Uthando kunye nomnqweno yizona zivakalelo neemvakalelo zabantu. Ngako oko, maxa wambi kunzima ukuqonda ukuba yiyiphi into esiyijongayo ngexesha elinye. Ukukhanga kokuqala kunokuba ngumdla oqhelekileyo owamukelwa ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezinzulu. Ngamanye amaxesha inokukhula ibe yintando , kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba oku kunokubangela ukudumazeka. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ukubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu, ngoko unokuwa ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ngaba oku kuya kuba yintliziyo yangempela? Emva kwakho konke, awuzange umbone umntu ngokwenene.
Kwinto ebalulekileyo yentshiseko
Ukunyamezela kuhambelana nokuvuya, uvuyo, uxhalabe, ukulindela. Ingaba nezithako ezininzi, kodwa ngokugqithiseleyo zonke zilungile. Ngako oko, lo mvakalelo udideka ngothando. Ngethuba lokunyamekela, umntu ufumana ukukhuthazwa ngokomoya, ufuna ukuyenza into ethile (umzekelo, ugijime ekuseni, ugibele, udansa, njl.) Ngexesha elifanayo ngcamango malunga nokukhangela ungashiyi okwesibini. Ndifuna ukuba kufuphi nalo mntu, mthinte, ube yingxenye yobomi bakhe. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba le nqwenelo ingafikelela kumgangatho wokugqithisa.
Njengoko iingqondo zengqondo ziqaphele, ukunyamekela kuyimvukelo yokuphila, kwaye yonke into yimihlathi yayo. Umzimba uphuma kwilizwe lokuphumla, abantu balahlekelwa ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabo, okusoloko kubangela iingxaki. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza okanye emva koko esi sigqibo siya kudlula okanye siphele, kuba sinemida.
Ihlabathi lilawulwa uthando
Uthando luhamba kunye nezinye iimpawu. Njengomthetho, kukho ubudlelwane obusondelene obukhulu phakathi kwabathandi. Xa uzonwabela ngokunyanisekileyo ulwanxibelelwano lomnye, sebenzisa ixesha kunye kunye, khumbula ngokuchulumancisa ezi zihlandlo ezimnandi - kwixesha elinjalo umntu uyakwazi ukumthanda ngayo yonke intliziyo yakhe. Uyakwazi ukucinga ngokuza kubakho ikamva elilodwa kunye neqabane lakho, qala ukuhlakulela ngenxa yalowo mntu, ufuna ukumnika ulonwabo ngokubuyisela. Uyamthemba kakhulu kangangokuba awuyikwesaba ukubonisa iimpazamo zakho, ubuthathaka, phambi kwakhe.
Ngoko, ngoDkt. Fischer, uthando alukwazi ukuhlala ngonaphakade, mhlawumbi abantu abaninzi baya kufa ngenxa yokudinwa, abanakusebenza okanye baye kwiiklinikhi zengqondo. Kungcono ukugcina ubudlelwane obusondelene kunye nokuvelisa into emnandi kubo. Kule meko, uthando kunye nokunyamekela okulawulwayo kuyafana.
Umthi
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uphonswe ngumlilo, kufuneka ukwazi oku kulandelayo:
- Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ukuba uyayiqonda indlela ummangaliso owenzeka ngayo, uyayeka ukuba khona. IiHormones ze-serotonin kunye ne-dopamine zivelisa ukunyameka, amandla kunye nesimo esihle sengqondo . Kwaye, ukuba uziva uvelwano, iimvakalelo zinokunyuka. I-Adrenaline kunye ne-norepinephrine kubangela ukuxhalaba, ukuthuthumela kunye nentliziyo ekhawulezayo. Ukongeza, ngokuthambekela okunamandla, i-enkephalin kunye ne-endorphin ziqala ukuveliswa, nto leyo eyongeza ngakumbi imeko. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyayiqonda ukuba umnqweno uqala ukuthatha, unqande ukuwuphatha njengento ethile yemilingo kunye nokukhohlisa. Ekuqalekeni, le nto yinkimbinkimbi, kodwa emva kokuba ulandela ezi ngcebiso, yonke into iya kuba lula kunokuba ungacinga.
- Ukuba ufuna ukudibana nothando lwakho lokwenene, musa ukukhawuleza ungene echibini kunye nentloko yakho kumlingani wokuqala okhangayo.
Kwafunyaniswa ukuba olwalamano oluqinileyo nolona luhlobo luzalwa ngaphandle kobuhlobo. Jonga ngokwakho: udla ngokuthetha kwaye uchithe ixesha, ufunde umntu, ukuziphatha kwakhe, imbeko, indlela aphatha ngayo abanye abantu kunye nokunye. Ngoko ke, ukuba awufuni ukwenza iphutha, nikela ixesha elincinane kubo bobabini. Ukunyamekela kungadlulela ngokukhawuleza kwaye emva koko kuya kubakho ukutshabalalisa ngokukhawuleza, okanye kukwazi ukukhula ibe yintswelo yangempela. Kwizandla zobulumko zentshiseko, njengeziqholo, ezivela kwimveliso eqhelekileyo, ingaba yinto ebonakalayo yecilinary. Into ephambili ayikugqithisi. Gcina ubuhlobo bakho ngokuvisisana. Kwaye nokuba bayaqhubeka okanye akunjalo kuxhomekeke kuphela kubini abathandekayo.