Sinoyika kakhulu ukufunda iNdlu yekhulu le-16, kwaye sizibuza ukuba ubudlova bekuninzi kwintsapho. Abasetyhini banokupheliswa ngokusemzimbeni nasemzimbeni. Nangona kunjalo, nangona le mihla ayisakucinywa: iintsapho zikhona apho indoda yindoda yengqondo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela umntu onjalo ngexesha lokuba enze isigqibo, enolwazi lonke.
Iimpawu zendoda enobuqili yengqondo
Ukuba sithetha nge-psychology yomyeni wesibindi, ngoko ke injongo yakhe ephambili ngamandla. Akazibheki njengentloko yentsapho, kodwa phantse umnini wazo onke amalungu omkhaya, kwaye uyaqiniseka ukuba kufuneka enze kuphela oko akuvumele. Khawuqwalasele iimpawu eziphambili zendoda enobuqili:
- Ubeka umfazi wakhe kwindawo exhomekeke kuyo-impahla kunye nengqondo.
- Ugxeka nayiphi na inyathelo, kulula ukuzilahla.
- Uthetha ngokugqithisileyo kwaye engabonakaliyo.
- Akathethi okanye abuze, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ufuna nokukhala.
- Kwabaninzi kubo ngokuqhelekileyo ukubetha umfazi.
- Akakwazi ukuthokoza, kuhlala kudala ukuba wenze into engalunganga.
- Njengomthetho, umntu onjalo-utywala, umlutha weziyobisi, umdlali, nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha kwiinqanaba zokuqala.
- Akaze aphendule ngamagama akhe kwaye akazalisekisi izithembiso zakhe.
- Uyakwenqabela ukuthetha nabahlobo okanye intsapho.
- Uyakhupha amahlaya angalunganga kwicala lakho, kwaye xa ukhubekile, uhlala usenetyala - ngenxa yokungabi nento yokuhlekisa.
- Unokuba nomona ongenasiphelo, uhlazise kwaye ujezise ngokungafezekanga mthetho.
- Uhlala ekhumbuza ukuba ngubani oyena mkhulu wendlu.
- Uyazimela ngemali, engavumeli ukulahlwa kwemali.
Ukwazi ukuba yiyiphi impawu yokuba indoda yindoda engumngane , uyakwazi ukubona ukuba iqabane lakho lilolu hlobo. Ukuba ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha sezinto zihambelana, oku kuphawu olubi kakhulu. Yintoni enokuyenza xa indoda ingumtyholi, uthatha isigqibo. Kodwa uyazi, aba bantu abaguquki. Yaye ukuba ngaba awufuni ukuhlala ehlazo lobomi bakho, kulula ukuhamba ngoku.