Kukho iimeko xa uvakalelwa ngothando lomlingane ozayo, kwaye ke umbuzo uvela, ndenze ntoni emva koko? Enye into enokuqiniseka ukuba ukuba ufuna indlela yokuphuma kule meko, ke kukho ithuba lokulungisa yonke into, into ephambili kukuba ukwazi ukuba yisiphi isiqondiso sokuhamba.
Andiyithandi indoda yam ukuba yenzeni - iingcebiso zesazi sengqondo
Ingxaki efanayo iya kwenzeka emva kweminyaka emininzi yokuhlala kunye, xa iimvakalelo zokuqala ziphela. Ukuba awuzange ushiye intsapho, ke kukho ithuba lokubuyisela yonke into.
Kuthekani ukuba andithandi umyeni wam kwakhona?
- Musa ukuthelekisa umlingane nabanye. Zininzi iingxaki ngenxa yokuba umntu unendoda ecebileyo, enhle kakhulu, enengqiqo, njl. Kubalulekile ukushiya le mkhuba, ngenxa yokuba wawuthande umntu osondeleyo, oko kuthetha ukuba kukho iinkalo ezininzi ezintle kuyo.
- Zama ukuphinda uphinde uthanda. Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi bahlushwa yinyaniso yokuba abayithandi umyeni wabo, kodwa kukho abantwana, ngoko abazi ukuba benzani kuloo meko. Amantombazana anamhlanje anika lonke ixesha kunye neemvakalelo zabo zokusebenza kunye nabantwana, belibale ngomntu osondeleyo. Le mpazamo enkulu, ekhokelela ekuqhawuleni umtshato. Zama ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nosapho lwakho, umzekelo, ukuya kwendalo, kwipaki yokuzonwabisa, ulungiselele ukutya kweentsapho, njl njl.
- Abaninzi bancedwa ngonyango oluthusayo, oku kuthetha ukuhlukana kwesikhashana. Oku kungenziwa uhambo lwezorhwebo, iholide okanye ikhefu kunye nabazali. Into ephambili kukuchitha ubuncinane iiveki ezimbalwa kwaye uzame ukuthetha. Eli xesha liwanele ukuhlalutya imeko kunye nokuqonda indlela yokuqhubeka.
Ukuba kukho iingcinga malunga nento yokwenza ukuba "andithandi umyeni omhle", ngoko, ngombono weengqondo zeengqondo, ingxoxo engathethekiyo iya kunceda. Kwimeko yokuzola, xelela umlingani wakho oko akukwaneliseki, okokushiyayo, xelela ngemvakalelo kunye namava. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuhamba okunjalo kunokutshintsha kakhulu imeko kwaye uvuselele iimvakalelo .