Ngamanye amaxesha kukho iingxaki emtshatweni njengokuba umyeni eqala ukusela, aphule izandla zakhe okanye emva kokuzalwa komntwana kuqala ukusalala ebusuku kwaye angabuyi ekhaya. Ibhinqa kule ngxaki iyayiqonda ukuba ayikwazi ukunyamezela konke oku, ngoko kunomnqweno wokuyeka zonke ezi ntlungu. Kodwa umbuzo oyintloko yindlela yokuphuma kumyeni kunye nosana. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uphendule, kufuneka uqonde indlela yokuqala ukugqiba umyeni wakhe. Kwaye oku kukho iingcebiso ezininzi.
Unokugqiba njani ukushiya kumyeni kunye nomntwana?
Thatha izigqibo ezibalulekileyo, kubandakanywa nombandela wokushiya umyeni wakhe, akudingeki ukuba ube nomsindo kwaye uphelelwe ithemba, kodwa kukugqwesileyo kubo bonke "kwintloko yentloko." Ngoko, indlela yokuthatha isigqibo:
- Cinga ngezinto ezilungileyo kunye ezimbi ezikulo ubomi kunye. Cinga ngendlela eya kuba ngabanye ngayo. Kuphela emva koko, umntu kufuneka abhekane nenyaniso.
- Asikho isidingo sokuthi umyeni unelungelo lokuba umyeni wakhe ngenxa yokuba isimo sakhe sengqondo esibi sisiphumo somsebenzi. Emva koko, umlingane onothando uyamthanda umfazi phantsi kweemeko.
- Kubalulekile ukufumana ithemba lakho kwikamva emva kokushiya umyeni wakho. Ngaba ulungele ukufundisa umntwana wedwa?
- Ukucinga ukuba zonke iinketho zokuphucula ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe ziye zazama?
Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba ngaphambi kokuba ucinge ngendlela yokuphuma kumyeni nomntwana, kufuneka uzame ukugcina intsapho nangayiphi na indlela.
Kuphi ukushiya kumyeni kunye nomntwana?
Ukuba ngokukhawuleza kwakukho imeko enje ukuba wanquma ukushiya umyeni wakho kwaye uthatha umntwana, kodwa akukho ndawo uhamba kuyo, kufuneka ucinge ngenyameko malunga nendlela yokulungisa imeko yakho. Ewe, ukuba umntwana sele sele eya kwi-kindergarten, unokufumana umsebenzi kwaye uqeshise indlu. Okanye unako ukuboleka imali kubahlobo bakho ngokuqeshisa. Ukuba umntwana unonyamekela, unokuqesha umntanakho kwaye ufumane umsebenzi omhle ukuze ube nakho okwaneleyo kuyo yonke into. Okanye, njengokuba ukhetha, unokuqeshisa indlu kunye nomhlobo.