Wonke umfazi ufuna ukufumana izipho ezivela kwintanda yakhe, kwaye ngaphezu kwesinye kwisicwangciso seminyaka emihlanu, kodwa ngenxa yokuba umntu wakhe ufumanisa ukuba kuyimfuneko ukukholisa nokunyanzela intombi yakhe. Kodwa ke inhlanhla ayikho yonke into, kwaye abanye besetyhini baxineke kakhulu ngenxa yokungabikho kwengqalelo enjalo kubathembekile babo. Kuthekani ukuba umntu akapheli izipho, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, kutheni le nto yenzeka?
Abanye bacinga ukuba impendulo yombuzo, kutheni umyeni okanye umthandi enganikeli izipho, unokuba ngumgangatho wakhe. Njengoko, owokuqala sele efumene yonke into ayifunayo kwaye ngoku unakho ukulibala ngezipho, kodwa okwesibini, ngokuchaseneyo, ukunika izipho kunyanzelekile, kuba xa umthandi enganiki izipho, kutheni uceliwe? Ukuba yonke into yayilula. Akunjalo isimo somntu othandekayo, kungekhona kwindawo yakhe yentlalo. Impendulo yombuzo othi kutheni enganiki izipho ifihliwe kumntu wesibini kunye nemali, iholide kunye nomfazi wakhe.
- Umfana akasaniki izipho, kutheni? Musa ukucinga ukuba ingxaki ikhona ukungabi nemali. Emva kwakho konke, asiyikucela i-roses imihla ngemihla, kodwa isibonakaliso esincinci sokuqwalasela ngexesha elide, unokuthatha imali encinci yemali ukususela kwisabelomali esincinci. Ewe, kwaye sonke siyakhumbula ibali eliphawulekayo lika-O. Henry "Izipho zeMagi," apho abathandekayo babedelela okokugqibela ababenakho, kuphela ukukholisa umphefumlo wabo. Ngoko ukulungiswa "akukho mali" ayithathwa ngokungathí sina.
- Mhlawumbi xa umntu enganiki izipho, akayicingi ukuba kuyimfuneko? Enyanisweni, kukho amadoda anjalo awanakho ukuqonda isizathu sokuba anike izipho azizithandayo, ngokuqinisekileyo, akanalo uthando. Indoda enjalo inokuba ngumntu onothando, omnene nolungileyo, ukuba akunjalo kule ngxaki encinci. Ngoko kukuthintela ukuthini ukumxelela ngaye? Ukutsho ukuba izinto ezintle zithandekile kuwe, nokuba ngaba iinqumle zithatyathwe kwiimibhede zeentyatyambo? Into ephambili yokwenza oku akuveli kumnyango, kwaye akukho mzekelo ungenzi ama-scandals okanye wenze amabango kumntu wakho. Kodwa akumele uyenze ngamacebiso - indoda, ilayishwe iingxaki zomhla wokusebenza, ayikwazi ukuhlawulwa nayiphi na ingcebiso zakho. Ufuna nje ukuthabatha umzuzu ofanelekileyo, uxelele umnqweno wakho ngokuzenzekelayo malunga noko ungabikho kobudlelwane bakho. Futhi ungakulibali ukumxelela ngaphambili ngeempawu zakhe ezilungileyo, okanye mhlawumbi uya kukhubeka xa ugxeka. Kwaye unokuzama ukuqala ukunika izipho ngokwakho, indoda iya kuqonda ukuba iyamnandi okanye ayiyi kuba nzima kuye ukuba uza kuwe ungenanto kwaye uqala ukukwenza izinto ezixhamlayo.
- Kwaye mhlawumbi unomdla? Olu khetho lunokwenzeka, kwaye lusizi ngokwaneleyo, lwenzeka rhoqo. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Ayikho inketho eninzi, nokuba inxalenye okanye yamkele. Ngenxa yokuchazela abantu abanomdla ukuba izipho (kungekhona nje ngosuku lokuzalwa) ziyimfuneko, njengomoya, akunakwenzeka. Amadoda anjalo aqwalasela yonke i-ruble echithekile, ngenxa yokuba yayifumaneka kamva kunye negazi. Futhi uchithe imali kwizinto ezingenangqondo, njengezipho zomfazi othandekayo, kuba umntu onobukrakra unzima kakhulu. Awufaneli nje ezintlekweni zabo, ukuba imali eyimali enzima ingasetyenziselwa into engenanzuzo, into engenakuyenza lula ngaphandle kwayo. Ngako oko, intliziyo yokuthetha ngentliziyo ngokunyanisekileyo malunga nesidingo soxolo lwakho lwengqondo izipho, okunokwenzeka, kuya kubakho nto.
- Kutheni umntu engaboni izipho? Mhlawumbi oko kungabandakanyi ukubaluleka kobudlelwane bakho. Ngelishwa, akanandaba nawe namava akho.
Ngako oko, akazami ukukholisa wena, akayidingi nje. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ingava njani, kungcono ukuyeka ulwalamano olunjalo. Kutheni ufuna umntu ongakuxabanga nonke? Ngokuqinisekileyo uzama ukuthanda kwakhe, kodwa awukwazi ukunyanzeliswa ngamandla. - Ukuba umntu akaniki izipho, mhlawumbi uyisiphoso sakho? Khumbula indlela odibene ngayo nayo yonke into? Ngomgoqo onganelisekiyo kunye nokugxekwa? Nantsi imbangela kuwe, kuya kuba nzima ukulungisa imeko ngoku.
Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, ukukholisa umthandwa wakho ukuba ufuna izipho, kwaye uqala ukuwamkela, ungalibali malunga nempendulo - indoda yakho ifuna iimpawu zokuqwalasela, nangona engathethi ngayo.