Xa abantu benza umtshato, bathembisa ukuba kunye kunye nosizi kunye novuyo. Nangona kunjalo, izibalo ezingenakucingelwayo zithi malunga ne-50% yezibini zigqitywa ngokugqithiseleyo. Izizathu zokwahlukana zingaba yinani elikhulu, kwaye kaninzi, abafazi, abavela kuyo indoda, bayazibuza ukuba kutheni amadoda ehamba.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba indoda ayishiyi kuphela kumntu, kodwa nakumntu. Ukuba isithathu sibonakala singenangqiqo, kusenokwenzeka ukuchaza isizathu sendawo, kodwa yintoni enokuyenza xa umntu ehamba ngokuthula ngaphandle kokuchaza isizathu sokuba oku kwenzeke, siya kukuxelela apha ngezantsi.
Kutheni amadoda eshiya intsapho?
- Isizathu esiyinhloko kukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwintanda. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba umntu ngomntu uyinqoba, kwaye ukuba umfazi owawunqobileyo uqala ukutshabalalisa ngokupheleleyo kuwo, uyaba ngumsindo kwaye aqale ukukhangela "umbingelelo" omtsha. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ibhinqa lihlaziywe rhoqo, ingabi ukuvumela ubomi ukuba bumncede kwaye rhoqo ngokunceda umntu, ukuba ancede. Akuyimfuneko ukuqala ukuxelela umntu ukuba yenzeni kwaye mhlawumbi ukuba "bambone" ngezinto ezincinci.
- Indoda ayinayo ingqalelo ngokwaneleyo, akayiva ukuba bayamthanda. Ngokuqhelekileyo, le meko ibonakala kwiintsapho apho umntwana usanda kubonakala. Ibhinqa lithatha amanxeba amaninzi enkathazo emitsha enxulumene nomntwana kwaye akafumani kumyeni wakhe. Kodwa abantu bahlala bexhomekeka kwinqanaba lethu kunye nothando njengabantwana. Ungakulibali ukunyamekela intanda, thandana xa umntwana elele, edumisa ngengozi, njl.
- Scandals. Kukho uhlobo lwabasetyhini abangenakukwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwehlazo. Baziphendulela ngamabomu nayiphi na imeko ukuba bayifumane, ukwenzela ukuphosa indoda enomdla. I-scandals ezinjalo kwiintsapho ziqala nge-trifle kwaye ziyakwazi ukuthatha isilinganisi esikhulu. Yaye indoda yam ayifuni oku. Ufuna ukuza kwindlu epholileyo, efudumeleyo, emva komsebenzi womsebenzi onzima. Apho uya kudibana nomfazi othandekayo, onothando nomnakekelayo, kungekhona i-harpy enepini ezandleni zakhe. Ukuba awuyikusombulula ingxaki ngokufudumala emoyeni, kungekudala kamva umntu akafuni ukuya ekhaya.
Ukubuza ukuba kutheni amadoda ehamba nabasetyhini, kubalulekile ukuhlalutya imeko kwintsapho yakho, mhlawumbi uya kuqonda ukuba kutheni, kwaye unokuthintela imiphumo.