Uthando kunye nolwalamano phakathi kwabathandanayo banezigaba zabo zokuphuhliswa, ezibonakala ziimpawu ezithile.
Amanqanaba omtshato ubudlelwane
- U mtsalane . Isigaba sokuqala sobudlelwane sisisiseko semvelo. Kodwa uluntu lugxininise isinyithi sabantu ukuba sibe nepeyinti ngeetoni ezikhanyayo, ngoko ke eli xesha lihle kakhulu kwaye lingenalutho. Le nqanaba lokutshatyalaliswa ngokukhawulelana kunye nokuthandana komnye nomnye. Abalingani bazame ukubonakala bebhetele, benze omnye nomnye ngangokunokwenzeka, bacinga ukuba banokuqonda okufanayo. Kule nqanaba, abathandi banamathelana kunye nolwalamano ngokwabo, bekholelwa ukuba bafumene uthando lwabo bonke ubomi. Kodwa emva kwexesha kufika ixesha lesibini
- Ukuxhamla . Ixesha eliphakamileyo ukuba iimvakalelo eziqhakazileyo kunye nokugqithiswa kwemiboniso, ama-hormone agqityiweyo, kwaye amaqabane apheli ngokukhawuleza ukuhlobisa umzobo wabo. Ngenxa yoko, bobabini baqala ukuqaphela ukuba uphosa amasokisi akhe ejikeleze indlu, kwaye akayilungiseli kakuhle. Kwaye iiDeveli zikaDeveli zihamba ngokukhawuleza zivela kwizithuthi.
- Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwixesha lobudlelwane, isigaba sokunyaniseka . Ngeli xesha, zonke iingaphulelo zesigamu sesibini zigqithise ngokugqithiseleyo, zibonakala zihlabathi kwaye azivumelekanga. Ngobudlelwane bothando, amadoda nabasetyhini basenkingeni. Ukunganeliseki kunye nokucaphukisa kwenyuka kwaye kube yimpikiswano kunye neengxabano. Ngokuqhelekileyo kule nqanaba ukuhlukana kolwalamano lobubele kulandela. Ngelishwa, isigaba sesithathu asisoze sifike kungekudala, kwaye isibini esitshatileyo sele sinexesha lokutshata kwaye sikhulelwe abantwana ngeli xesha. Into elula kakhulu okwangoku kukubhekisela kumntu ongeyantlukwano lomlingane okanye kwinto yokuba uthando luye lwadlula kwaye luya kwiindiza ezintsha ezinikeza ukuthoma kokuqala. Kodwa enyanisweni, kumanqanaba angaphambili, uthando aluzange luqalise. Ezi nqanaba zobudlelwane zibhekwa njengezona ziphantsi, kuzo zonke izinto zenzeke ngokwalo kwaye azifunanga iimfuno ezizodwa. Uninzi lwabantu luhlala bonke ubudlelwane babo kuphela kwezi zigaba eziphantsi. Ngokwezibalo, ngababini abathathu kwabayishumi abakwaziyo ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo ngeli nqanaba. Ngubo abadlulayo kwisinyathelo sesine.
- Umonde . Kulo mzuzu amaqabane aqala ukubeka isiseko sothando. Iingqungquthela azisayi kufa, iifotukethi emzimbeni ayisekho. Esi sibini sigxininise indlela yokugcina ubudlelwane, kungekhona ukutshabalalisa. Kuphela kweli nqanaba lolwalamano, amaqabane aqala ukuphuhlisa.
- Xanduva . Ukugqithisa iRubicon yabo, amaqabane amanqamana bayeke ukugxila kubo kuphela kwaye aqale ukucinga malunga noko bangayinika khona isiqingatha sabo. Kulo xesha lixanduva kunye nentlonipho. Kukho inkxalabo malunga neqabane kunye neemvakalelo zakhe, ukungafuni ukubangela intlungu kunye nokuphambanisa imeko. Wonke umntu uqala ukuqonda nokuqonda uxanduva lwawo kwaye athatha uxanduva lonke ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane bothando.
- Uhlobo . Kule nqanaba, amaqabane ahluke ngokupheleleyo komnye, kunokuba athathe amanyathelo okuqala. Mhlawumbi, ngethuba laba bobabini baqala ukuxabisa ubudlelwane babo kwaye banombulelo kumlingane wabo, ukuziqhayisa ekunqobeni kwabo kunye nempumelelo. Ngeli thuba, uvelwano, ukuthembela, ukuqonda okwenene kunye kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo luvela. Iingqungquthela kweli nqanaba - into eyingqayizivele kakhulu. Ngona nxalenye ininzi, esi sibini sixazulula iingxaki ngoncedo lweengxoxo.
- Uthando . Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kuphela ngowokugqibela, ophezulu
isigaba sobudlelwane uthando. Kwaye ungaya kuyo ixesha elide.
Isiphelo
Ezinye izibini ziyakwazi ukunqumla amanqanaba athile, kodwa emva kweminyaka emininzi izigaba ezingadluliyo zenza bazive. Kuphawulwa ukuba abantu abakhuliswe kwiintsapho ezintle kakhulu bahlala bengaphantsi kweempembelelo ezinxulumene nothando. Kwaye kwiintsapho zamaSilamsi, umzekelo, azinakho nokuba zikhona.
Ngelishwa, ezininzi izibini azizange zenze ukuya kwinqanaba lesine. Oku kungakho ngenxa yokukhuliswa ngendlela engafanelekanga, intsapho engaphantsi (xa elinye iqabane likhula ngaphandle komzali omnye okanye bobabili abazali), isimo sengqondo esithembekileyo somtshato sokuqhawula, okanye ukucoceka ngokomoya kwamaqabane. Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, kuphela ngamandla akho ukudala ulonwabo.