Nangona ukuba ubomi bentombi bungabangela ukuhleka, inani elinyukayo labasetyhini alizange likhawuleze lifumane umgcini wesondlo kunye nomkhuseli kumntu womntu. Kwaye akubona nje loo majazana amaninzi anamhlanje akwazi "ukubulala ama-mammoth" ngokwabo, izizathu eziphambili zifihliwe ekudibaneni kweendima zesini kunye noshintsho kuluntu.
I-Psychology yowesifazane oyedwa
Ukuxhatshazwa kowesifazane iminyaka emininzi kwakubonwa njengobungqina bokuba "ulungelelaniso" lwalo mfazikazi, iintombi ezindala, ngokomzekelo, zihlala ziphantsi kwesichotho sokuhlekwa. Okwangoku, umfazi ongatshatanga akamangalisi. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba umnqweno wokuzimela unomqondiso obonisa ukuba kukho izizathu ezikhusela umfazi ukuba aqale intsapho. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ezinye zezizathu ziyeke ukuba zibe nefuthe, kwaye le nkosikazi iphelile ukuphepha abantu. Ngamanye amaxesha umfazi uhlala esetyenziselwa ukuba yedwa ukuba akakwazi ukulahla ubunyulu.
Imithombo yengqondo yedwa:
- ukuzithemba okanye ukuzithemba - "Ndiyinto enhle, ndifanelekile kuphela kwinduna", "Ndiyingozi, andiyidingi mntu";
- imfundo emoyeni wesini - "Ndimele ndomelele, ndikwazi ukwenza yonke into, andiyidingi indoda";
- ukulungiswa kobubele - "Umntwana kufuneka abe noyena mhle", "Umntwana ngumntu obaluleke kakhulu kumfazi".
Izizathu zobungqina bentombi
Ukuqonda ukuba kutheni abaninzi abantu abangabhinqa abangatshatanga, omnye kufuneka afunde izizathu zokulondeka. Phakathi kweengcali zengqondo eziqhelekileyo zibiza ezi zilandelayo:
- Ukwanela ngokwaneleyo yeso sizathu esiqhelekileyo sokuba sisese. Umfazi onjalo akadingi ukubonakalisa nayiphi na into kwabanye - uyahlonishwa ngenxa yempumelelo yakhe nokuzimela kwakhe.
- Izidingo ezingaphezulu komntu yinto ebangela ukuba bonke abaviwa baphucule, kwaye kaninzi kubangele ukuba bodwa bodwa.
- Amava amaninzi - ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi bafuna ukuhlala bodwa kwaye besoyika ubudlelwane obutsha ngenxa yokuba ebudeni bexesha elidlulileyo bahlupheka ngenxa yephulo lamadoda. Maxa wambi intombazana ifumana amava angaphumeleli kwintsapho yabazali bayo.
- Umthandi ongenasiphina yinye into ebangela ukuba uluntu lube yedwa. Kule meko, enye ibhinqa ayiboni nje abanye abaviwa.
- Ukungafuni nokwenqwenela ukudala intsapho - abafazi abanjalo bavame ukufumana izinto ezininzi ezinonophelo ebomini, uxanduva lweentsapho zabo lunomtsalane oluncinci, njengabalingani besilisa.
Iingxaki kunye nokuxhalaba kwelokuba umfazi uyedwa
Ibhinqa elizimeleyo kwiindawo zakhe libona ubuncwane obukhulu: uziva ephumelele, ekhululekile, enhle, enhle. Kulo mfanekiso okhangayo, ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukungaziboni nto kungabonakalisa. Kwaye kwanokuba banolwazi oluninzi kwindoda yabo enesizungu, ngamanye amaxesha banokuziva bengenakufudumala kunye nohlobo olusondeleyo lomntu othandekayo.
Iinkqubo zobomi bentombi
Impendulo yombuzo, kutheni abesifazana bakhetha ukuzinza, banikwe ngabahlali bezentlalo. Ngoluvo lwabo, kulula kakhulu kubafazi ngoku bahlala bodwa kwintsapho. Inkosikazi kule meko inexanduva elincinci kunye nexhala, linalo ixesha lokubeka iliso kwindlela ebonakala ngayo kwaye ilinakekele impilo yakhe, libandakanye ekuphuculeni, ukuhamba kunye nokuzonwabisa. Ezinye zezi zinto zibonisa intsingiselo yowesifazane. Ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa elingafuni ukudala intsapho likhetha ngamabomu abo baqabane abangenakwenzeka umtshato, umzekelo, utshatile.
Yiyiphi inkululeko yedwa yowesifazane?
Ibhinqa lisetyenziselwa ukuba yedwa kwaye liyeka ukufuna ulwalamano-le yingozi enkulu yale meko. Ukongezelela, ukuba sele ejwayele ukuzimela, inkosikazi ingalahlekelwa izakhono zokuthetha ngesini esahlukileyo. Kule meko, nangona ufuna ukulahlekelwa ukuzimela, umfazi akayi kukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane, ukudala intsapho eqinile.
Ubunzima bomfazi omnye unokuvela:
- kunye nokuphazamiseka okufuna izandla zomntu - ngoko uya kufuneka abize "umyeni ngeyure" okanye ucele ukufumana inceba kumntu osebenza naye okanye isihlobo;
- kwiinkampani ezitshatileyo - ukuba zonke izihlobo kunye neentombi zeentombi enye zineentsapho, kuya kuba mncinci kumncinci wokubambisana;
- kunye nemfuno ephezulu yesondo - kunye neqabane elithile lexeshana kunzima ukubala ngesondo ngokuqhelekileyo , kwaye nangakumbi-ngexesha xa ufuna, kwaye kungekhona xa kunethuba.
Indlela yokuhlala nomfazi onesizungu?
Umbuzo wento enokuyenza kunye nomfazi oyedwa, unokuvela kuphela kumntu onqatshelwe ngcamango. Akudingeki ukuba aphendule nabani na, ukuxilwa kweli lixa lilingana nenkululeko. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngaphandle kokufumaneka kwezibonelelo zemali ezibonakalayo, ezininzi izinto zokuzonwabisa eziya kwintombi aziyi kubakho. Nangona kunjalo, uluntu lwabesetyhini lunika ithemba elininzi loku:
- zifundo;
- ukudala ibhizinisi;
- uhambo lwezokhenketho;
- ukudlala ezemidlalo;
- ukuthetha nabahlobo;
- zokuzilibazisa;
- ubuchule;
- ekwakheni umsebenzi.
Abasetyhini abaphumelelayo banamaxesha amaninzi, kodwa ukuba le nto inxulumene nenjongo kunye nokuzithemba , aba bafazi bahlala beyazi into abayifunayo ebomini. Amandla, anokubhekiswa kwindoda okanye kubantwana, kweli phepha lisetyenziswe kwenye into. Phakathi kweetalente kwaye kunikwe abantu abanezakhono eziphakamileyo abaninzi baninzi abangabodwa abangenayo injabulo ebomini babo. Abasetyhini abakhetha ukuhlala bodwa:
- USophie Germain - isazi semathematika, umatshini, ifilosofi, wabonisa "Iimeko zokuqala" ze-Fermat'soreore.
- USofya Kovalevskaya - umbalo, umbhali, wasebenza njengoprofesa weSebe leMathematika kwiYunivesithi yeStockholm.
- UBarbara McClintock - umfuzululwazi, wafumanisa ukuhamba kweendiza, i-Nobel laureate.
- UCilla Claudel ngumqambi, umfundi ka-Auguste Rodin.
- UGrace Murray Hopper ungumbalo weemathematika, umprofeti, uyabulela kuye ulwimi lokuqala lwenkqubo yeCOBOL.
Ibhinqa lingawususa njani uluntu?
Kwiminyaka emininzi, umfazi ophila ngokukhululekileyo unokukwazi ukubona ukuba akanamntu onomdla nothando, unomdla, uxolo kunye nokukhuseleka okunokwenzeka kuphela kumlingane othembekileyo noqondayo. Emva koko kufike ixesha apho umbuzo uvela - indlela yokujongana nesizungu somfazi. Ukuze ulahlekelwe isiluleko, kufuneka:
- ukufumana izizathu zokulondeka - oku kunokunceda isazi sengqondo, umhlobo;
- utshintshe indlela yokujonga ngayo - ukuyeka ukucinga ngokugqithiseleyo kunye nobuchule bokwenene kunye nokungaziphathi kakuhle, nje uzithandane nawe;
- Ukujonga ngenyameko amadoda angqongileyo-mhlawumbi ecaleni kwindoda eya kuphelisa ubunina besifazane.
Uluntu lwabesetyhini luOthodoki
Uluntu lwabesetyhini e-Orthodoxy lugwetyelwa okanye luba novelwano. Ababingeleli bamaOthodox banombono wokuthi umfazi akanako kwaye kufuneka abe yedwa, aze aqonde ikusasa lakhe - ukuba abe ngumfazi nonina - unokuphela komntu onokuthenjwa. Akuyona ingozi ixesha elide ukuba umbingeleli wama-Orthodox kufuneka atshate-icawa idumisa ixabiso lecawa kakhulu.
Abasetyhini abangabodwa
I-stereotype ephakamileyo yokuba udumo kunye nobutyebi bunolonwabo, kodwa italente kunye nokuthandwa ngokuqhelekileyo zikhetha ukuba zizihlobo ezilolo. Kwaye kunye nobunzima beentombi kunye nabayeni, aba bafazi abangatshatanga baninzi baziva bengonwabi kwaye bengenabomi kumntu:
- UGia Maria Karanji uyi-supermodel yama-70s, owafa nge-AIDS.
- UMarilyn Monroe ungumdlali we-actress owafa ngenxa yokugqithiseleka kwamapilisi okulala.
- UMaria Callas - umculi, umthandi ka-Aristotle Onassis, wafa kwiminyaka engama-53 ebudeni bobude.
Ubuhle obudumileyo be-actress bakhetha ukuhlala yedwa:
- Shakira Theron - kabini esitshatileyo, kodwa wakhetha yedwa.
- UCatherine Deneuve - wayengenakonwaba ngomtshato omnye, ngaphandle komtshato wazala abantwana ababini.
- USharon Stone - waphupha ngentsapho, kodwa emva kwemitshato emibini emfutshane akhetha ukukhulisa abantwana abamkelweyo.
- USusan Sarandon - umtshato omdala kunye noTim Robins wagqiba ngekhefu, emva koko umdlali wezabelo waya kwi "flight flight".
Iifilimu malunga nobufazi bodwa
Amabhayisikobho malunga nabasetyhini abangabhinqileyo abaya kuba banomdla kubaphulaphuli abaninzi:
- IDester Desert / Il Deserto Rosso (1964). Ifilimu ichaza malunga nokuhlushwa ngokomoya komlingisi oyintloko uJuliana, owathi esatshatileyo, uvakalelwa yedwa.
- Imibala emithathu: iBlue / Trois Couleurs: iBleu (1993). Emva kokufa kwentsapho, i heroine ephazamisekile ehlala ehlala esecaleni. Kodwa umculo umbuyisela ebomini.
- Iiyure (2002). Ubomi babantu abathathu bama-heroines epochs ezahlukeneyo baxhunyaniswa nencwadi enye - inoveli kaVirginia Woolf "Mrs. Dalloway".
- Malena / Malena (2000). Ifilimu malunga nomfazi onobuhle bakhe bube sisithuko.