Abantombazana abangenalwazi abaphuphayo ngothando olungunaphakade, abalubonayo kuphela njengendoda. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba isibini sinokuphila ngokuvuyisayo emva koko, xa sisebenzela ubudlelwane imihla ngemihla. Ngaphandle koko, baya kuphelisa emva kokuphela kothando lokuthanda. Ngoko, ziphi ixesha lobomi obudibeneyo obufanele baphathwe ngokucophelele?
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Intsapho nganye ineendlela zayo zokugcina ukufudumala kobudlelwane kwiminyaka emininzi, kodwa kukho izinto ezininzi eziqhelekileyo kubo bonke abantu.
- Ukunyamezela . Musa ukucinga ukuba isibini esitshatileyo siyaziqhayisa ngokuqonda okufanayo . Iimbono zabantu ezahlukeneyo kunoma yintoni ingxaki ayinakuhambelana. Ngoko ke ungacingi ngoluvo lwakho olulodwa lwenyaniso, zama ukuphulaphula oko okuthethwa ngumlingane wakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kufuneka aphathe ngendlela efanayo. Bobabili kufuneka niqonde ukuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokuba ubani anokunyamezela iimpazamo.
- Ulungelelaniso oluphambili . Ukungavumelani kwenzeka nakweyiphi na intsapho, ngokuqhelekileyo kuvela kwimibango enomsindo kunye neentlanzi. Akunakutsholwa ukuba oku kulungile, kodwa akukho ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwezihlandlo. Kufuneka nje ufunde ukuqonda oko kubalulekile, kwaye yintoni into epheleleyo. Ngokomzekelo, uxabana ngekomiti ephukileyo engozini, nangona ukuba kunikwe isihlobo kwaye uyathandeka kuwe. Ngaba akubaluleke ngakumbi ngoku ukuba ukhona ngenxa yento enokuthengwa ngokukhawuleza ngokumemeza ngothandwa wakho oceba ukumchitha inxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bakho?
- Funda ukutshintsha . Ngaba unqwenela ukuba nenkani, ugxininisa kuyo yonke into encinane? Emva koko akunakwenzeka ukuba uza kufumana ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo. Nika kumyeni wakho, kwaye uya kukunika elinye ixesha. Ungaqwalaselisi ukutshatyalaliswa kokutshatyalaliswa okanye ukubonakaliswa kobuthathaka bakho, ngenxa yoko uya kusindisa ihlabathi kwintsapho yakho.
- Xa uthetha, mamela . Ngokuqhelekileyo thina, ngokwenza ibango komnye umntu, musa ukuva iingxabano zakhe nonke. Funda ukuphulaphula nokuva udibanisa kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uxoxe ngeengxaki. Xa uhlala ucebile, awuyi kufeza nantoni na, vele usebenze loo mva de kube ngumzuzu apho kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukusombulula. Ukuba nithandana, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana izihloko zentetho kunye nendlela yokuxelela ngezinto ezibalulekileyo.
- Hlala wena . Ubomi bentsapho buzenza utshintsho, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uguqulwe. Gcina izinto zokuzilibazisa, zama ukuphumelela kwimpumelelo yakho, ungaphonsa ubomi bakho kwisibingelelo sentsapho, kuba umyeni wakho wathandana nawe okhutheleyo kunye nolwazi, ngoko ke gcina kuye.
- Uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali . Imali kaninzi iba ngumxholo wokuxabana, kwintsapho enokuthandana kakhulu. Zama ukwenza isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwimali, awudingi wena ngokwakho, kodwa ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubukho obuqhelekileyo bentsapho yakho. Kwaye kufuneka bafumane umvuzo umntu olungeleyo kuyo. Into ephambili kukuba uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali lufanele lwabelwana kwaye kufuneka kwakhona ukwabelana ngalo. Ungakulibali malunga nesidingo sokuchitha imali ethile ekuziphatheleni wena kunye nomyeni wakho, ukuba awunalo ithuba lokuphumla kwaye uvumeleke kwelinye, imbono yohlahlo lwabiwo-mali oluqhelekileyo ayiyi kuphinda iphumelele.
- Ukuphumla . Ezinye izibini ezinqwenela ukuya eholidini kunye, zithanda ukujonga kwiidolophu ezintsha kunye namazwe, ukuhlangabezana nabantu abatsha. Kodwa le nto ayibophelelani komnye nomnye kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Nonke niba nabahlobo, myeke aye kwakho, kwaye uye kwintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo bakho. Musa ukumdonsa kuyo yonke indawo emva kwakhe, kwaye uthintele umyeni wakhe ukuba ahlale phantsi, wena kunye nomnye kufuneka niphumle.
- Thenga amacwecwe avela entloko! Ukuba nesondo nomntu othandekayo - yintoni enokuyonwaba ngakumbi? Ngoko ke kutheni sihlala sishiya? Izizathu ezininzi aziyi kukhokelela kuyo nayiphi na into enhle, umntu onothando unokulinda ixesha elide, kodwa kungekudala okanye emva koko uza kudinwa. Uze ubaleke ngokuqhelekileyo elala, ungesabi ukuzama.
- Abahlobo abakhulu . Ulwalamano lwentsapho kufuneka lube nalo
akukona nje ukukhwabanisa, kodwa ubuhlobo . Funda ukuxelela amava akho kwaye uphulaphule lakho iqabane. Yaye ukuba uthetha isigqibo kumyeni wakho, ngoko uthetha ngokukhawuleza, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza nokuhlambalaza. - Yenza izicwangciso zobomi kunye . Ukuze ubomi bakho buphuhlise, kubalulekile ukucinga malunga nantoni na owenza konke oku. Udinga ukwazi apho ufuna ukuhlala khona, bangaphi abantwana obafunayo kwaye xa uceba.
Ngokubanzi, ulonwabo lwentsapho lunamandla okuthetha nomyeni wakhe, unomonde omkhulu ngenxa yokungapheleli kwakhe nomnqweno wokulungisa.