Ngaba uphupha lokufumana umphefumlo wakho? Fumana intsapho uze uphile ngokuvuyisayo emva kokuba usithandane nendoda yakho ethandekayo? Ngaba uye wazama konke onokukwenza-kwiindawo zokubambisana eziyimfama ukuya kwiimfama ezingaboniyo, kodwa ungayifumananga nomntu wakho umlingane? Oku kuthetha ukuba ukhethe icebo elingalunganga. Ukuqinisekiswa kumadoda atyholayo yiyo kuphela into oyifunayo.
Ukuqinisekiswa ngamazwi okufuneka utsho amaxesha ambalwa ngosuku. Ukuqinisekiswa kunokutshintsha indlela yakho yokucinga kwaye ukwandise ukuzithemba kwakho . Ukuphindaphinda oku okanye loo binzana imihla ngemihla, ingqondo yakho engqondweni iya kuthatha ngokunyanisekileyo, kwaye uqala ukuyikholelwa.
Ukuqinisekiswa komtshato
Ukuze ukhangele uthando ebomini bakho kufuneka usebenze, ngaphezu koko, umsebenzi wolu hlobo awufuneki amandla amancinci. Ukuqinisekiswa komtshato yindlela efanelekileyo kunye neyona ndlela elula yokulungiselela intlanganiso kunye neqabane elizayo, njengoko ziya kuphucula iimpawu zakho ezilungileyo, kwaye zibuyisele kwisimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ngeengcamango ezilungileyo, ngaloo ndlela ukhange amathuba amatsha ebomini bakho.
Ukuze uthando lungene ebomini bakho, sebenzisa iziqinisekiso zomtshato. Eyona ndlela iphumelelayo yimiqathango echanekileyo kuwe, oko kukuthi, akufanele nje ikhunjulwe ngamagama angabandakanyi kuwe nayiphi na imvakalelo, kodwa loo mazwi avuselela engqondweni yakho uvuyo nenjabulo yothando olungathandekiyo. Ngoko ke, unokwenza lula ukuba uziqinisekisile. Ukuba unesiqinisekiso sokuba awukwazi ukujamelana nalo msebenzi, iziqinisekiso ezikhoyo ziyakunceda, ongakhetha kulo luhlu olulandelayo:
- Ndiya kudibana nendoda enhle;
- Ndiyamkela ngokubulela kwaye ndinike uthando;
- Ndiyekela ebomini bam uthando olukhulu nothando;
- Ndiyakhupha uthando kunye nokulungelelanisa;
- Intliziyo yam ivulekile ukuthanda.
Ukugqiba indlela yokutsala umntu ebomini bakhe aze amtsate, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuqinisekiswa kwendoda yakhe yodwa akuyi kuba neleyo, ngoko yenza. Nceda uluntu luzalisekise umnqweno wakho, tyelela rhoqo iindawo ezinabantu abaninzi, yenza uluhlu lwezinto zokuthandana kunye neqabane elizayo kwaye rhoqo uhambe kwiindawo apho unethuba lokuhlangabezana nomntu wakho womntu.
Ukuqinisekiswa kobudlelwane kuya kukunceda ukuba udibanise imvakalelo ngendlela efanelekileyo, ukuziva uvuyo nothando olugqithiseleyo iintliziyo zothando, kwaye kwixesha elizayo uza kulungelelanisa ukulungelelanisa.