Amantombazana amaninzi afuna ukudibana "nentloko yehashe elimhlophe" ukususela ebuntwaneni. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngokuhamba kwexesha umfanekiso uguquka, kodwa umnqweno wokubona iqabane elincinane elikufutshane nawe lihleli. Yingakho ulwazi malunga nokufumana nokutsala umntu ohloniphekileyo lufanelekileyo kwaye luncedo. Ukufezekisa injongo ethile, kufuneka usebenze kwaye usebenze ngokuyinhloko kuwe.
Unokukhangela njani indoda ehloniphekileyo ebomini bakho?
Ukhuphiswano phakathi kwamantombazana luphezulu kakhulu kwaye wonke umntu uzama ukutsala iqabane lakhe ngenzuzo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba akubonakali kuphela, kodwa ukuzaliswa kwangaphakathi kubalulekile.
Iingcebiso zokuheha umntu ohloniphekileyo:
- Kubalulekile ukudala umfanekiso ochanekileyo weqabane elifunayo, ukuze ungakhokelwa kumadoda angafanelekanga. Indlela elula kukuba ubhale ephepheni zonke iimpawu ezifanelekileyo kufuneka zibe nazo. Bhala kwakhona iimpawu ezingavumelekanga.
- Ukufumanisa indlela yokufumana umntu ofanelekileyo, kubalulekile ukugxila kwingqalelo ebaluleke kakhulu - uthando ngokwalo. Xa ibhinqa iziva ingenakufaneleka, ibubi, ingabonakali, kwaye abanye baya kubalelwa. Yingakho ufunde ukuzithanda ukuba ungubani.
- Ibhinqa kufuneka libe nolonwabo, ngoko uzinzileyo. Indoda elungileyo nayo ifuna ukubona ibhinqa elifanelekileyo, ngoko kufuneka udibanise. Lahla ubunzima obuninzi, fumana imfundo, ngokubanzi, musa ukuma.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda indlela yokufumana ibhinqa elifanelwe ngumntu onomntwana, njengabafazi abaninzi belahlekelwa ukholo ekuhlaleni ubudlelwane obutsha. Ukongeza kwile ngcebiso engentla, kubalulekile ukusho ukuba kufuneka ubeke onke amanqaku kwithuba elidlulileyo kwaye uthi intlekele kuzo zonke izinto ngendlela eqhubekayo eqhubekayo. Khululwa kwiimvakalelo ezintsha kunye ezicacileyo.
- Akuyimfuneko ukukhawuleza kumntu wonke, ukuxhomekeka kuloo nto,
ukuba ukukhangela umntu ofanelekileyo kufuneka kwenzeke ngokusebenza. Hlaziya umntu, uxoxe, ufikelele izigqibo, ukuze ufumane enye. Khumbula ukuba amadoda ayithandi amantombazana angenayo, ke gcina intliziyo kwaye uvumele ukuba banqobe.
Abaninzi banomdla wokufumana indoda ehloniphekileyo yokwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo naye. Ukuqaphela kungafumaneka ngokupheleleyo nakweyiphi na indawo, gcinani nikhumbula ukuba abantu abalungileyo abahambi kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo. Kholelwa ukuba intlanganiso enomdla iya kwenzeka kungekudala kwaye yonke into iya kuzaliseka ngokuqinisekileyo.