa, izinto ezintle - abantu bayayithanda ngokulinganayo kunye nabasetyhini, kubalulekile ukumangaliswa kwaye bayayithanda ngokuphindaphindiweyo;
- Inhlonipho yinqanawa ebangela ukuthanda, ngaphandle kwentlonipho, ubudlelwane obunzima.
Ungaqonda njani ukuba umntu ufuna ubuhlobo obunzulu?
Amantombazana anamava amaninzi ekusebenzisaneni nesini esahlukileyo ahlala ebuza: indlela yokuqonda ukuba lo mfana ufuna ubuhlobo obunzulu? Phakathi kwabantu abancinci, banomdla kunye nabo bafuna ukuzonwabisa. Indoda okanye indoda esele ikhulile, ebhekise ngokungqongqo kwikhethiweyo yakhe ibonisa kanje:
- uzama ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nentanda yakho;
- ibonisa ukunyamekela nokunyamekela;
- Uthanda ukumjonga emehlweni;
- uzame ukufunda okungakumbi malunga nentombi;
- uthetha ngezicwangciso zakhe;
- uyazizihlobo zakhe nabahlobo bakhe;
- ukulungele ukudala ubudlelwane.
Indlela yokuthetha nendoda malunga nobudlelwane obunzulu?
Ubuhlobo obunzulu kunye nomntu okanye umntu - ngokuqhelekileyo lo mnqweno uvela kuqala kumfazi, isondo esomeleleyo asikhawulezi ukuzibophelela kwiimbopheleleko zexesha elide. Indlela yokuthetha nomntu ngokumalunga nobuhlobo:
- xelela inyaniso, yintoni ekulindelwe kulobu buhlobo;
- mema ngobumnene ukuba adibane nabazali kumacala omabini;
- Ukuba indoda ingakulungele ubuhlobo obunzulu, mbuze ukuba athi, kutheni, ukummisa, ukuba ukwesaba , unokubuyela emva kule ngxoxo xa ekulungele.
Indlela yokudlulisa ubudlelwane obukhululekile kwiintsebenziswano ezinzulu?
Ibhinqa lithembele ukuba umntu uya kuhlala ngenye imini, kunokuthatha iminyaka emininzi, kodwa uya kulinda. Indlela yokuguqulela ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwembopheleleko kwizinto ezinzulu? Ukuba oku akuzange kwenzeke ngexesha elaneleyo, akunakwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke. Kodwa ungazama. Ukwenza oku, zama ukudala indawo enjalo, ukuze umntu abe nomuvo wokuthi uyakwazisa kwaye uyathandwa, akusebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa yonke into iyodwa.
Indoda ayifuni ulwalamano olunzulu, yintoni enokuyenza?
Umntu akafuni ulwalamano olunzulu-kubalulekile ukuvavanya ubudlelwane obunjalo, ukuba lufanelekile, ngoko kufuneka uthathe inyathelo ezandleni zakho, uthethe kumntu, ufumane izicwangciso zakhe, ithemba. Ukuba akaziboni ubuhlobo obunzulu, kuyafaneleka ukuyeka ukukhwabanisa nokuhlukana, ukufumana umntu ofuna ukuhamba kwelinye icala, apho iimpawu zentsapho zibalulekile. Ngomfazi obambelele ebuhlotsheni obukhululekile kwaye ukwesaba ukuba yedwa , kufuneka uzinyamekele, ukuba uzibonele umntu ontle ofanelekileyo, onxulumene naye.
Kutheni abantu besaba ulwalamano olunzulu?
Indoda ayifuni ulwalamano olunzulu ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo:
- Wakhula engenalo uyise, loo madoda ayesaba uxanduva lokuba bangashiya intsapho nanini na;
- xa intombi yakhe yamshiya;
- ukwesaba okanye ukungathandi ukuzala;
- ukulahlekelwa kozimela;
- azinako ukufumana olo dlelwane ngenxa yokungabi nokuzinza kwemali.