Ubudlelane bunjengeenqanawa ezibuthakathaka ezithinteka lula kwizinto zobomi bemihla ngemihla kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla. Njengoko umzekeliso wasendulo uthi: "yonke into iyagijima, yonke into iyatshintsha", kwaye ubuhlobo apha alukho okungafaniyo, kufuneka batshintshe.
Akukho mfihlelo yokuba kukho "iintsuku ezibuhlungu" eziwela kwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu, xa ubudlelwane buya kuqubeka okanye bukhule ngakumbi. Kwaye i-harbinger enkulu yeli xesha "eliyingozi" lichanekile ngokukhawuleza kwimibuzo yendlela yokudibanisa ubudlelwane.
Indima ephambili yokuqaliswa kweentlukwano kwiintsebenziswano inikwe ibhinqa: emva koko, inalo enkulu ibarsenal equkethe ubugcisa, ubuqili kunye nobuchule. Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, umntu kufuneka athathe inxaxheba ekuvuseleleni iimvakalelo.
Iintlobo zinokuthi zilandelwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: ukunyaniseka nokungathembeki, kodwa umgaqo olapha apha kukuba nobuqili kwaye unomnqweno wokutshintsha utshintsho. Ngoko, kunye nomsebenzi: qalisa ukulayisha kwakhona ubuhlobo!
Indlela yokwahlukana kweentlobano zesini?
Zonke iinguqu ezenziwa ebomini bobulili, kufuneka zihlangabezane nezifiso zababini amaqabane. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba uqale "ukuguqulwa kwezesondo", qwa lasela umthandi. Kucetyiswa ukuba wenze ngokufihlakeleyo kuye, ngoko ukulungiselela ukumangaliswa. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ukuzingca ngezocansi akusiyo indawo efanelekileyo: ukufumana into, kufuneka uqale ukunika into ethile, ngoko-ke thabatha isinyathelo, uze unelise enye yeeminqweno zakhe ezifihlekileyo, uze ulinde "ukuhamba ngokuthe tye."
Umdlalo urhulumente wendalo kumntu nawuphi na. Kuyo yonke imini, sizama ngeendima ezininzi: umama, osebenza kunye naye, umfazi, intshaba, umhlobo, njl. Kutheni ungafaki omnye: khetha umfanekiso (umongikazi, intombazana enentombi, intombazana enomdla, intombazana engenamava, njl.), Utshintshe iimpahla uze uyibonise kakuhle. Dlala kwiimvelo zakhe, tshintsha, kuba amadoda isithembu.
Ukongeza "pepper" unako ukubopha izandla zakho, uvale imbobo, ulale ngesondo kwindawo engavamile.
Icebiso: Ukuqiqa ngesifiso sakho sesini somthandi, jonga kwikhompyutheni yakhe kwimbali yeziza ezivakatyeweyo (okanye amaphephancwadi kwi-shelf): ngamanye amaxesha umntu ngamnye ufika kumaphepha anokuququzelele kwaye ubheka oko kukumnandipha. Ukuba unethamsanqa ukufumana, ke le nto ingathathwa njengesiseko kwaye iphunyezwe ebomini.
Indlela yokudibanisa ubudlelwane beentsapho?
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuzisa ulwahlulo kwiintlalontle zentsapho, zenze isigqibo sokuba bangabi nantoni kakhulu: ukuxhalaba, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo ngokomoya, ubumbano, njl. Oku kufanele kube sisiseko seqhinga lokuvuselela.
Ukuba ulwalamano luxutywa ebomini bemihla ngemihla, tyelela indawo ezinomdla. Qala ngohambo lokuqala ukuya kwi-cinema kusihlwa uze ulungise ukuhamba ngomtshato. Kwaye kwiidolophana ezincinci kukho i-bureaus ye-excursion: hamba ngeveki ngaphandle kweso sixeko uze wenze ii-mini-trips. Ukuhlaziywa kwemvakalelo yiseko yokuvuselela ubudlelwane.
Ukuba uziva ulwahlukana ngokomoya, vumelana nokufunda le ncwadi kunye, kwaye uxoxe ngawo, gxininisa ukunyaniseka, kunye nezinye izinto eziphezulu zokuziphatha.
Kwintsapho yayihlangeneyo, faka isithethe. Ngokomzekelo, ngoMgqibelo ebusuku uhamba ngokuhamba okanye ubukele ama-movie, mema abangani ukuba ba tyelele. Kubalulekile ukuba oku kwenziwa kunye kunye ngokucwangcisekileyo.
Ungayenza njani ulwahlulo phakathi kobudlelwane kunye "namava"?
Abo baye bahlanganyela ixesha elide baphahla kunye nokwazi zonke iimpawu zomnye nomnye, kunokubonakala kukumangalisa ukuba iqabane lingumsebenzi ongenakwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, oku akunjalo, kulula ngakumbi ukuba benze oku kunokuba kubhangqwana abancinci, kuba kulo mzekelo abantu bayazana kakuhle. Umzekelo wamandulo: indoda iyathanda ukuloba. Vumelani kuye ngothando, niphindze nihlale emotweni. Ungathethi ukuba uthatha phi, ngokuba apho kufuneka alindele ukumangaliswa: itente eqinisiweyo emabhankini omlambo kunye nabahlobo. Ukuba umangaliso uhlelwe ngokuchanekileyo, ngoko yonke into iya kuba yinto emangalisayo. Ngoxa uncedo lwaloo mangalisa, kufuneka sivuselele ubudlelwane obudlulileyo ngaphezu kweminyaka elishumi.
Indlela yokwenza umehluko kwisimo sengqabane eselula?
Okokuqala kwaye ingakumbi, ingxaki yobudlelwane obufutshane ukuba amaqabane awazi kakuhle ngokufanelekileyo, ngoko ke amathuba okuba inqabileyo "ingaphumeleli" iphezulu. Nangona kunjalo, imeko imele igcinwe, kwaye ngoko ke, umngcipheko ufanelekile, ngoko ke sihamba ngesibindi ngenye yeendlela:
- Okugqithiseleyo: sikhokelela iqabane ukukhwela i-rollerblades, iikhwele, iibhasiki, njl.;
- Siyamema kwi-cinema kwiseshoni yebusuku yefilimu eyingozi kakhulu;
- inketho eyona nto "yokuthula": sipheka isidlo kunye kunye.
Nantsi injongo ephambili kukuseka ukuxhatshazwa kwengqondo kunye nomlingane. Emva kwakho konke, kwenzeka ukuba ukuqala kokubamba kwenzeka, ukumbumbuluza okubambileyo sele kuseyinxalenye yendlela ehamba ngayo, kodwa into ekhoyo ebudlelwaneni. Ezinye izibini ziqala ukuhlawulela "idyll ezolile" ngeentlanzi, ukuze ngandlela-thile zivuselelane. Nangona kunjalo, ukhetho olungcono kukuba uvakalelwe iimvakalelo ezinamandla kunye neendlela ezibonisiweyo.
Njengoko uqeqesho lubonisa, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuvuselela ubudlelwane, kodwa ukuba ziphumelele zimele zisetyenziswe rhoqo.