Ngona wesifazane okhululekileyo ufuna ukufunwa ngokwesini esahlukileyo, ngoko ke umbuzo uninzi lwawo wonke amadoda njengabasetyhini, uhlala ephakamileyo.
Yintoni abafana nabaninzi kubasetyhini?
Amadoda athande abesifazana (ngezinye izinto ezingaqhelekanga), oku akunjalo nabani na oya kuxubusha, kodwa yiyiphi inxaxheba yesini esilungileyo eyoyikisayo kwintliziyo yintliziyo?
- Ngubani othanda ukuthetha nomntu ongenakuxhatshazeka? Ngabo bantu bafazi abayithandiyo, kodwa kuma-geek angakhathazekiyo rhoqo ebonisa ingqalelo.
- Abantu bathanda ukwenzani? Ngokuqinisekileyo, jonga uhlobo olushukumisayo lomfazi. Ngako oko, ukuzikhathalela kunye nokugqoka ngentsingiselo akusilo ukuchitha ixesha, kodwa kuyimfuneko kulabo abafuna ukufumana iindlebe zabantu.
- Ngendlela, malunga neengubo. Amantombazana amaninzi aqwalasela iimpahla ezigqithiseleyo, ziqinisa zonke iibhola, ukusika, ukusika kunye neengubo ezimfutshane, kungabi nendawo yokucinga. Kwaye apha kwaye akukho nto, amadoda amaninzi ayamncenga ngokubonakala phantsi. Kunomdla ngakumbi kubo ukuba bathabathe iingqungquthela ezikhohlisayo kwiingcinga eziqhenkisayo kunokuba babone bonke ubuhle, njengokungathi kwi-tray.
- Ngentombazana engumntu kunye neentlanzi, akulula ukuthetha, kodwa umnqwenqa weqhwa unabantu abambalwa kakhulu abanokuyithatha. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ufumane intsingiselo yegolide, funda ukulinganisa iimvakalelo zakho, ukunyaniseka, kodwa nje kuphela.
- Yintoni abantu abathanda ukuva ngayo yonke into? Ewe, nantoni na, into eyona nto eyona nto yokubhinqa iindlovu zenza iindlebe zabantu. Kwaye kwenzeka oko kuphela ukuba ibhinqa linelungelo elihle okanye liyazi ukuba lenze njani. Kuye kwadluliwe ukuba amadoda ayithandi xa ibhinqa lithetha ngelizwi elikhulu, elibukhali elinamaphepha amanqaku. Kodwa kwizwi elithambileyo ilizwi, abafazi baqhayisa. Ukuba awunalo ubutyebi obunjalo ngokwemvelo, ngoko kukufanele ukuqeqeshwa ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza.
- Amadoda afana nokuziva azikhuseli, ngoko athanda ukuba abafazi baya kubo ukuze bancede. Ewe, ukuba inenekazi iyazi ukwenza oku kwaye akunganqikazi ukubonga umsindisi wakhe.
- Akunabo bonke abafazi abakwaziyo nokuthanda ukudlala ngothando, kwaye ngokungafani, aba bafazi bathanda abantu. Ukudlala ngothando akunakunyanzela nantoni na, unokwenza oko kukuzonwabisa.
- Ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo nendoda kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba awukwazi indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo kwaye ujonge amadoda ngokunyaniseka, ngoko akukho ilizwi elikhohlisayo okanye ukubonakala okumangalisayo kuya kunceda.
Kunokukholisa intanda?
Yonke into ekhankanywe ngasentla ifanelekile ngakumbi ukuqala uqhagamshelwano, kwaye yintoni amadoda ahlala kunye okanye atshati?
- Ukucinga malunga nento enokumkholisa indoda endiyithandayo, iingcamango ziya kuba zijikeleze ngendawo yokulala. Nazi iindlela zokukholisa indoda endiyintanda kakhulu, into ephambili akuyiyoyiki ukucinga kunye nokuvelisa ubomi obusondeleyo.
- Kodwa ngobudlelwane, amadoda awafunanga nje ngesondo rhoqo. Bayafuna ukunakekelwa, ukunakwa kunye nokuqaphela impumelelo yabo. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba amadoda ethu eze endlwini apho induduzo ilawula,
kwaye kwitheyibhile elinde isidlo sakusihlwa. Yingakho amadoda ethanda gqitha xa adunyiswa, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uyavuya xa umfazi othandekayo enza. - Amadoda anesini esomeleleyo, ngubani oza kuthethana naye, kodwa nangona umntu owanelisayo kakhulu ufuna ukuxhaswa ngezinye izidingo. Ngoko ungalilahli intanda yakho ngolu hlobo, unako ukuvula kwaye ungavumi ukuba unengxaki ethile, kodwa wena, njengowesifazane okhutheleyo, kwi-browser yakhe ekrakra kunye neentambo ezinqabileyo nje kufuneka uqikelele ngesimo esibi sakhe.
- Inkululeko yabantu iyakunyamezela, kwaye ukulahlekelwa kwayo ngokupheleleyo akuvumelekanga. Nangona iimvakalelo ezinomthendeleko kunye nezobuhlungu zingabulala ukulawulwa kwabafazi rhoqo.