Ukuthetha ngefowuni kubaluleke kakhulu kwisigaba sokuqala sokwakha ubudlelwane phakathi kwabathandi. Kodwa kukho inzame kuluntu ukuba intombazana ayinayo ifowuni ehloniphekileyo kumntu ayithandayo. Kwaye ngoku kungengqondo zonke izinto ezikhethiweyo zikhethiweyo, indlela yokwenza loo mntu azibize ngokwakhe.
Okokuqala, hlalutye imeko - oko kukuthintela umntu ukuba akuthayiphe.
Izizathu zokuthula kwakhe:
- Kakhulu entloni. Amadoda amaninzi ayesaba ukuba sele sele ekhohliwe okanye aya kunqatshwa.
- Akulungele ukuthetha. Kufuneka aqale acinge ngezinto. Akungabaza ukuba uya kusondelana.
- Wayengayi kubiza - injongo yayikuthatha nje inamba. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba, kwiqoqo anayo inombolo yakho ayilona yedwa. Umntu onjalo kufuneka ahlaselwe ebomini bakhe ngokukhawuleza.
- Awuvusanga uvelwano lwakhe. Unokuzama ukuzibiza kwaye uphukise enye intlanganiso. Intlanganiso yesibini inokutshintsha ngokupheleleyo into. Ukuba isiphumo sinye - kufuneka uyilibale.
- Unemikhwa emibi. Wathembisa kwaye akazalisekanga. Awukwazi ukuthembela kumntu onjalo.
- "Ehlelekile". Musa ukukholelwa. Umdla umntu uya kufumana imizuzu embalwa ukuthetha nentombazana ayithandayo.
Ndingayenza ntoni ukuba akubizele?
- Ukuze enze umnxeba, kufuneka wenze oku: fowunela inombolo yakhe kwaye ulinde ixesha ukubeka ifowuni. Emva koko fownela umntu ukuba ifowuni yakho ixakeke ixesha elide. Xa ebiza, mxelela ukuba benze iphutha.
- Unokubangela umnxeba ngokumthumela umyalezo wombhalo:
- Ndibize. Into eyenzeka kwifowuni, ayibonakali othe undibize;
- Ndifake ngokukhawuleza. Kubalulekile!
- Mxelele ukuba awuthandi ukubonisa isicwangciso sobuhlobo, uthanda xa umntu esebenza. Ngoko waqonda ukuba amanyathelo okuqala alindeleke kuye.
- Ukuba ufuna umfana ukubiza ngokuphindaphindiweyo - ayeke ukumbiza. Ngokukhawuleza uziva ukungabikho kweefowuni eziqhelekileyo, ngaphandle koko, uya kuhlushwa yinqununu: uxakeke kangakanani na?
- Uphikisana okanye uqhekeka, kodwa uyamthanda lo mntu kwaye ufuna ukuba ubize-bonisa ukuba uyavuya. Smile phambi kwakhe. Yenza sengathi ukhawuleza "kwishishini" xa uwela. Jonga ukubonakala kwaye ube yimfihlakalo.
- Kwindoda efuna ukuba uzibize yena, kufuneka abe nefuthe elifanelekileyo lefowuni. Ngenxa yoko, qhubeka unesihe kwaye ube mnene naye. Zama ukuphepha ukuphazamiseka okukrakra kwingxoxo, bazalise ngamabali ahlekisayo. Unokumcela icebiso kwingingqi apho eyingcali. Kodwa musa ukulibazisa intetho, amadoda amaninzi ayithandi.
- Ndiyenzeka ukuba ube nemeko xa ungenayo ifowuni yomntu ofanelekileyo kwaye ufuna nje ukuba ubize. Kule meko, ukunciphisa inkqubo yokulinda, ubuchule bokubonakala buza kunceda. Zama ukubonisa umntu onomdla kuyo yonke into enokwenzeka: ukubonakala kwakhe, isimo sakhe sengqondo, oko akwenzayo ngoku.
Emva koko, cinga indlela adibanisa ngayo inombolo yakho yefowuni. - Zama ukuqagela into eyenza lo mntu akubizele, yintoni iimvakalelo. Zama ukutshintshelwa ngengqondo kubathandekayo bakho. Uninzi luvela.
- Kukho indlela ephikisanayo nendlela yokwenza umntu othandekayo abize. Unokudala ukukholelwa kokunyamalala kwakho. Ifowuni ukhubaze kwaye kwiintanethi zentlalo azibonakali. Kodwa awukwazi ukufumana malunga neefowuni ezingabanjwanga, okanye ukunyusa umntu ngaphandle kokuziphatha okunjalo.
- Kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa alibizi ngokuzithandela, ukwenza ukuba umntu obathandayo alahleke. Kodwa ukuba umntu ngokwenene akanakukhathalela, kunokufanelekile ukulahla ukuzingca, kwaye ekugqibeleni uyaliva ilizwi lomthandayo, zibize: "Sawubona! Ndakukhumbula ... "