Ngaphandle kokuxabana nokuxabana, akukho sibini esitshatileyo esingakwenza, into ephambili kukuba le ngxabano ayikhokeli ekukhuleni. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba oko kwenzeka, indlela yokubuyisela uthando nothemba lomthandayo?
Ngaba kufanelekile ukuzama ukubuyisela indoda?
Ngaphambi kokuba ufumanise indlela yokubuyisela umntu omthandayo, kufuneka uqonde, kodwa kulungile? Uthi, akukho nto yokuyifumana, ngokuqinisekileyo, iyabaluleka, ngumntu oyithandayo, into ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Kodwa oku kuya kuthiwa phantsi kwefuthe leemvakalelo, kwaye ngoko ke akunako ukunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo. Zama ukuvavanya imeko ngenyameko kwaye uphendule ngokunyanisekileyo umbuzo wokuba unelisekile ngako konke oku kulwalamano. Ukuba impendulo ayikho, ngoko kutheni uzama ukubuyisela into engazange ikulethe uvuyo oluthile? Ngaba unethemba lokuba yonke into iya kutshintsha? Njengomthetho, kwintsebenziswano yeso sibini esandula kuhlanganisana, into itshintsha utshintsho kuphela. Yaye ukuyibuyisela kuyakufuneka uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye namandla, kuba umntu akanakwenzeka ukuba afune ukuzithwala kwakhona ngeengxaki. Ewe, kwaye ukuba lo mntu uyithandayo, naye, akufanelekile ukuthetha, mhlawumbi, oku kukunye okuxhomekeke kuyo, ukuyilahleka kukukwenza ube nolonwabo ngakumbi.
Enye indlela, apho amaxesha amakhosikazi aphupha ngamanye amaxesha kukubuyisela umntu ohambayo, aze aziphose ngokwawo - ngokubanzi ukusuka kwinqanaba leentlanganiso zesibini. Uchitha ixesha kunye nomgudu, kungcono ukuba akukho mntu uya kuwenza.
Ukuzama ukuhlaziya ulwalamano kuphela xa bekulungiselele wena, kwaye ufuna ukubuyisela umntu ngenxa yakhe, kungekhona ngenxa yobuwula. Ekugqibeleni, ungabuyisela njani uthando nothemba lomntu othandekayo, ukuba le mvakalelo ayikho?
Iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokubuyela kumthandayo
Ukuba usenokugqiba ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba awulungele ukwahlula nomhlobo wakho, mamele ezinye iingcebiso eziza kunceda ufumane umhlobo wakho emva:
- Into yokuqala ukuba izazi zeengqondo zicebise ukuba zibuyele kumntu othandekayo, kwakunye nokuphuma kuyo nayiphina imeko engxaki - kukuhlaziya. Ukuba wenza ngesiseko semvakalelo enye, kukho umngcipheko omkhulu wokwenza amaninzi amaninzi, emva koko uya kuzisola. Ukubuyisa umlingane awuyi kunceda. Ekuqaleni kunzima kakhulu ukuphuma kwimeko ephazamisayo, iingcamango zihlala zibuyela kule meko, siqala ukuzixolisa, iinyembezi, izipilisi ezithothozayo, kwaye ngoko yonke into iphinda isangqa. Ukuze ugweme oku, kuyimfuneko ukuthatha ixesha elininzi kunokwenzeka. Umsebenzi, izinto zokuzilibazisa, iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo-akukhathazeki, ngoku into eyona nto kukukuphazamisa.
- Kwaye ukuphazamiseka kwiingxaki, ukufumana ukuzonwabisa kule nto, kufuneka ukhangele kakuhle. Ngako oko, into elandelayo okufuneka uyenze kukuba kukunyamekela. I-salon yobuhle, uhambo lokuthenga ukuhlaziya i-wardrobe, ukutyelela kwiklabhu ye-fitness - yonke into enokukunceda ukuba uphinde uqiniseke kunye nokubonakala kweentyantyambo kunokusetyenziswa.
- Xa uxoxisana, zama ukugqithisa, awuyidingi ukukhathazeka okanye ukubonakalisa umsindo. Musa ukuthetha malunga nento eyenzekayo ebomini bakho, ukunyanzela, awuyi kuba nomdla kumntu. Kuya kuba ngcono xa engayifunanga ngempumelelo yakho evela kuwe, kodwa kubahlobo abazalwana. Ukuba ungaziva unamandla okunamathela kwiitoni ezilungileyo xa uthetha ngomlomo, iya kwiingxoxo ezibhaliweyo. Ngoko uza kuba nexesha lokuphinda uhlolisise umyalezo kwaye ulungise ubukhali.
- Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuxelela umnqweno wakho ngomnqweno wakho wokuwubuyisela, kwaye wenqaba, ungagxininisi ngokwakho, ucele. Iingcali zengqondo ziyamcebisa ukuba amke aze apheleke ebomini bakhe ngeveki. Ngeli xesha, unakekele ukubonakala kwakho, ukuhlaziywa kobuhlobo, malunga nokuba usandula ukulibala. Emva kwithuba lokuthula, ungaya kwisenzo, kodwa kungekhona emva kokubuya komntu othandekayo ekhayeni lakhe, nokuba ube ngumhlobo wakhe. Amacebo ekubuyiselweni kobudlelwane kufuneka agwenywe. Kwakhona, akufanele uqale iireveli ukuba umthi, kwaye ubonise ngokucacileyo intshiseko yakho ngomnye umntu. Kwaye ke, xa udibana, kufuneka ukhangeleke.