Kukho uluvo lokuba umntu onxilisayo ubiza loo ntombazana enomdla kwaye engakhathaleli ngaye, baninzi banxilisayo kwi-fly baxhatshazwa ngeefowuni "ngaphantsi kwe-fly," bafuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni eyenza ukuba bayenze kwaye bayiphathe njani. Ukuba umntu ubiza umnxila, oko kuthetha ntoni ngokubhekiselele kwimiqondo yengqondo - kweli nqaku.
Kutheni umntu ebiza kuphela xa esela?
Ukuba umntu onengqondo akanalo mnqweno kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo, umfazi akayi kumbona kwaye akadibana naye kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo, kodwa uva kuphela ilizwi "kwiibhentshi ezinxilisayo", ke le sihlandlo sokucinga. Inokwenzeka ukuba, indoda ayimxabisi kwaye ayimhloneli, ukuba ingakwazi ukuvusa ngefowuni kunye nokuziphulaphula. Utywala wenza umntu akhululwe kwaye abe nesibindi, asuse onke amabheki kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngosuku olulandelayo indoda iziva ikhululekile kwaye izisola malunga noko akwenzileyo. Abo bazibuza ukuba kutheni umntu ebiza utywala kuphela, unokuphendula ukuba izizathu zezi zinto zinokuhluka: uziva unesizungu, ufuna ukuthetha kunye nethemba lokuba ekupheleni kwaloo bhubhe uya kuxolelwa aze aphulaphule.
Ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukufumana into ethile, kodwa nangona kunjalo, uyaqiniseka ukuba baya kuthatha i-receiver ekupheleni kwaloo nto, kuba nabo bafuna ukuthetha ngongoma obunzima, baqede ulwalamano okanye baye balinda ixesha elide ukuba baxelele ngothando. Ewe, ngaphantsi kwefuthe lotywala, indoda ikulungele ukukrazula ngakwesokunene sayo yashiya malunga neemvakalelo zakhe , kodwa nokuba ikholelwa kuye, ukuba yenze isigqibo kumfazi kuphela. Ukuba le nto ibe yinye yeengxabano ezinzima, unokuzisola nje kuphela, ngenxa yokuba umlingani othandana naye ubiza umnxila kuphela, kodwa uyaza, kwaye wenza ubomi bemihla ngemihla into enyanzelekile ukuyenza kumthandi - ukukhathalela, ukukhathalela, Uchitha ixesha kunye nentanda yakhe kunye nezicwangciso zekamva. Ukuba umntu ubiza umnxila, ecasulayo ngokuthetha nantoni na aze aphele kwiqela elithile lokuphuza, ngoko siyakwazi ukuphelisa ubomi bakhe ngokuphepha kwaye singenanto yokuba nethemba.