Hayi, kungekhona bonke ubudlelwane bobubele obuhlala ixesha elide kwaye benovuyo. Izibini ezininzi zidibana nobuhlobo. Ukunciphisa i-gap kunzima kubafazi ngenxa yokwenyuka kwengqondo, kunzima ukuba baqale ukwakha ubudlelwane obutsha, kuba abanengqondo abakwazi ukulahla elidala. Kule nqanaba, umbuzo uvame ukuvela njani ukulibala umthandi. Kukho iingcebiso ezininzi eziza kuyenza ngokukhawuleza.
- Yiza ngokwemigaqo yokuhlukana. Kuyabonakala nakwabasetyhini abathile emva kokushiya umthandi ukuba abuyele engqondweni ngesizathu sento eyenzekayo, kwaye kuya kuba njani ukuba ubuya ixesha kwaye ulungisa yonke into. Ezi ngcamango aziyi kubakho nantoni na. Kufuneka uqonde kwaye wamukele ukuba kungekudala okanye kamva kufanele kwenzeke.
- Lahla yonke into ekhumbuza umthandi, cima inombolo yakhe kwifowuni uze ususe kubahlobo kwi-intanethi. Ungazami ukuba apho uthanda khona ngaphambili.
Ungakulibala njani umthandi ukuba uyadityaniswa kuye?
Abanye besetyhini banomtshatile, kodwa ngexesha lokuhlukana, umbuzo wendlela yokulibala. Kule meko, kufuneka uzame ukujonga kwikamva. Ukuqwalasela ukuba umthandi uya "ngasese" ngokusuka kumfazi wakhe, sinokugqiba ekubeni uya kutshintsha kwikamva kunye nenkosikazi yangoku. Emva kwakho konke, uzive njengowesifazane okhohlisayo akafuni.
Kukho umngcipheko ukuba xa umthandi unomphela, kungabakhoxwa, kuba kungabi nakubangelwa intsebenziswano, kwaye akuyi kuba nantoni na yokulwa nayo.
Ungayikhohlwa njani umthandi kwaye uyandithanda nomyeni wakhe?
Ngaphambi komfazi ongathembekanga, kukho imisebenzi emibini - ukulibala umthandi kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba umyeni wakhe akaqapheli ukunyaniseka. Phantse bonke abafazi abangathembekanga bazisola. Iingcamango malunga nokuba kwakuneemvakalelo ngomnye umntu, kwaye kwafuneka ndikhohlise umyeni wam, ndiyongxwelisa. Kule meko, kufuneka wenze konke ukulibala umthandi wakho. Yaye ukuthanda nomyeni wakhe akunzima, kuba eqinisweni, umfazi akayekanga ukumthanda. Kwaye umthandi kwakukho iimvakalelo, kwaye ezininzi zidibanisa ngothando. Kubalulekile ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye neqabane kwaye uqaphele kuye kuphela iimpawu ezilungileyo.