Kutheni amadoda elala?

Mhlawumbi, akukho mntu wesifazane ongeke ahlangabezane namanga omntu. Bathetha iindaba, bakhuphe, basikhokele ngeempumlo baze benze yonke into ukuze singazi inyaniso. Kodwa kutheni amadoda ekopela? Yintoni ebangela ukuba babe nokholo kwizesondo ezinamandla? Makhe siqwalasele lo mbuzo onzima.

Kutheni amadoda elala?

Okokuqala, abameli bezesondo ezibuthakathaka bayazi ukuba "bayazi" ngokwenene ngobuchule. Nangona kunjalo, amadoda alala kaninzi kunabesifazane. Baye benza njalo ixesha. Balala kunye nabahlobo, abahlobo, izalamane, kwaye ekugqibeleni, kubafazi babo. Kwaye ngokuchasene nomqondo oqhelekileyo, abazi ukuba bangathetha njani. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukuxoka akuyona into yokuphuma kwimeko engathandekiyo, ebudeni bendoda ehlangene nayo yonke into. Ngoko, kutheni amadoda elala nabasetyhini?

1. Uloyiko lokungaqondwa kakuhle. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda azama ukuxelela indlela abachitha ngayo imini yabo. Mhlawumbi, ivela kwaye ayinamanga, kodwa ukuthula okanye ukubethelwa kweziganeko akunakunqandwa. Isizathu silapha ukwesaba ukunyaniseka.
2. Ukutyunjwa kweenkcukacha. Kule meko, umnqweno wokunqanda ukuhlala uvele emehlweni kwintombi ibona ngcono. Nangona le ndoda yayingeyona imeko efanelekileyo, yayiza kuguqula yonke into, ukuze ibali libe yinto encedo kuye.
3. Abantu balala xa bethetha ukuncoma. Kodwa emva kwayo yonke into, ngandlela-nye, yintoni intombazana enokuthanda ukuva ukuba wayibona ngaphambili indlela ephucule ngayo, okanye ukuba akahambi kwengubo entsha? Nasi isizathu siqondakala ngokusemgangathweni-ukungathandi ukuqhutyelwa kwikhankaso.
4. Abantu balala xa batshintsha. Lo mzekelo kufuneka ucaciswe abaninzi. Abambalwa abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo bayabonwa njengenkohlakalo. Umbuzo othi "ukushiya" iimkhankaso ngokwawo ufanelekile ingxoxo eyahlukileyo. Kwaye akukhathazeki ukuba kutheni abantu bexoka, ziphi izizathu zokuzihlambalaza.

Kutheni amadoda elala? Ngenxa yokuba abanako ukwenza okunye. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuxoka kungumkhwa, okanye unobungqina kwiimeko ezithile, xa ufuna ukuphuma uze uzibonise ekukhanyeni ngakumbi.

Ungaqonda njani ukuba umntu ulele?

I-intuition yabesifazana ayifuni ukuhluleka abameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka. Ukongezelela, ngabafazi abasetyhini bahlala bebona i micromimic yobuso. Nangona kunjalo, indoda eyayicatshulwa ngokulala, ayinakwenzeka ukuba iphume. Ngokukodwa xa sizibamba ngeengcebiso ezinzulu malunga nokuba ukhangele ntoni ukuba ucinga ukuba indoda ikhohlisa kuwe:

1. Intetho. Ngobuxoki, kunokuhamba kunye:

• ku khanyisa;
• ukuphefumula okukhulu;
• ukugquma, ukubetha;
• ukukhwehlela kwemizwa, imilomo eyomileyo;
• ukubonakala kwamaconsi omthunzi.

2. Imisitho:

• ukugqithisa okugqithiseleyo (ukutyumla okungabonakaliyo, ukuhlamba izandla);
• iimpawu zokuxhalaba (ukukhwabanisa kweminwe, ukukhwaza ngamagxa phantsi);
• ukuphepha ukubonana kwamehlo;
• ukungaqiniseki kunye nemingcele phantse zonke izinto.

3. Ukusebenzisana:

• isikhundla sokuzivikela ngexesha le ncoko (umntu othetha inyaniso ngokuchasene naye uya kuhlambalaza);
• Umqambimanga uya kuzama ukuphunyuka kumbono othe ngqo, ongenakukhathazeka kuye. Unokuzithemba etafileni, okanye emva kwesihlalo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uyazimela emva kwakhe;
• umntu othetha into engeyonyani akayi kuqonda ngokucacileyo izinto eziqingqiweyo phakathi kwakhe kunye nawe ukusuka ezintweni ezingaphandle: indebe, isiqhamo, incwadi, njl.

Oku kuphela ubuncinci beengcebiso, indlela yokufumanisa oko umntu alele khona. Nangona kunjalo, nokuba wena uya kuzibamba ngamanga, kulula kakhulu kuwe. Amaxesha xa waqamba amanga kuwe, kwaye uya kuphinda aphindwe kwakhona. Unjalo uhlobo lomntu.

Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza xa umntu elala kuwe, kwaye uye waqaphela amaxesha amaninzi? Nangona kunjalo kungaqhelekanga, okokuqala, qwa lasela wena. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubuxoki bamadoda lusindiso okanye ukhuselo. Ukuba umntu uhlala elele kuwe, lesi sihlandlo sokubonisa. Mhlawumbi wena uyiphakamisa. Buza imibuzo engakwazi ukuyiphendula ngokunyanisekileyo, uyifake kunye kunye nangaphandle. Mhlawumbi kulula ukuba axoke kunokuba agijime kwisandi sakho esilandelayo okanye ukukhwabanisa. Kukho nawuphi na, ngaphambi kokuba ummangalele umntu wezono zonke, cinga ukuba ungathembeki kuphi. Mhlawumbi akukho into embi kakhulu kwaye umntu othandekayo kufuneka ngamanye amaxesha athembeke?