Ukuba uyayazi ulwimi lomzimba, unokukwazi ukubona ukuba umntu uyava novelwano okanye cha. Imisindo, ubuso obuso, ukubukeka, konke oku kunokuthetha malunga novelwano olufihlakeleyo kwindoda kumfazi.
Iimpawu eziza kuthetha malunga nokuthanda okunokwenzeka:
- Ukuba indoda ihlala isichukumisa ityayi, ikhola okanye iinwele, unokuqiniseka ukuba uyakuthanda.
- Ukuba indoda ngethuba incoko iyanciphisa umgama, uyazi, unomdla kuwe.
- Ukuthinta ukukhanya kubonisa intlungu yendoda kumfazi.
- Ukuba uhlala egxininisa kwisigaba sokulala, umzekelo, ugcina izandla zakhe kwibhande, mhlawumbi unomdla wesini.
Iimpawu zenceba yomntu kumfazi:
- Umvuzo wendoda onesihawu nomfazi uphawuleka ngenxa yokuzithemba. Amagxa akhe aqondiswe, intloko yakhe iphakanyisiwe.
- Indoda ethandwayo iya kunikwa ingqwalasela, apho kufunwa khona inzala kunye nenhlonipho. Ukuba uva novelwano, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphosa imibono engcolileyo ngecala lakho. Emehlweni avulekileyo uya kubona ububele kunye nomnqweno.
- Ilizwi lomntu onomdla kwintombazana liyakushintsha. Iba yinto ephantsi kwaye ihamba kakuhle.
- Impawu ebonakalayo yentlungu yomntu yowesifazane ngumzimba wakhe. Ukuthintela kwakhe, ukukhwaza, yonke into ithetha umdla.
- Ukumomotheka okunyanisekileyo kuyisignali efanelekileyo, ebonisa uvelwano.
Ngamanye amaxesha umntu uthobekile kangangokuba kwintlanganiso yokuqala akunakwenzeka ukuba unqume ukuba uyamthanda okanye cha. Kule meko, kukho iindlela ezi-2 eziphuma: mhlawumbi uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala ngokwakho (oko kudla ngokwaneleyo), okanye ulinde ezinye izenzo.
Ukuba ufunda ukwahlula zonke ezi zibonakaliso kunye nempawu, ngoko unokukwazi ukubona indlela yokuphatha ngayo nawuphi na umntu.