Indoda ijwayele ukunyamekela iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zentombi yakhe intombazana / intombazana, xa edibene naye. Mhlawumbi, le ndlela yokuziphatha yamadoda amaninzi ngenxa yokuba ayinayo (okanye ayifuni) ukuveza ngaphandle iimvakalelo zabo ngaphandle. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo ukungahoywa kwenzeka ngenxa yezizathu ezithile. Abafazi bahlala becinga ukuba umntu uyayithanda kwaye ayinaki ngexesha elifanayo, kwaye impendulo yalo mbuzo ingafumaneka apha ngezantsi.
Kutheni umntu athi uyamthanda, kodwa uyayigatya?
Amadoda athambekele ekufumaneni ingqalelo kunye novelwano lwabafazi abathandayo, kodwa emva koko banokuzigcina bexakeke kakhulu, kubanda. Intombazana iyakwazi ukuyijonga le ndoda yendoda ukususela ekuqaleni kwesazi. Nangona kukho imizekelo yezibini ezinamava omnxibelelwano, apho amadoda aziphatha ngokungathi aziqapheli iqabane lawo. Kutheni i-romance kunye necala lendoda ibe nemiphumo engaqhelekanga? Kule nto, amadoda anezizathu zabo.
- Amantombazana kufuneka afunde, ukuba umntu uyayigxeka, akuthethi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuba akayithandi intombazana esondele kuye.
- Isizathu sokubanda kubangelwa ukuba emva kokumazana nentombazana, le ndoda yaqonda ukuba yayingekho "yakhe". Kodwa akayi kubhidliza ubudlelwane.
- Olunye ulwahlulo phakathi kobudlelwane lungabonakaliswa ngenxa yokuba umntu "akavuthanga" olwalamano olunzulu. Kodwa uyayithanda intombazana, kwaye akafuni ukuyivala.
- Namhlanje, amadoda atyholwa ngo-infantilism. Ngokubhekiselele kulo mkhuba uye wasasazeka kwindoda ethile, ngowesifazane kuphela onokugweba. Ngexesha elifanayo, kunokubonwa ngamehlo angaboniweyo ukuba amanye amadoda ayesaba uxanduva olusenyongweni olutsha.
- Emva kokuba "ukunqotshwa" komfazi, indoda "iyancipha" encinane kwaye ilahlekelwe ngumdla kwimidlalo yokudlala indima. Ukuba iqabane lingamthinteli kuzo zonke iinjongo, ngokukodwa kwimigqaliselo engqameneyo, ngoko akayi kuceba ukuphula ulwalamano olunjalo. Kodwa ngexesha elinye (umntu ofana naye) ibhinqa liyaqonda ukuba kwindawo yakhe inokuba nayiphi na enye.
- Nantsi enye impendulo kumbuzo othi umfana uyayigatya intombazana ayithandayo. Indoda ingayinaki ngamabhinqa intombazana ayithandayo kwiimeko ezimbini: ukuba ucinga ukuba ulungile kakhulu kuye; ukuba ngale ndlela ufuna ukutsala ingqalelo kwintombazana, bangela ukuba aphendule iimvakalelo.
- Ubomi benene, imimangaliso yokunyanzela intombazana enomntu ngenxa yokuba kufuneka ikhulise ukuzithemba kwayo ngale ndlela.
- Ubuqili bobudlelwane bunokuchaphazeleka ukungakwazi komntu ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye nomfazi, ukuba akazange abone ubudlelwane obunjalo kwisangqa esondeleyo. Esi sihlandlo sizathu sokuba indoda ingayinaki ibhinqa ayithandayo, kwaye engayifuni ukwahlukana nayo.
Umfazi akanakho ukuqonda izizathu ezifanelekileyo zokuziphatha kwendoda yakhe, kodwa umfazi onothando uya kuhlala ezama ukuthetha ngokuphila kunye nomlingane wakhe. Ukunxibelelana kunye nethemba yindlela efanelekileyo yokugcina ubudlelwane.