Kungekudala, oomama bahlala bekhalaza ukuba amadoda abuthathaka kunabesifazane. Kwaye akunakwenzeka ukunika impendulo ecacileyo nokuba ikhuliselwe kule mfundo, iimeko zanamhlanje okanye yindlela nje yamashumi eminyaka edlulileyo. Ekuqondeni ubuninzi bezesondo ezilungileyo, umntu obuthathaka ngumntu ongenakukwazi ukujamelana nobunzima obudibeneyo aze aguqule kwabanye. Kwakhona, akukho njongo ebomini, uluvo lwakhe kwaye ufuna ukunyamekela nokunyamekela. Abafazi abuthathaka bajonga njani kwiingcamango?
Amadoda aziphatha njengomntu obuthakathaka ngesondo angahlula kwiindidi ezininzi:
- "Unyana wamama". Njengomthetho, bakhula kwiintsapho ezingaphelelanga phantsi kokunyamekela kokubeleka komama okanye kwintsapho epheleleyo kunye nonina okhohlakeleyo, apho yonke intsapho iphantsi. Olu hlobo lomntu obuthathaka lufanelekile kumfazi olawulayo osetyenziswa ukulawula nokuthatha izigqibo.
- Indoda ekhululekile. Uzenza ngathi ubuthathaka ukuba angayithatha uxanduva. Enyanisweni, unokufikelela eninzi. Unokwenza, ngoko umntu obuthakathaka uya kuba namandla kwaye anqume ukuba uyayeka ukuthatha yonke into kuwe. Kodwa kukho umngcipheko wokuba umntu uya kufumana omnye oza kubamba iintlobo zeengxaki ezinjengawe.
- Uvakalelwa. Amadoda asweleyo kweli nqanaba aqheleke afunyanwe phakathi kwabantu bokudala. Banobubele, abathandanayo, abanengqondo ngokubona oko kwenzekayo, kodwa abayithandi.
- Ukuzimela. Bahlazeka ekubeni benze izigqibo, ngokubhekiselele kubomi bomntu, ngoko ayikhuthazwa ukuba bakhe ubudlelwane nabo.
Izimpawu zomntu obuthathaka:
- ukuzithemba rhoqo;
- ezininzi izizathu zokungahambi;
- ufuna umlondolozi womntu;
- ayinako ukuphatha imali;
- kuxhomekeke kwimidlalo yekhompyutha;
- ukuya kwizinto ezilula kakhulu ezithatha ngokungathí sina, ngelixa ekhetha ukukhalaza, ukuba angaphathwa;
- ngxolise inxaxheba kunye nenkunkuma endala.
Iindawo ezinqongqo zingabantu bonke. Elowo nalowo unayo eyakhe, kodwa kukho izibalo eziqhelekileyo zesimo esinobuninzi:
- abameli be-so-called sobini abanamandla:
- ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yiloluhlu olubuthathaka lwabantu abaninzi;
- uloyiko lokungabikho;
- ukwesaba ukwehluleka ngokwesini;
- indawo ebuthakathaka yamadoda kukuba ukwesaba ukwenza amaphutha;
- ukwesaba utshintsho, ngokuqhelekileyo ukwanda ngokudala;
- ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli;
- kubonakala ngathi ayihlaziyi okanye ayinelanga ngokwaneleyo.
Umfazi oqinileyo uyinkxaso yendoda ebuthathaka kwaye le nyunyana inokubambisana kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuqhubela phambili umnqamlezo phezu kwakhe ngumbuzo ovulekile.