Kwiminyaka ye-20 kuphela, i-psychotherapists, i-psychoanalyst kunye neengqondo zeengqondo ziye zazingena ekufundeni lonke uluvo lweemvakalelo phakathi kwabasetyhini namadoda. Awunayo ukuya kubaxhamli beenhlanhla, ukuze ufunde kabanzi ngothando. Inzululwazi yanamhlanje iyakwazi ukuxelela okuninzi malunga, kubandakanywa nokuba kukho iimpawu zothando.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba kukho iintlobo ezintandathu zothando. Zifana nje ngaphandle, kodwa iimvakalelo ezizizalisayo ziyahlukahlukana. Ngoko ke, ngazo zonke iingxelo, iintlobo ezinjalo zothando njenge pragma, agape kunye nevenkile zibhekisela ekuthandeni, kwaye i-lyudus kunye ne-eros ibhekisela kwinto efana nothando luthando, ukuthanda, ukuthanda.
Iimpawu zothando lwenene
Uthando lunemimandla emininzi kwaye zonke ziyinkimbinkimbi ngendlela yazo. Zizahlula zibe ziiprayimari nezesekondari.
Iimpawu zothando oluphambili zikhoyo kuwo wonke umntu, nangona ngoku angenalo iqabane elingunaphakade. Ngokomzekelo, oku kubonakaliswa kwinqweno yentombazana ukuba ihlale ikhangeleka ingenakuqhathaniswa, igqoke imihlobiso eyahlukeneyo, ijonge ukwakheka kwayo. Kubantu abancinci, iimpawu eziphambili zivakaliswe ngaphezu kwezesondo zesini. Ngoko, uphawu oluyinhloko lothando lwabantu lubonakaliso lokukhangwa kwesondo. Ukuba, ngelixa encokola nawe, umnxibelelwano wakho ujonge umgca wokunqunyulwa kwakho ixesha elide, ngoko uyazi ukuba unokuthiwa ngumyeni.
Akuyi kuba ngongqongqo ukubonisa ukuba le miqondiso ibonakaliswa ngokubonakalayo kumadoda amakhulu, kwaye nakwabasetyhini abasebekhulile bayazibonakalisa benomnqweno onqwenelekayo wokubhaka ama-pie kubantu abathandayo.
Impawu zokuqala zesithandabu sesibini zivakalelwa kakhulu. Kwiimantombazana, zibonakalisa ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza kwemizwa, akukho mgca ocacileyo phakathi kokunxiliswa nokungathintekiyo kwaye, ngokungaqhelekanga, umnqweno wokulandela amaxesha, ukhangela iwashi. Kwabesetyhini abavuthiweyo, bazibonakalisa bekulungele ukubeka ubungqina bezinto zakhe, ekuzameni ukwenza izixhobo zokutya.
Kubasetyhini abaneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, iimpawu zesibini zothando oluqinileyo zisondele kwisini. Abafazi besithandweni baninzi badla ngokutshintsha ukubonakala kwabo, i-hairstyle, ingubo, ibhatyi, i-perfume.
Kwimakhwenkwe, iimpawu zesibini zibonakaliswa ngenye indlela yobulumko, zinokukhonza unqulo lwazo, ziwa ngobuntwaneni kwaye ziziphatha njengamakhwenkwe amancinci. Kwakhona le miqondiso ibonakaliswa ngentshukumo yale ncinane. Kungabonakala kuye ukuba zininzi izithintelo kuye konwabo.
Kwimadoda endala, le miqondiso ibonakaliswe kwinto yokuba, ngelixa ehambelayo, phantse isasazeka, njengokungathi ekhaya, esihlalweni. Kodwa asikho uphawu lwesibini lokuba uza kuwe ngeentyantyambo kwiintlanganiso. Iintyatyambo azikho na uphawu lothando. Nangona kunjalo ingaqhelekanga, imiqondiso yothando lwenene ayifaki ishokoleta enikwe yona, njl. Kodwa ukuba umntu uhlamba izitya endlwini yakho, kufuneka ucinge ngako.
Izimpawu ezingabonakali zothando
Izimpawu ezibalulekileyo zokubonakaliswa kothando ngumzimba womzimba womntu othandwayo.
- Ngoko, indoda ethandekayo iya kuhlala izama ukuhlala entsimini yempembelelo yowesifazane (kumgama we-1-1.5 m ukusuka kuye).
- Akumangalisi, kodwa uya kuzenza ukuba akanandaba nomkhethiweyo. Ukususela ebuntwaneni bentsapho, le ndlela yokuziphatha ibonakala yindoda.
- Ngomntu onothando, ukuthintela kubaluleke kakhulu. Kwinqanaba lokuqala loqhagamshelwano, uyazama, ngokusobala ngengozi, ukulimaza umfazi, umzekelo, ukudlulisa indebe yetiyi.
- Kwaba besifa kubunzima ukuphazamisa amehlo abo, ngamanye amaxesha bawagxotha phantsi kweelusiki.
- Njengamadoda, abafazi bayakwazi ukunyanzela umthandi wabo. Behave njengaba bafazi abambalwa abanomntu wesilisa.
- Abafazi abanconyayo ababukeli kude nomntu ofunayo. Xa iimbono zabo zidibene, zihlazo, kunokwenzeka ukuba kuboniswa, kubheka kude.
Uthando luvakalelo olunzima. Fundisisa iimvakalelo zakho, iimvakalelo, ungazidibanisi uthando nothando, ungazivumeli ukuba ukhohliswe yimvakalelo.