Yayiyimini eqhelekileyo, ayifani naleyo yonke imihla yobomi. Ukuhamba kwabantu, ingxolo yeengxoxo, iimoto kunye ... phakathi kwalo mbambano kufika HE. Njenge-bolt evela eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka. Ngokumomotheka okunjalo, ukunyamekela, imbeko ... kuphela iqhezu lesibini okwaneleyo ukuqonda - intliziyo sele ihlala ihlala kuphela. Kwaye ngoku kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyazi okanye awukho, ungakanani umdala kunye naye othetha naye. Into enye icacile - uyayithanda le ndoda. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Ewe, ukuqonda le meko nzima kwaye ufumane izicombululo kwizinto esiza kuyenza ngoku.
Indlela yokutsala umntu othanda ngayo?
Ingxaki ebalulekileyo yintombazana ethandwayo kukuqokelela iingcamango zakho, ngelixa umphefumlo uphelelwe yimvakalelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndifuna ukukhawuleza ndiqhubele entanyeni yam intando, ndiyitshise ngamehlo okanye ndibhale incwadi yothando. Nangona kunjalo, njengokuba kukho ukubonisa, oku akusona isisombululo esihle. Ubuqhetseba, okuphantse ukuba bonke abesifazana banakho, bangaba sisixhobo sangempela endleleni yokunqoba into yokudumisa.
Imiba efana nomfana uhlukile. Unokuba ngumnye osebenza naye, ufunde nawe, ngamanye amaxesha awazi nazi. Ukusebenza kuyimfuneko ngokungqinelana neemeko apho uvumele intliziyo yakho ukuba ivulekele kulo mntu. Ngoko, njani ukufezekisa umntu othandayo:
- Okokuqala kufuneka uzithande. Ngelixa wena ngokwakho ungaqapheli ukufaneleka kwazo kwaye ungagxininisi kubo, akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu ojikelezayo uya kuba nako ukuwaqonda. Uninzi lwabantu abadumileyo banamaphutha, kodwa ngelo xesha bahlala bezintandokazi. Funda ukuzithobela kwaye ulondoloze isidima sakho kunoma yintoni imeko;
- ukudibana, njengoko kuyaziwa ngengubo. Ukubonakala kwakho kunokusongela nayiphi na i-chevalier enokuba yintlanzi igqoke kwaye idibanise, ingabhekiseli iphunga emlonyeni kunye nokungabikho kokwenza. Khetha iimpahla ngokuhambelana nendlela yazo. Unokuba ngumntu othandana naye, unobungozi obunjalo okanye umfazi weshishini. Cinga ukuba amadoda ahlukeneyo afana neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zabalinganiswa kunye nezimo;
- Yintlalontle kunye nokumomotheka. Abantu abaqingqiweyo nabangenanto, bambalwa abantu abathanda. Ngokukodwa musa ukunyanzela indoda oyithandayo ukufihla iimvakalelo zakho zokwenene. Ubumnandi obuvulekileyo kunye nomnqweno wokuxhasa nayiphi na ingxoxo iya kukukwenza ube ngumhlobo othandekayo nomhle.
Inyathelo ngesinyathelo
Nangona kunjalo, loo msebenzi ngokwabo ayanele. Amantombazana amaninzi ayakhalaza: "Ndiyathanda loo nto, kodwa ndoyika!". Yintoni oyikayo, ngokwenene? Awuyi kudutshulwa ngemvakalelo yakho. Kwaye nangona ungayifumani kwakhona, kukho ukulahleka okuncane. Kukho nawuphi na, kubalulekile ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala. Makucatshangelwe ngokuphindwe kumawaka kwaye kuya kufuna ukuba ube nesibindi. Kodwa oku kungcono kunokunyanzela umntu ngokuzenzele kwaye uzilimaze ngakumbi nangokwenene. Ngoko ke, ukuba unquma ukwenza okuthile, izicebiso ezilandelayo ziyakunceda:
- Kuthekani ukuba ndiyathanda umfana ongaqhelekanga? Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ngaba unolwazi oluqhelekileyo kunye naye, kwaye luhlobo luni lolwalamano olunalo nabahlobo. Zama ukufunda okuninzi malunga nalo mntu: oko akwenzayo, yintoni inomdla wakhe, kwaye kunjalo uyahlangana nomntu. Ukuba intliziyo yakhe ayixakeki okwangoku, unokwenza. Eyona mpu melelo kakhulu yokuthandana iya kuba zikhetho ezimbini - ukucela abahlobo abaqhelekileyo ukuba bakuzise ngaphantsi kweyiphi na into engqiqweni. Kuya kucetyiswa ukuba ufunde iimfuno zakhe, ukwenzela ukuba unomdla kumdla kunye nokuba uthetha ntoni naye. Inketho yesibini kukunceda bakho abahlobo neentombi. Udinga ukulungelelanisa imeko "ephosakeleyo" ephosayo kuyo, okanye uchitha ijusi kuye, mhlawumbi ulahlekelwe into kwaye ucele uncedo lwakhe lokufumana. Zininzi iindlela zokukhetha. Into ephambili kukuba ucinge ngelo lonke isinyathelo kwaye ungaze wamukelise ukuba ixakwe.
- Amanye amantombazana edidekile abhale: "Kuthekani ukuba ndibathanda abafana ababini?". Ewe, le meko ayilula. Kwaye kubalulekile ukubheka ukuba yeyiphi impawu yabafana bobabini. Ubuntu babantu bubonakaliswe ngokupheleleyo xa kuthethwano olufutshane. Kufuneka ukwazi ngamnye kubo ngcono kwaye ukhethe ukhetho lomntu omnye. Ukuba awukwazi ukuzimisela emva kwexesha elide, kungcono ukushiya zombini kunokuba uhlupheke kwi-choice oyiphumelelo ongenakukwazi ukubona ngaphambili.
- Kukho iimeko apho umthandi efuna ukubonisa isipho. Yintoni ongayinika umfana oyithandayo? Xa sicinga ukuba lo mntu uyithandekayo kuwe, isipho, ngokuqinisekileyo, simele sivuyise kwaye sibe mnandi. Kodwa ungakhethi into ebiza. Makube nobungqina bakho kunye neenjongo zomntu oselula. Injongo yakho kukufumana umbulelo nemvakalelo emihle ngesipho sakho.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imeko yakho, xelela nje umntu othanda - kungeyona nto ingcono. Ubuqili bakho kunye ne-savvy kuya kukunceda uqinisekise ukuba lo mntu ngokwakhe ufuna ukukufezekisa. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka ube mnandi, ukhangele ngaphandle, uqiniseke, uzuze kunye nenjongo yokwabelana nabanye ubuncinci bezinto ozikhethileyo. Akunandaba nokuba unamaphutha angaphandle. Into eyona nto kukuzithanda, kwaye abantu baya kuthanda. Into ephambili akuyikoyiki nantoni na. Kwaye imiqondiso oyithandayo umfana,